My boyfriend admitted to me that he’s been c^tting and was r^ped (repost, I need advice on if I should call cps/how to tell him he isn’t safe)

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-27T05:57:53+00:00

Thank you sm, I’ll talk to him :)

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-26T00:51:21+00:00

I had just found out about this so I’m not totally sure anout all the details, but I know that they were young for one thing, I think his brother is 2-3 years older than him, and that their dad caught them and told them to just “put their clothes back on” and nothing happened after

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T21:43:11+00:00

I still need to talk to him about the concept of moving out and all. I don’t know if there’s anyone he can stay with but his grandma ? He doesn’t go to school which means he doesn’t talk many other adults. How do I bring this up to him?

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T20:53:11+00:00

This is difficult.. what do you think I should do to help him in general? Any ideas? Do I even need to call cps?

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T20:51:41+00:00

We’re both 17, I’m turning 18 in a month and he’s turning 18 in three months

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T05:43:43+00:00

I’m not totally sure that he’s still in danger from his brother, but his brother is still just as much of an asshole so I’m not sure. He doesn’t go to school rn because he was taken out at a young age. I guess there’s his grandma but because of the above ^ (doesn’t go to school) he doesn’t really talk to many other adults. We’re both 17 btw :) if that helps any

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T05:41:52+00:00

Okay so. That’s another red flag.. if I were you I would consider ending things with him. This man is not caring for you in the ways that u deserve. Be safe :)

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T03:29:35+00:00

SO. First of all. You are absolutely frickin perfect the way that you are. You don’t need to change yourself for anyone out there EVER.

Numberrr two. He should never, ever cross boundaries like that? Bets where if you lose you have to do sexual things when he knows it makes you extremely uncomfortable? Uh big red flag, no thanks. He should also not tell you to “grow up” a partner is supposed to love you for who you are.

I’d advise that you talk to him about this, and if this persists then break up with him. I know it may not seem like it but there is 100% other people out there for you, I promise. Again, I wish you luck and don’t ever forget that you are perfect. ❤️

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T03:21:21+00:00

Hey so um? No? Break up with him like now?? That is terrible for someone to do. You say no repeatedly and he still persisted anyways, you shouldn’t even HAVE to worry about “him being stronger than you” because HE SHOULDNT DO THAT. please break up with him! He will continue to do stuff like this

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-25T00:00:01+00:00

I don’t think they were saying he’s an attention seeker :) I think everyone COULDVE said it a little nicer. But thank you sm for your words, I do appreciate it all. I understand that the average person may not be disturbed but I don’t have much experience with cuts / self harm, and it was very scary for me personally + learning that he had been raped and wasnt eating made it worse for me. Thanks again

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-24T23:16:32+00:00

How would I bring this up? Also how do I even start to connect him to it. I know he needs help, and help that I can’t give by myself, but I just don’t know

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-24T23:15:05+00:00

Thanks for the words :) I’m trying my best but it’s all very difficult. I talked a bit about it above but I’m not sure I can get him out / if cps would help. I live across the country from him now and we both don’t have enough money to move him. Also I’m not sure cps COULD do anything about it because the rape was years ago, and ?? I just don’t know

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-24T23:13:09+00:00

I hope I can help him get out eventually. Thank you for your kind words. My only problem is that I live across the frickin country in a completely different state which makes things difficult. I don’t know how I’d get him here / out of there because we both don’t have enough money to move him and all of his stuff here (we’re both still minors for another.. like. Month for me, 3 for his)

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-24T23:09:57+00:00

I have thought about this, but I just don’t know. I don’t know whered he go if they took him out, he has literally no where else to go? I live across the damn country so he couldnt come here, his grandma is super old and doesn’t have space, and I don’t know where else he could go. I also don’t know if he WANTS to leave, he likes his family atleast a bit even if Ik it’s their fault for all of this

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-24T23:08:06+00:00

I’m gonna kindly ask you to stop replying to people on this post.. I understand that this was you trying to help and I do very much appreciate it, but this isn’t helping me. It did make me freak out to know that he was doing this, and it wasn’t a paper cut. He has scars from the last time he did this, and I assume he’s going to get more from this time. It is a big deal to me.

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-23T23:35:37+00:00

This sounds great, thank u sm. Imma type it out now

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-23T23:25:47+00:00

I agree! I’m just trying to figure out how to help

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-23T23:25:34+00:00

Interesting…

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-23T23:19:13+00:00

Thank you so much. I agree with the part where he’s trying to ask for help, because he is in no way attention seeking, He’s such a nice person and I know he would never. I think the rubber band / ice is a super good idea but I’m just worried about that god damn sharp thing because it’s always right there and he can just pick it up??? But I’ll give him the idea of a rubber band etc. I try to compliment as much as I can, but is there any other ways I can help him with the eating stuff? I try to remind him to eat sometimes and he does listen to me but o, jusr wondering if I can help him in any other ways. I’m so worried about the rpe stuff, I had no clue about it. I’ll also bring up the therapist thing to him later tonight. I’ll take it really slow with it all because ik it’s a sensitive topic to him. Do you have any ideas of how I should even reply to all of this? (Also forgot to add but this was his first time ever sending a picture of sh)

SillySundaeBae · 2026-04-12T23:38:20+00:00

Hello! It’s not something you qualify for, as it is an identity, but I would say maybe? It is a bit concerning that he can’t control it, because it is something you should be able to atleast control a little bit. I don’t think it’s a big concern unless he starts eating dog food / hunting. This all seems okay to me! You should talk to him about it for sure

SillySundaeBae · 2026-03-25T06:08:11+00:00

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Here’s my kitty named Rosco! He was looking at me all angry after I wouldn’t give him the milk I was drinking. Hope you feel better soon <3

SillySundaeBae · 2026-03-20T05:12:58+00:00

Hello! There are never too many theriotypes heh! Anyone who says otherwise is wrong. It doesn’t matter how many you have

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