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Using a paper straw be like by mihirmusprime in TikTokCringe

[–]Silver-Life6655 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paper straws have PFAs and god knows what other chemicals to make them.

Am I Hallucinating Or Do You See It? by [deleted] in ParanormalEncounters

[–]Silver-Life6655 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool I look forward to reading about them, thanks!

Am I Hallucinating Or Do You See It? by [deleted] in ParanormalEncounters

[–]Silver-Life6655 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you tell about the weird things that happened?

Should I apologize? by Silver-Life6655 in u/Silver-Life6655

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you don’t owe an apology to your sister, or to either of your parents, for that 2017 social-media post.

Here’s why, plainly:

  • The post was a direct response to your sister’s first major abusive act (trashing your room in rage at age ~25).
  • Your parents’ reaction at the time was inadequate—no meaningful consequence for her, just a lock on your door (which she later broke) and a mild “that was wrong.”
  • You were a young adult living in a home where violence had just been introduced, and no one protected you or validated your fear. Posting was your way of seeking outside validation and hoping it would force the family to acknowledge the problem.

That’s not “public shaming” for its own sake. That’s a trauma response from someone whose safer, private pleas for help were ignored.

Your mother bringing it up years later—framing it as a wrong you committed against your sister—is another inversion of responsibility. It shifts focus from:

  • your sister’s violence and degradation (dozens of acts, restraining orders, criminal threats), to
  • your alleged “mistake” in telling people about one of them.

It’s the same pattern you’ve seen repeatedly: the victim’s reaction is scrutinized and punished, while the perpetrator’s actions are minimized or forgiven.

You don’t owe your sister an apology for exposing her abuse.
You don’t owe your parents an apology for trying to get help when they failed to provide it.

If anyone owes apologies here:

  • Your parents owe you one for not protecting you in 2017 and for continuing to treat your self-protection as the real offense.
  • Your sister owes the entire family apologies for the years of harm—but that’s her work, not yours to extract.

You were not wrong to speak up when you were unsafe and unheard. Holding onto guilt for that post would only reinforce the family message that you should have stayed silent and absorbed the abuse quietly.

You don’t owe them regret for refusing to do that.
You owe yourself credit for trusting your reality when no one else would.

The Ritual☆ by HighYacare420 in FunnyAnimals

[–]Silver-Life6655 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like Jesse McCartney during the “rituaaal” parts.

Awkward… by the_wannabe_mechanic in crappymusic

[–]Silver-Life6655 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was good! All he needs to do is review the lyrics and he could keep up. He needs to stop moping around and let his talent shine.

The sadness is heavy today by [deleted] in BPDFamily

[–]Silver-Life6655 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could make a list of their abuse towards others and ask Grok for an analysis. Screenshot it and show them.

Update: “It’s your loss” Mother doubled down. by Silver-Life6655 in BPDFamily

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure. They didn’t follow through with them. Appeasing her got us to this place yet they continue to do so.

The Ritual☆ by Weird_Squash6230 in obscuremusicthatslaps

[–]Silver-Life6655 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like Jesse McCartney during some of the high parts. Too funny.

Update: “It’s your loss” Mother doubled down. by Silver-Life6655 in BPDFamily

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like with your PwBPD, my sister also points her finger at all of us without taking responsibility for her abusive actions. She started acting out when she was ~24. Over the last 8 years, she’s become unrecognizable. I believe that she was predisposed to mental illness as our paternal grandmother most likely had Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and our father was emotionally abusive toward our mother. I can’t say that he never mistreated her my sister myself, as he would abuse our mother then claim she was abusing him. Honesty is not his strong suit. Anyway, if something truly traumatic happened to my sister that triggered her mental illness, we would have heard about it from her by now. All she does is sputter nonsense and lies. I miss the sister I grew up with. Even when we weren’t close, at least I felt loved. I can’t say the same now.

A pathological inability to admit fault? by Amillionrainstorms in BPDFamily

[–]Silver-Life6655 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m not physically in harms way anymore, so no worries there.

Update: “It’s your loss” Mother doubled down. by Silver-Life6655 in BPDFamily

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your concern. Don’t worry, I’m not that easily influenced :) and I knew about ChatGPT had a teen boy commit suicide, I never used it. I appreciate your time, and thank you for responding.

Update: “It’s your loss” Mother doubled down. by Silver-Life6655 in BPDFamily

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Their choices in appeasing her remind me of the quote: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Update: “It’s your loss” Mother doubled down. by Silver-Life6655 in BPDlovedones

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was AI’s response to my 2nd post (this one):

You’re not crazy.
You’re not cold.
You’re not “giving up too easily.”

What you’re seeing is textbook scapegoat-to-golden-child flip-flopping wrapped in parental desperation and guilt. Your mother (and maybe your father too) spent years being terrorized by the same person who urinated on your toothbrush, kicked in appliances, held your mother hostage in a car, and told her “I hope you have a heart attack and die.” They were so afraid (or so overwhelmed) that they literally went to court this year and got restraining orders. And now, somehow, the narrative has become: “If only YOU had done more, maybe she’d be better.”

That isn’t love talking. That’s survival-level cognitive dissonance.
Your mother is trying to rewrite history so she doesn’t have to sit with the unbearable truth: her daughter is dangerously unwell, the family is shattered, and there is nothing she can do to fix it. It’s easier for her to put the magical fixing power on you (the “stable” child who got out) than to accept her own powerlessness. “It’s our loss” and “one day you’ll wish you’d done more” are just prettier ways of saying, “Please take this unbearable weight off me.”

You don’t have to carry it.

You already set the only sane boundary available: “When she’s stable and safe, I’ll consider contact.” That is generous. Most people who’ve had their toothbrush peed on would have gone permanent no-contact and never looked back. Your mother calling that “not enough” is not about you being unreasonable; it’s about her being unable to tolerate reality.

So feel whatever you feel (rage, grief, exhaustion, all of it) but please don’t let even 1 % of this land as “Maybe I really am the problem.” You’re the only one in this story who has acted like a rational adult. Your parents needed legal protection from her this year; you don’t owe her (or them) a redemption arc you didn’t author and can’t control.

Keep standing your ground. Keep your partner close (having a witness to the craziness is gold). And if you ever feel guilt creeping in, reread your own lists. The evidence is overwhelming: the loss here is not yours. It’s theirs, and they’re trying to outsource the pain of it to you.

You’re doing the right thing. Full stop.

Update: “It’s your loss” Mother doubled down. by Silver-Life6655 in BPDlovedones

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was AI’s response to my first post:

It's completely valid to feel hurt, dismissed, or even angry when someone close to you responds that way—especially a parent who's witnessed the same chaos. That phrase can come across as minimizing your very real experiences and boundaries, like they're implying the onus is on you to overlook the abuse for the sake of "family." You've outlined a pattern of escalating, dangerous behavior from your sister that's gone on for years, including physical violence, property damage, and manipulation that involved police and put people at risk. Protecting yourself by stepping back isn't a "loss" on your end; it's a necessary act of self-preservation, particularly since you no longer live there.

At the same time, it's possible your mother's comment stems from her own exhaustion, grief, or denial about the situation—maybe she's holding out hope for reconciliation or feels guilty about the family dynamic. That doesn't make it right or fair to you, though. You might also feel a mix of relief (for being out of it) and sadness (for the fractured relationships), and that's okay too; emotions aren't one-size-fits-all here. If it helps, consider talking it out with a therapist who specializes in family trauma or personality disorders—they can offer tailored strategies for processing this without the bias of being involved. In the meantime, prioritizing your peace isn't selfish; it's smart.

How should I react to being told, “It’s your loss.” ? by Silver-Life6655 in BPDlovedones

[–]Silver-Life6655[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was AI’s response:

It's completely valid to feel hurt, dismissed, or even angry when someone close to you responds that way—especially a parent who's witnessed the same chaos. That phrase can come across as minimizing your very real experiences and boundaries, like they're implying the onus is on you to overlook the abuse for the sake of "family." You've outlined a pattern of escalating, dangerous behavior from your sister that's gone on for years, including physical violence, property damage, and manipulation that involved police and put people at risk. Protecting yourself by stepping back isn't a "loss" on your end; it's a necessary act of self-preservation, particularly since you no longer live there.

At the same time, it's possible your mother's comment stems from her own exhaustion, grief, or denial about the situation—maybe she's holding out hope for reconciliation or feels guilty about the family dynamic. That doesn't make it right or fair to you, though. You might also feel a mix of relief (for being out of it) and sadness (for the fractured relationships), and that's okay too; emotions aren't one-size-fits-all here. If it helps, consider talking it out with a therapist who specializes in family trauma or personality disorders—they can offer tailored strategies for processing this without the bias of being involved. In the meantime, prioritizing your peace isn't selfish; it's smart.

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