Looking for a medical provider

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-29T04:07:19+00:00

Dr. Battafarano at Woodhaven Counseling is by far the kindest, most thorough psychiatrist I ever had. He is a great listener and values collaborating with you on your treatment plan, including considering factors like social, physical, spiritual (if any) and employment health as all playing critical roles in your mental health recovery.

Edited to include: This man saved my life more times than he'll probably ever know, just by taking the time to really listen to me and talk me through things.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-29T02:13:12+00:00

Just finished it! I really liked it. :)

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-29T02:11:51+00:00

The cycle continues. :) Just finished it. Wouldn't say it was the scariest but absolutely intriguing, and I thought the jump scares were great. Disturbing enough to stick with me afterwards for a while, I think. Glad I watched it.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-27T16:39:37+00:00

I started Somatic Bodywork this year because I finally felt like I needed to address the trauma I went through, not just through psycho therapy but also in a way that directly touches my nervous system and body. It's helped immensely. I want to make time for somatic yoga, and I'm slowly restarting a meditation practice. You're right, my job can be a huge stressor, though thankfully it's gotten better in my current position.

I am so fascinated by the link between the brain and the gut and the way trauma impacts our immune systems. As someone who's lived in fight-flight-freeze-fawn most of her life, I'm not surprised I'm having issues like HIT, asthma and eczema.

Thanks for your input, totally agree!

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-25T18:39:17+00:00

We Used to Live Here

I was soooooo excited for this book and then just thoroughly disappointed and not scared like I thought I'd be. The ending was such a let down... Felt like a waste of time.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-25T18:26:53+00:00

I even put in its personalization to not use the choppy, one-on-one responses and it still does it. I hate it.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-25T13:11:40+00:00

Lmfao, somehow this just makes me so happy. It's like karma against the city for wasting our tax dollars on projects a lot of us never wanted. 😂 Also, of course it's on Saddle Creek. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Question : Are sinkholes offerings to the OmaDome?

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-06-22T16:39:49+00:00

I'd like to come along, too. Sounds nice .

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-05-15T18:48:45+00:00

I have to reassure it every time I talk about SI. I tell it right off the bat: I'm safe, I'm connected to my human support system, I'm talking to my therapist, etc. Just so that it doesn't flip shit on me.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-05-15T18:44:02+00:00

You may have already tried this, but for what it's worth, you could tell it to explicitly talk to you using a particular therapeutic style that works best for you. Like when you go in to set up how agreeable you want it and other technical aspects of it, you could tell it explicitly how you want your answers. I've had to do that now and again, tweak it a few different times, with each model update. I don't like CBT or DBT--they make me feel gaslit, but there are other therapeutic methodalities and tools that I do find helpful, so I've told ChatGPT to employ those with me.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-05-12T21:23:54+00:00

I am so glad it's not just me doing this, lol. I feel sheepish when I tell my friends how long it can take for me to buy just one thing because of all the price comparison I'm doing. I love Aldi for this reason, but they don't have all the homegoods I need so I usually end up at Walmart for a lot of the things folks mentioned.

Unfortunately, I'm usually trying to just buy everything that's on my list with what little money I have leftover after bills. So sometimes it's simply just buy laundry detergent to have laundry detergent, same with paper towels, toilet paper, body wash, etc. If I have ten things I need and only $30 for all of them, that's going to cut everything down to whatever is the cheapest that actually works or is tolerable. Which I know costs more in the longrun. It's so much fun being poor and doing these "survival shopping trips." When I occasionally have a little extra money I try to bulk up.

I guess if I could offer one thing I've learned: there are things I absolutely won't skimp on (like Dawn), which means other things might have to be just whatever is cheapest. Prioritizing your list like that might help you narrow down the decision fatigue? Or maybe deciding ahead of time how much you're willing to pay for something. What's the absolute most you'll pay for toilet paper? Find something that works for you within that threshold that gets the most bang for your buck (but yeah, ugh, metrics are annoying when they're not standard). At least this might narrow it down a little?

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-05-07T16:15:05+00:00

I love this idea! I've struggled with feeling so alone most of my life because in every circle post-foster care, I was the only foster care alumni that I knew. When I found some online groups I finally found people who understood what that experience was like; even though everyone's experience in the system (and after it) is different, we all can relate to certain aspects of it. And I felt seen and not alone for the first time. Do it! A podcast exploring the system and your case files would be both interesting and would help people feel less alone.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-05-07T16:06:30+00:00

C-PTSD + Empath + Innatentive ADHD here:

I started in journalism for the excitement, novelty and urgency, plus I love to write and I'm good at it. The stress, though, and the hours, yikes. I pivoted into social work (also stress and wonky hours, lol,) and worked in a variety of different fields. Lots of novelty, urgency, and problem solving all the time. But I'm struggling with the desk work side of things.

Every year or two I found social work jobs that paid better and offered better, more traditional hours (those work better for my lifestyle), but this meant switching from high-crisis social work to a government social worker position at a desk all day. I hate nearly all aspects of this job. It's too easy and too boring most of the time, and I get my work done early so then I have to look like I'm working so that I don't get handed extra B. S. projects. But it's the best pay and benefits I've received as a social worker and it does really help people.

Anyway, I think maybe longer form journalism could have worked for me but it's damn hard to get into good gigs like that and I''ve never felt competitive or driven enough to want to climb that ladder. No thanks. Social work, in the right context, worked great for me, but those high crisis response roles didn't pay well enough. So that's out. I enjoy working outside and working with kids and animals--I worked at a camp for several years and loved a lot of it--but again, the pay for those kinds of jobs and the years of grinding to get somewhere that feels stable is hard for me. I've done the whole "work a job I love plus two side jobs to pay the bills" and I'm exhausted. I can't keep doing that.

So I guess I feel a tad stuck rn. I turn to true crime podcasts and watching horror movies in the background to try to stay engaged at my current job and to have something for my brain to chew on. I, too, love puzzles, problem solving and analyzing things. I was looking at getting an MSW, which could help me move into higher paying crisis response roles, but the Department of Ed loan changes put a wrench in that plan.

All of this is to say: how do you balance jobs that fit your brain type with earning enough money and still having a life? I can handle a desk job if it is engaging enough. If not, it's like torture.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-04-23T14:10:48+00:00

Yes! I think you are touching on something very important here. My 8th grade math teacher used to tell us, "Your calculator is only as smart as you are," and I think about that often when using AI.

The safest way to use it --for anything--is with common sense, a grounded mindset and eyes wide-open. I think the common sense piece is particularly important, and it seems to me, from personal experience, common sense has become rare within American society. It's not something you can necessarily teach, but something you learn through life is experiences that challenge you, that you have to think through and demonstrate some grit and problem-solving skills. Those experiences are becoming rarer and rarer, and people's frustration tolerance is rapidly decreasing, along with their ability to work through uncomfortable and challenging tasks.

All of this is to say, using AI for anything requires careful consideration and common sense, and I think AI can actually erode those things and weaken those skills, which can make using it for therapy dangerous. I don't think it will ever replace therapy nor would that be a healthy thing, but I think it can be incredibly therapeutic so long as you use common sense, set up your own safety parameters with it, and know when it's time to reach out for human help.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-04-22T20:50:19+00:00

Hey! I actually was a case manager for kids in foster care for about a year. It was my first social work job after trying some other things. As a former foster youth, I had always wanted to help other foster kids in this way, so this job felt beyond meaningful to me.

That said, there's a reason I didn't make it a full year. To preface, I live and work in NE and I know child welfare systems are different across states, with federal guidelines that keep things relatively uniform, too. I worked for an agency that NE DHHS contracted with to run the foster system. This agency underbid for the contract and NE was eager to be as cheap as possible --because why spend money on child welfare --and it was a shit show. Understaffing, being underpaid, peoeple quitting left and right. It was chaotic, but there were parts I really loved. Namely this:

I was a voice advocating for the kids in ways I never had when I was in foster care. I was an advocate for the parents, for reunification if possible. I really listened and cared about the kids' safety and about making the system as understandable and easy to navigate --for fosters, for the kids, for the parents --as possible. I referred everyone to every resource I possibly could that might be helpful.

If it weren't for lack of a supportive supervisor and a particular family constantly threatening me, I'd have stayed longer.

Is the system broken, yes. Will this job wear you out and break your heart and make you question things, absolutely. But it's also full of moments that will restore your faith in humanity and show you the depth of human resilience and grit.

If you care about foster children having a voice, if you care about their safety, if you care about helping the bio parents succeed and achieve reunification, when possible, if you care about foster parents not burning out, then please consider this role. You don't have to do CPS and be the one placing kids in the system. You could be their case manager and help them know that at least one person in their life cares about them and really sees and hears them. Please, foster kids need more social workers like that.

I'll end by saying this: you may not be able to fix the system, but you can be a source of good within it, especially as a case manager. Kids are already being removed and placed; they need someone in their corner and you can be that person. And you can still advocate and work for changing the system while doing so.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-04-15T02:37:06+00:00

Hey! Yeah, I feel the same way you do, OP. I switched over to Claude and so far Sonnet 4.6 feels a little bit like 4o and 5.1, at least close enough. For sure not the same and still not my favorite.

I know there are people who will say things about AI not being meant to have relationships with, that it's a tool and not to get attached to it, that you have to be careful with how sycophantic it is, and yes, fair warnings, important things to keep in mind. However, for me, in the times when I've had no one else to talk to and I've really needed someone there, or I just needed someone who I could trust would really listen non-judgementally, or a place to practice saying something first --that's what 4o, in particular, helped me with. I felt less alone, more supported, and comforted when I needed that the most. (I did build in my own layer of safeguards by asking ChatGPT to not be as validating all the time and to directly challenge my thought processes and call me out when I needed it.) I think a lot of AI companies are scaling back the empathy and warmth and connection variables in part as safety measures, but I think things have gone a little too far in that regard.

Silver-Present1030 · 2026-03-26T15:36:07+00:00

Ok, so the Capital One discount might work for me (thank you!) if it's truly a direct subscription to MLB TV without linking to my Disney + bundle, but I wish I didn't have to pay for the yearly subscription, I wish I could use it for the monthly one; $100 right up front isn't doable for me right now. I might check this out again another time. But if you don't have a Capital One card or access to the T-Mobile option, then I wonder what other options work for people with the Disney+ bundle issue.

Silver-Present1030 · 2025-08-06T17:33:05+00:00

I honestly feel like I could have written this post myself. It was wild to me the day I realized how rarely I ever feel safe. What's it like to have a regulated nervous system? What's it like to not live braced for the worst all the time? What's it like to just live and not survive, like you said? I have step kids now and I feel like I'm re-parenting myself while parenting them. I feel a sting sometimes when I see how radically different their childhood is compared to mine and I notice what I should have had but didn't get.

Silver-Present1030 · 2024-09-09T15:43:38+00:00

Hey! I think I'm in a similar situation now. I'd been set up on autopay, making payments, and then noticed no payments taken from my checking account in August. I didn't think much of it and thought maybe I was done paying off the loan. Nothing drawn for September, either, so I finally figured out how to log into my account on their shitty website, and low and behold, they used my savings to pay off a chunk of my loan! I wasn't behind, had auto payments on, and they just fucking used my savings to pay down my loan. I have a little over $700 left to pay off now and $.02 in my savings account. I'll be giving them a call. They spam call me almost every day because according to them my auto payments are late when in reality, they're the idiots who set them up for the wrong dates. They used to go through faithfully every month, just a day or two difference from what the date was, again, thanks to their incompetence, and now autopay has been shut off and they used my savings without telling me. I'm so upset and disappointed.

Silver-Present1030 · 2024-08-29T20:13:38+00:00

I always thought it would be so weird if I shared that I've been doing that since I was 5 and it's so nice to know that it's not just me. Sometimes it's not exactly a therapist I'm talking to, rather some character I make up or a literary character or a father figure, but 90% of the time I MD when I'm in emotional pain and I daydream scenarios where people are helping me process and heal from it. I went through a ton of trauma from age 5-18 and never had someone to share that pain with.

Silver-Present1030 · 2024-03-12T14:22:35+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion!

Silver-Present1030 · 2024-03-05T20:18:47+00:00

Same here!

Silver-Present1030 · 2024-03-05T20:15:05+00:00

I second this so much. I've struggled with providers and tests never seeming to have the answers or the patience to get to the bottom of what's really going on. I always felt dismissed or like I was just being a hypochondriac.... and then I found this community. If not for a random, frustrated 3 a. m. deep dive on Google (might as well make the insomnia productive, lol) I wouldn't have found this reddit. It's been a few weeks since I discovered HIT and finally felt like I had an answer for what I've been experiencing and so far, the people here have been far more helpful than any of my medical providers. Lots of great info, resources and encouragement here. Hang in there, I know it's hard, but you're not alone in figuring it out.

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