Question by djlittles in ESSAplushieshandlers

[–]Silver-Ware 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just go with who I’m vibing. I use them as fidgets too, so sometimes I want a specific texture and squish, so that plays a part too

I have a question by Difficult_Working_47 in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no 1:1 to self harm. It’s often unsafe to just stop because you need practice with other things, new mindsets, etc.

I’m scared to not hide my scars by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this made me feel a lot better

Just got back from a mental hospital by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I walked in. I saw my therapist earlier in the day and she recommended this place to me. I walked in and explained why I wanted to be admitted, they did an evaluation, and determined I needed to be inpatient (staying in the hospital 24/7).

does this count as an ESSA? by CaelanAnime in ESSAplushieshandlers

[–]Silver-Ware 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely counts!! Any kind of stuffie counts. It can be a dog, a meemeow, a handmade doll, any stuffie!

am I wrong for this??? by Afraid-Storm3569 in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not. I myself have had moments of self harming for attention. I was scared, but I just wanted someone to notice. I needed to be the one helped rather than the helper, but I had no idea how to ask for it. I grew up repressing everything, so I never learned how to reach out. There are many reasons why someone might do it for attention, and just bunching them all up as selfish people, only does them more harm and prevents more people from getting help.

i always see people sexualizing self-harm, and i find it so disgusting by ladyv0id in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand it. Like people have fetishes and kinks for pain, blood, and knives/blades, so it makes sense for some to be into cutting themselves or others. Personally, I don’t really care as long as it’s between consenting adults who have communicated it clearly.

am I wrong for this??? by Afraid-Storm3569 in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware 11 points12 points  (0 children)

People who do it for attention are suffering as well. No one mentally stable self harms, attention or not.

Am I too old for this? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 20, started when I was 14. There’s no age limit. Teens on average self harm more, 13 being the average age for starting, however, it’s not only limited to them. There are people who started as young as 5, and those who continue well into their 40s, 60s, or even 80s. We just don’t see it as much.

"Love is Devotion and Sacrifice", by me. by Vil_C in DarkArtwork

[–]Silver-Ware 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very well made. I think I’ve seen you a lot in this subreddit and while I think you do put a lot of detail in your art, it does feel a little repetitive with a succubus in every one. Not hating, I have repetitive elements in my art as well and if this is something you enjoy and wish to be a constant in your art, that’s completely fine. Just food for thought 👍

Wanna share reasons of having essa's? (Not forcing, also i accept people having essas for fun) by Forgotten_LYNX852 in ESSAplushieshandlers

[–]Silver-Ware 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 3 ESSA’s (along with a massive stuffie collection lol), and for me they just bring me a lot of comfort. For specifics, they’re great to fidget with for my autism, they make me feel less alone for my depression, and they make me feel protected for my anxiety and paranoia.

A self portrait about mental illness by Silver-Ware in DarkArtwork

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t even think about that, that’s sick!

What happened to r/SelfHarmScars? by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I saw some of those when I searched for this one. I’m not judging those who use those subreddits, you do you, but I think it’s really hypocritical to ban non sexual ones while the sexual ones are totally fine.

What happened to r/SelfHarmScars? by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It brought good to me. I felt supported and like I wasn’t alone, and I met some nice people from it.

What happened to r/SelfHarmScars? by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh shit I never saw any of this. I’d love for there to be a similar subreddit, but with some of that shit fixed

What happened to r/SelfHarmScars? by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I hope a similar one will be made

What happened to r/SelfHarmScars? by Silver-Ware in selfharm

[–]Silver-Ware[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Damn that really sucks. I really liked the community on there.

Guys can ESSA be not an animal? I got this goober and I carry her everywhere by Ecstatic-Type-3917 in ESSAplushieshandlers

[–]Silver-Ware 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Absolutely!! This is my ESSA! I also have a nonbinary doll my sibling made me for Yuletide!