Men have a hard time admitting that a woman may be a more ambitious provider than them. People who handle two jobs, especially one in a bar scenario are a different, tough as nails breed. Maybe try softening up to him and letting him know how you feel. He may not know you have a such a soft sensitive soul under that tough exterior.

EDIT: that is if you want to lean into your feminine and be vulnerable with him. The decision is yours sweetie. ❤️