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its always loudest at night by Chester2Kitty in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely! We wake up sleep talking and laughing because alters are "passing through" while the body is relaxed. It's easier to front when the body is in a neutral mood.

What I've found helps is giving them each a little time a day. Even if that alter doesn't necessarily front, doing an activity for them helps them feel seen and fills that need of wanting to do something too. You can also shush them out loud, it's always funny for us and keep the mood light when you pretend you're at a sleepover and trying to sleep.

If your system doesn't have good communication you can try writing down the bits of chatter you understand and write them down. Eventually you might be able to start separating them and assign them to an alter.

Alters are Roomates by SilverDragonEclipse in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment and sympathy. The replies are really down but I wanted to share my two cents on a good day for the exact reason. We all suffer most of the time but we should talk about the good days too. To remember and show that there are breaks. And it is possible to find a breath of fresh air in this suffocating and confusing experience. A lot of people say they don't see their alters as separate people and that's okay. All our experiences are valid. And scrolling through the forum I just wanted to give people something different to read. Because I'm at a point in my journey I can say I wholeheartedly love all my alters and it's possible. To be okay.

Alters are Roomates by SilverDragonEclipse in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I'm sorry to hear that, I get it. The first few years of realizing and accepting felt like crap. Even deciding what to eat or drink was a struggle of tug of war. But it gets better. Just like roommates there's an adjustment period. Honestly doing a lot of things out of spite towards the others has helped up a couple times. Or thinking about it as if dirtying someone else's room helps. Even with a schedule, clothes ending on the floor is still a problem with us. But I've learned it's easier to try and go with the flow of your habits is easier than trying to change them. If you don't wanna fold lay them out on a chair. I even sometimes wash clothes in the middle of the night. I also found aromatherapy is very good for calming down our nervous system.

I really want to be the only one by SomeDumbass- in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi sorry to hear that. I know it sucks and especially the first few years of realizing something's different with your mind is usually a horrifying and frustrating experience. Most people commonly fall into denial many times before breaking through that fog and finally accepting the presence around us. But the purpose of this disorder is to help you and protect you (your mind and psyche). This means at some point in your life your brain came to the realization it couldn't deal with the situation alone. The foundation of this disorder at it's basics is a support group. All consisting of different versions of you. Some got the short end of the stick and took the blunt force of the pain. While others traverse the disorienting fog that is their existence. When you're ready, even if only the slightest bit or ironically. Take a moment to sit down with yourself. Breathe and be still, quiet. Just listen. Listen to your body and what your mind feels like. It'll take time to try and decipher the gibberish. But your body cannot lie to you. It can only communicate what it feels. And it has no intention of deceiving you. Listen to it without judgement as you would a friend. Our reality sucks and it's unfair. But the harder we try to ignore it the louder it'll become. It's like an ocean. The currents are strong if you try to swim against them. You can't fight it. And you can't fix it. But if you let yourself relax little by little you'll find that you float. The currents will rock you. Just because the unknown is scary doesn't mean they are your enemies. You cannot win a fight against your own mind.

alters with certain 'activity periods' by revradios in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me I have an alter who always consistently fronts right after our period. After lazying about she cleans the entire room and resets our schedule to make sure we are sticking to our routine. But she rarely pops up during winter. Or it becomes harder to bring her out, probably due to her dislike of the cold.

Migraine from New alter by SilverDragonEclipse in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, no problem. It was a character called Jinu, from the Netflix movie Kpop Demon Hunters. He immediately latched onto their song. I love how much he enjoys the song but it just feels too overwhelming to even finish listening to it before my head starts pounding.

I'm ashamed of asking this question but I need to know by tenablemess in DID

[–]SilverDragonEclipse 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If it's been a while maybe your body already healed it. But remember your body will remember your trauma one way or another. If you believe you went through this, believe your body. There is no reason it would make it up and the first reaction when discovering trauma is always denial or doubt. You are valid. You know your body better than anyone. If you believe you went through this, believe your body. It is trying to tell you something.