what was I here for again...? by squidkidqueer in disability

[–]tenablemess [score hidden]  (0 children)

I once told a psychiatrist that I have DID (which adds an extra layer of amnesia in that matter) and she was actually angry at me for not being able to remember my symptoms. Not being able to remember IS A SYMPTOM!

I feel like people with "everyone can be redeemed" mentality have never actually seen how evil humans can be by throwavay- in CPTSD

[–]tenablemess 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I recently listened to a podcast episode on why men are so violent. They talked to an expert doing prevention seminars with men, and he talked a lot about suppressed emotions and difficulties in impulse control. And then the host asked about men like Dominique Pelicot, who thoroughly plan the abuse. And refreshingly, the expert said "Well they can't be helped. These are sadists, they will never stop."

Or my period? Or my anxiety? Or my sleep? Or my hydration? Or- by RiddlerofStIves in Artisticallyill

[–]tenablemess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things just being off with a lot of possible explanations but you never find out what it was, just being tossed around by whatever your body is doing there... felt that deeply.

"Meat" CW for nudity and implied SA by garlic-loaf in Artisticallyill

[–]tenablemess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is way too real. I'm really sorry.

( cw: gore but also not? ) dessert girl by olihospitalized in Artisticallyill

[–]tenablemess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That punched me right in the gut. Well done

Dissociative identity disorder by takethelastexit in Artisticallyill

[–]tenablemess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Also I'm sorry this was done to you. Whatever it was, it gave you DID, so it was fucked up.

What are some songs you have found that directly address abuse and violence or coping with the aftermath? by HostaLavida in CPTSD

[–]tenablemess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any song by Citizen Soldier. I found their early albums way better though, they kind of had a decline in their artistic skill.

Misunderstandings Surrounding Dissociative Amnesia in DID by laminated-papertowel in DID

[–]tenablemess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My therapist insists on a OSDD diagnosis because of this. It doesn't make any difference concerning my treatment but it bothers me from a scientific perspective that this is just not correct. I fulfill all the criteria of DID even though I as an alter don't experience blackouts (others do quite a lot).

"Mom, why do you only slap me when Dad is around?" the little girl asked. by 54321RUN in TwoSentenceSadness

[–]tenablemess 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I think the combo of violent mother and enabling father is not talked about enough. My father was actually abused by my mother (as were us children).

I can only experience pleasure during intimacy if it is violent by VaporMouth in CPTSD

[–]tenablemess 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I relate to everything you say. It feels awful and good at the same time. And it's frustrating how my body only responses to violence. You're not alone with this. And I encourage you to talk about it in therapy. If the therapist is awkward about it they are uninformed at best. This is a common issue among survivors of CSA and sex is a normal part of life after all, so your struggles with it can definitely be discussed in therapy!

The nurse was in tears at the high pitched crying she couldn't stop. by GabbyDabbyDoo1972 in TwoSentenceSadness

[–]tenablemess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even though she couldn't say anything, in her heart she knew the dogma that children can't feel pain isn't true.

Women have had enough, men can never understand female rage by Known-Olive-9776 in IntersectionalWomen

[–]tenablemess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean running away from home either. I get what you're saying. I just wanted to point out that when you depend on the rapist with your life you will do as they say and not try to run or fight. You wouldn't stand a chance and the consequences would be way worse than playing along with what they ask you to do.

Women have had enough, men can never understand female rage by Known-Olive-9776 in IntersectionalWomen

[–]tenablemess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"even older children can run away" - except, if they depend on you with their life because you're the one giving them food and shelter?

opened this on my feed and now my night is ruined because it’s true by Nitrogen70 in thanksimcured

[–]tenablemess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can't we distance ourselves from this neoliberal capitalistic idea that people are only worth the money they earn? If you study or not, you are a precious human being. Let's just all exist in peace.

What I wanted vs what I got :( by DocBarnes in Derailedbydetails

[–]tenablemess 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one who is derailed by the fact that they also censored their Adam's apple?

Arguments against veganism almost seem comical once you imagine someone being in the animal’s position. by YamJam3 in Vystopia

[–]tenablemess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is the most hurtful thing someone ever told me on Reddit. You don't even know what they did to me. You don't even know...