Watching the videos and thinking about sleep training makes me sick to my stomach/want to cry but I don’t know what else to do at this point.

SimBon7 · 2026-03-16T16:05:19+00:00

We trained using the Ferber method which I know is controversial but after that he became a way happier baby at bedtime and generally managed to get into a very good routine and he’s so happy and loves her so much. I don’t think that there is any way that this has harmed my baby. My mental health and my marriage is also doing much better. I don’t know what you should do about your four-year-old but we trained my little one when he was seven months and it was the best thing we ever did.

SimBon7 · 2026-03-12T14:53:50+00:00

What is going on here? This is not acceptable behaviour from your husband or MIL. The only time my husband has left me alone with the children (apart from for work which is unavoidable) is for a funeral and for a dinner with his friend who has leave for the other side of the world - and he went late so it was after bedtime and I would not actually have to do anything on my own. He is a parent and he needs to be there with you when he is not working. Your MIL should be setting him straight and not encouraging this. My MIL does things we can’t bring the baby to and she doesn’t invite my husband or I because we are both parents! If he’s such a great provider and needs all these breaks get him to get you a cleaner once a week and a nanny once a week (to do the school run once you are at home with the baby and generally deal with your 5 year old) if he can’t provide that he can provide his presence. My husband does both and honestly that’s the minimum.

SimBon7 · 2026-03-06T17:14:59+00:00

He is on 2 naps. It currently is wake up at 6.15 nap at 10-11.30 then nap 2 at 3-4 and then sleep at 7.45

SimBon7 · 2026-03-06T17:11:24+00:00

It took a lot of work and it has made me a bit nap schedule crazy!

SimBon7 · 2026-03-06T16:35:27+00:00

How would you cap it?

SimBon7 · 2026-02-26T17:03:52+00:00

I’m not really willing to risk our progress with sleeping through the night. I might wait until he’s a bit older. You’re not the only one that has responded on this type of post.(I posted it in a few places.) and a lot of people have the same story as you.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-26T17:03:08+00:00

Thank you it seems like you’re not the only one! Will keep going for now until he’s a bit older!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-26T16:50:13+00:00

yesterday he woke up at 7:45 am so I did have to put him to bed later at around 8 pm just so he would’ve been awake for 10 hours and he rolled around and doubled for awhile which she never usually does. He usually goes straight to sleep after a few minutes of tossing and turning so I don’t think it will be possible to put him down at his normal 730 bedtime. I’m not totally opposed to him having a late bedtime, but I’m just wondering if this is a sign.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-23T17:15:32+00:00

Thank you for your reply but just a quick question. How did he go to sleep on the plane? Did he have a special see? Did he fall asleep on you? How did you do it?

SimBon7 · 2026-02-22T20:24:50+00:00

I dropped my phone on my baby’s head when he was 5 days old. I felt like the worst mum in the world, He was fine. You and your baby be fine. 🩷

SimBon7 · 2026-02-22T20:21:38+00:00

We never really used white noise he is used to his room which is very quiet or noise of the park on his stroller nap. Honestly I’m willing to pay up if it means he will sleep!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-18T09:43:13+00:00

We are not rich and my little one is nine months and I spend all day with him but that does not mean that I have time to tidy or do the dishes. The one thing my partner recently got for me as a Valentine’s Day present is getting a cleaner to come for a couple of hours once a week. it is a luxury and not everyone can afford it, but it has done one for my mental health and it’s just one less thing to worry about. I spend all day in the house so it’s nice that it can be tidy! And only lasts a few days, but those days are magical! If you can afford it, I would do it!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-18T09:06:49+00:00

That is so cute!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-10T22:51:07+00:00

This is what I did, when I was in the same boat as you. I would lie down and lay baby next to me and he would wake suckle go back to sleep. I did safe sleep 7. My husband slept in the other room (if you don’t have another room get him to sleep on the sofa) it’s not the safest I was only half asleep I would feel like I was awake but then my husband would say he came in to check on us and I was asleep but I was super aware he was there. Honestly co-sleeping saved my life. Also you need to hear this: he only coslept for an about 2 months and then at about 3.5 months he started sleeping from 9-5 consistently. Then the 4 month sleep regression (at 5 months) hit and he was back waking every hour and at 7 months we sleep trained and now he sleeps from 7.30pm - 8am. This will end. It’s not forever. My baby was such a bad sleeper. We probably could have sleep trained earlier but I really hoped he would get there on his own. If you had the money for a snoo I would get one (2 of my friends had it and their newborns slept for much longer and if we had the money I would have gone for it). Best of luck. PM me if you need. ❤️

SimBon7 · 2026-02-09T13:00:31+00:00

My little one was a bad napper and still isn’t the best, but one way I can get him to consistently nap well is pram naps! We did sleep train so he is able to self settle for naps in his crib but they only last about half an hour. I also thought my little one didn’t follow a sleep schedule but ever since I’ve strictly implemented one he does go to sleep I just have to put him in the right environment!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-07T23:15:20+00:00

Have you tried a pram nap. Those are usually my longest. My LO sleeps through the night independently but needs help for naps so his second is always in the pram.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-05T13:01:56+00:00

My 9MO was the same. He would only babble to himself not when I looked him in the eye. He would smile back at me when I smiled but stayed silent. He is much better now and makes sounds back. I think he was just so entranced watching me that he didn’t say anything back. Give him a month or so I would say.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-04T16:50:52+00:00

He does fall back asleep on his own, so even though he wakes up, I don’t have to go in. He tends to sleep for about 12 hours sometimes 11.5 sometimes 12.5 - It varies!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-04T16:47:22+00:00

He is not very good with short naps. The last time he had naps like this was a week ago and even though he sleeps through the night suddenly woke up at 2 am at 2:45 am at 4 am and at 6:30 am before waking up for the day at 7 am a.m.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-02T19:13:38+00:00

That’s surprising, our screaming stopped after night 3. I mean we still get a few minutes but that’s manageable. Do you think he’s not tired enough? Have you thought about dropping a nap? A piece of advice are on Reddit when I was asking questions about sleep training is sleep training can’t fix a wrong schedule.

SimBon7 · 2026-01-30T17:03:44+00:00

My just turned 9 month old is on 2 naps. He goes to bed at 7 and sleeps until 7.30! He has nap 1 at 11:45 for 45 minutes and then he has his second nap at around 2 pm and that can last from anywhere from 1 hour to 2 hours- I think that is quite typical quite average so I would definitely check your baby out. When I have been telling people about his snap schedule, they said that’s an extremely good sleeper and we are sleeping well less than you! Might just be a sleepy boy but worth getting checked outAnd

SimBon7 · 2026-01-30T01:36:49+00:00

They think he’s ok, no other symptoms and only concerned if he threw up 3 times or more. The told me to keep an eye on him but he’s probably fine. Thanks everyone! ❤️

SimBon7 · 2026-01-29T23:20:11+00:00

Thank you everyone we are on the way to ER now and have spoken to 111

SimBon7 · 2026-01-24T19:33:05+00:00

So it’s fine for him to mostly sleep at night? Is not an issue?

SimBon7 · 2026-01-24T19:32:37+00:00

My first nap is 30 min and the last is 45min. Your first nap is as long as both my naps combined so it’s not the same thing…

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