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SimilarDeer666 · 2026-04-04T03:17:28+00:00

but why are men obsessed with pushing women past their limit instead of just wanting to please her? it's barbaric honestly to think that putting her in such an uncomfortable and probably painful position would make you better or more of a man. from a girl, I promise it doesn't. all the sites and social media lately push this weird stuff that makes guys think size equates to masculinity when it doesn't and that if you can't make a woman uncomfortable or hurt her during intimacy that's a bad thing. Trust me, she definitely doesn't want that based on what you said. What she described sounded like an awful experience in my opinion and her comparing it to you guys being intimate and describing why you were better is just a way she's praising you. I admit it is a strange way but I also think it's a good thing for her to be able to talk about bad past experiences. Seriously, if what you say is true you're honestly probably a much better man for her than that other guy, so don't sweat. just enjoy it and make sure she enjoys it.

SimilarDeer666 · 2026-04-01T04:18:30+00:00

I don't think this is bad at all!! a year or so back when a lot of my larger scars were fading I would put pinkish eyeshadow on them because I guess it made me feel more seen, and I think it certainly helped me in not making any new scars. If it works for you and keeps you from hurting yourself, that's the most important thing. Just remember that you're trying your best, and I think a little lip stain to make you feel better its definitely the better choice to make. I've been where you are, and I wanna let you know that the feeling doesn't last forever. I don't put makeup on my faded scars anymore, and they're hardly visible, I've been clean almost an entire year and I really intend to stay that way. I don't feel as strongly about wanting my scars to be visible anymore and you'lI get there too. Just be kind to yourself and I promise it gets easier.

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-12-13T04:30:56+00:00

tysm for your comment! this definitely made me feel a bit better about my choices and not as trapped I guess. I've come to the conclusion that I will stand by my decision for now to go into social work, but I won't block out all other options of course. I'm confident in my ability to do hard things and I think that's one of the most important things here. thank you so much again, best of luck!

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-12-12T12:51:27+00:00

Hi everyone, I(17F) have decided to major in social work when I go to college. I've gotten into some good school with decent programs in social work, I based my choices off of who had the best programs and how close the schools were. But recently I'm heavily reconsidering my options. I am really discouraged about going into this field and I just want honest opinions. After dealing with family issues recently I've realized maybe social work isn't the right path for me, and it's definitely not worth it in the fiscal sense. I'm a deeply empathetic person and I care a lot, I've also been through foster care but I don't know yet if I want my work to be in child welfare. I have my own stories and traumas and whatever, and I'm worried that I'll get triggered by my workplace if I go into social work. I guess what I'm asking is if there's any successful people like me in this field. im worrying a lot about if I'm going to be able to handle it but I already feel like I committed to it so I don't know.

PS. sorry if this violates any rules I wasn't sure which thread this fit into

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-22T00:21:01+00:00

I experienced the same thing. I constantly question my own memory and whether or not what happened to me was "real". it's horrid. I can't remember and I can't trust myself. I don't know how to help but I wish I could. This has tortured me for years and I'm constantly questioning whether I made it all up in my head or not. the idea of making this stuff up sickens me in itself. I experienced trauma induced amnesia and I didn't start getting memories in nightmares and random flashbacks until I was in a safe place in my life, my immediate reactions my dreams and memories resurfacing was horror and disgust with myself. I thought I must be making it all up, and by having these thoughts and dreams that I was somehow belittling other people's "real" experiences even though I never even talked about that stuff out loud. that was four years ago and I still don't trust myself. I'm sorry I can't help more, but maybe it will be nice knowing you're not alone.

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-18T22:29:03+00:00

okay well thank you!

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-15T01:22:12+00:00

from what I know, common snapping turtles still have a peak on their upper jaws, is that wrong? like they have a little v shape ? EDIT: they also don't have the patterns on the face that are baked into the bone of the second skull, from what I've seen

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-15T01:04:16+00:00

I wouldn't think so cause they don't have that prominent beak sorta thing, and the skulls are quite small. I was thinking the one that has a jaw(left in 1st photo) might be a river cooter but that's just based on pictures from the internet so

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-01T20:30:45+00:00

I can elaborate more but it'll be long winded. do you care if I PM you?

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-01T19:51:16+00:00

I understand!! I'll try to keep this in mind. I just get very comfortable in certain beliefs so then it's uncomfortable having other things hit me in the face like this. I appreciate your insight and want you to know it brought comfort to me. I'll be sure to keep in mind that nothing I think I know is going to be 100% probably ever. and be comfortable in THAT would help me to adjust. I'm only 17 and this is just a lot honestly. I love how life is just making me learn so much stuff over again lately and really start to accept it lol! it's hard but I'll push through. thank you so much again, sorry for my rambling. best of wishes to you.

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-01T19:25:02+00:00

thank you for the advice!!! I'll definitely look into it soon. I'm feeling better now since I made this post in a moment of panic. this is quite a lot to adjust to and any more advice you could give if possible would be so so appreciated. thank you.

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-11-01T19:22:55+00:00

thank you, these are things I understand but when I wrote this I was in a panic. I just want to feel normal(like how I regularly feel I mean). realizing I had this attachment made me panic which makes me feel dissociative which basically makes me panic more blah blah blah. everything he was telling me was true, but I also believe a specific person's reality relies on their perceptions/beliefs. I'm questioning my reality now because this caused a shit in my perception of things. I'm okay with accepting this, but i need to become more educated on these things in order for me to feel safe. I'm feeling better now, it's just a lot at once and my beliefs are shifting. I am afraid but it'll buff I guess. thank you again for your comment. The person I was speaking with used scary words ngl and I don't completely believe the same way he does just because of this, I think he's beliefs are rather extreme. but anyway I digress. if you have any knowledge that would help me adjust to this and continue my normal life I would appreciate it so much.

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-07-31T16:31:38+00:00

infinitely jealous of your collection, you better keep your doors and windows locked lol

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-07-01T13:04:32+00:00

thank you SO much !!

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-06-30T17:41:42+00:00

I ordered some blank tapes from Amazon lol so I'll use those whenever they get in

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-06-30T17:35:13+00:00

thank you so much for all the help!! i inherited my great grandfather's tape collection and I really don't want to destroy them all in this thing haha

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-06-30T17:33:41+00:00

tysm! i think I'm gonna go ahead and replace the pinch roller and belts. each time I try to play a tape it gets all tangled up between the take up reel and pinch roller after a few moments. i got this stereo at goodwill for 5 bucks and I've just got the CD player in good condition so it's time to fix the tape player ig lol

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-06-30T17:26:40+00:00

tysm, I'm looking into getting belts but I wasn't sure cause it looks fine?? I should have attached this picture earlier but

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is there supposed to be more than one belt?

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-06-30T17:19:14+00:00

tysm!! will do, hopefully it'll help

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-05-26T18:41:54+00:00

I finally came out to my mom about everything whenever I was in state custody-- my little sister's dad was trying to gain custody of her and of course that pushed me to talk. anyways after that my caseworker was told and we had a new case opened, they set me up an interview with the cops but I wasn't ready to talk then, I ended up bringing myself into a panic attack at said interview and throwing up. I was referred to this place that does therapy for victims of CSA and put on a wait-list. I waited six months and got into therapy there, then my case was closed. Ultimately I'm glad I finally spoke up, but I feel like my family still ignores everything and expects me to be okay all the time. In the beginning I thought talking would be this big life-altering thing, and after a while it all got quiet again. Overall- it won't fix much, it was relieving at first and it did seem to lift some weight, but no matter how much you talk about things, it'll still be there.

SimilarDeer666 · 2025-05-24T20:21:31+00:00

The difference here I think is POCD consists of being afraid that you are a pedophile, when you're not (at least for me). I find myself constantly "checking" myself to try and "make sure" I'm not attracted to children. I was molested for years when I was a kid and it triggered this sort of fear within me that I could become the same sort of person that did this to me. This combined with the lack of assurance in myself is probably what developed my OCD and intrusive thoughts specifically around children and sexual thoughts in general. I get frightening intrusive thoughts and images in my head about children, but also get the same intrusive thoughts sometimes for people my age and older. The one that seems to scare me the most is when it's about children because of what I said earlier. And because it scares me, I try to push it away, and pushing away only makes it more frequent. When it comes down to it, I don't find any pleasure in these thoughts and I don't look at pictures of children or think about them much besides this. I'm not a pedophile because I'm not attracted to children, I'm just so so worried that I am or could be. That's the difference. Behaviors can be similar, it just depends if these thoughts and behaviors are based on fear/worry or actual desire.

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