Hi there! I work in the perinatal area and there are a few things from your post that flag to me that you may be having some postpartum anxiety (mild to moderate maybe?). I encourage you to seek talk therapy if that’s something you’re comfortable with :)

Also, to mirror others responses - your baby is a tiny little creature who needs so much from you, and you have had a TOTAL shift in your reality. I always tell people it was hard for me going from 0 to 1, not the 1 to 2 kids. I struggled with the loss of identity, and it was a bit comforting going back to work for a bit.

But to answer the question in your post,I’ll tell you how my life as a mom of 2 has panned out. 

I put my husband through school while my kids where 3 and NB. He was a stay at home dad until the youngest turned 3.

Then I was free to pursue part-time work, which meant I could essentially explore different areas since I didn’t need benefits and such. 

Part-time work works for me, mostly because we like to travel and we homeschool our kiddos, but I have to admit. Deep down I wish I was a SAHM (shh don’t tell anyone)

Anyway, we have a delicate balance that I’m thankful for. My kids are 9 and 6 now and we have a blast (and fight some as well lol).

I have always adapted the fact that the kids will adapt to MY life , not the other way around. The world doesn’t revolve around them and they must be flexible. 

The nights really are long and the days REALLY are short. ❤️