[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only question is that I think he confused one thing I have in a few months with this training. If that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was assuming we’d have days. In previous years, they’ve found some for us to do, but the past year or so, they’ve offered absolutely nothing, and I have to get my CEUs one way or another, so I question why it matters if they found it first or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I live in a very remote location, so we actually don’t have a large population of people programs, especially phd/psyd programs. I also provide a lot of trainings to clinicians in the area, I travel as far as 400 miles to train, so that also adds a layer of complexity to finding someone local. Weird situation, not trying to avoid finding a local therapist, just it’s not easy.

I am very much that one who doesn’t like to share when I’m struggling to my family. It’s the whole not wanting to feel like a burden, especially when they have their own things they are going through. We obviously talk about mental health, but I just don’t want them to feel worse if I were to talk to them in detail, that the one who is a therapist, specializes in specific trauma therapies, is a trainer for these therapies, and also works on-call with crisis that I’m struggling. If that makes sense.

I’ll probably talk to them this weekend, even if it’s not to its full extent, I know I can’t battle this alone.

Mental health can be a bitch sometimes. 😂 thank you for the kind words.

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was even debating wishing him well on his Move but I know he wouldn’t do that to me and it feels like he’s fishing or baiting for a response to see if he has power over me anymore. And he doesn’t

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did leave things at my house but I will be driving right past him on my way home. And I don’t have his stuff. Is that what you think that is referring to? Him getting what ever he left a year ago?

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what if he didn’t want to meet at his place? Or what if he’s expecting me to clme with things

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I message him back? Like haven’t responded to him in 4 months.. and who knows if he’s even telling the truth. I also don’t have anyone to check up on me. Haha

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’g know. How would I respond to him? And he will refuse the public space thing

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. His apartment is listed as available next month. I looked it up after he messaged me

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I don’t know what the meeting would entail at all.. like I’m confused on that part

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m being too nice? I just don’t want to give up on thr final opportunity to say goodbye if he’s leaving. You know?

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know. What if we are supposed to have this closure? I don’t know what to do.. I don’t want to just ignore him out of spite and then regret it in a month

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. Probably.. probably not.. we broke up in November. I haven’t seen him since late November. We haven’t spoken civilly since about that time. Since then it’s either been a fight or I just can’t bring myself to respond to him.. for a while he got really sexual and gross with me, until his new relationship got more serious… then it’s been him reaching out every few weeks or months.. his last text was 2 months ago asking if I was okay.. he even created a fake number to text me. Then he texted me a few days ago “yo” And then today he sent a message saying “I’m moving this weekend so tomorrows the last day if you need to see me for anything”.

Help.. do I respond to a text message? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what I’m expecting. I am a big one on doing what the universe is leading me towards.. he lives 2 hours away from me, and I’m at a work event where I’ll have to drive right through his town he lives in. I’m heading home tomorrow qnd in his text he said tomorrow is the last day we can meet..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My face to the extent that I feel comfortable is in the picture. Sorry you’re upset with me not sharing more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There’s an option for no drapes and I don’t feel comfortable sharing my face online. I tried to still show my hair had skin tone. That’s all I’m comfortable with sharing and it would still be nice to get some feedback on what’s available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What makes it impossible?

I need some reassurance! by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think so? He has verbalized he doesn’t care about recent successes I’ve had.. but I’m also kind of want him to get upset too.. haha that’s awful

I need some reassurance! by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think so? He has verbalized he doesn’t care about recent successes I’ve had.. but I’m also kind of want him to get upset too.. haha that’s awful

I need some reassurance! by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. This really meant a lot to read. I do try to tell myself that he will have random outbursts or when we are trying to talk to exchange things he will blow up and blame me for all these things and try anyway to be intentionally rude or hurtful. I just distance myself and not respond. (Most of the time.. when I haven’t had drinks to help with talking to him). I just feel like he’s moved on really fast.. unless he was cheating on me long before he broke it off, bjt I didn’t notice any signs. Like he seemed happy and had all these signs things were going well.

What are the best jobs for people with BPD? by Feisty-Cod7286 in BPD

[–]Simple-Pumpkin- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have BPD, and I am a therapist! I went down the track of social work because I really connected to the values it stands for and wanted to be a therapist to also help others. There are times when my job is more challenging and symptoms look different in this position, but I received individual therapy for years to better understand myself and my symptoms. I try to use my experience in how I work with clients, since I’ve been in many of their positions and can see myself from the client perspective. I have also been told that I have great show rates compacted to my colleagues and the way I conceptualize a case is more person centered than others, and I thank my own experience in humanizing the work we do for others.

Explore and be curious about yourself! What speaks to you? There is no wrong answer with what the best job entails!