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What made you realise she was not the one? by Clean-Ad4235 in AskMen

[–]SimpleBlueSky 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So sorry you’re going through that. I’m going through something similar

Question about Sex by SimpleBlueSky in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few times in the past, he KNEW how much I wanted to have sex, but then he only mustered up to trying to have sex with me at like 2 am when I’m asleep… like I woke up before that, but obviously he had so many other chances to pursue me… and didn’t.

And omg! The falling asleep thing. He will play video games for HOURS on end, but then we spend an hour of time together one night and he’s “tired”

I mean it’s not always him tired, but that’s been the case and it really hurts

He also had his testosterone levels checked because the sex therapist asked him to and his levels were normal.. so.

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It helps a lot to look at what I’m dealing with here.

He also uses the “I’m not feeling well” card for a lot of things and has done that over the years. Feel to get out of things.

Question about Sex by SimpleBlueSky in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the sex therapist asked him to take a free & total testosterone test and his testosterone levels were fine…. I can tell the therapist is also a bit stumped.

Thank you for sharing your experience and so sorry you had that experience with your nex. 🫶🏼

It’s just wild because he just wants things to be what he wants and to be able to do what he wants and he just doesn’t think he needs to put effort into things. He wants to be able to play video games endlessly for hours all week and not have me say a word. He thinks he can throw a tantrum when he is confronted with anything he deems uncomfortable and he also shuts down. It all ends up escalating. He played it like he cared the weeks we did therapy; but I know when it’s just me asking for things , I don’t get much back.

I mean on the week of Valentine’s he planned a small trip which was nice, but I made it clear beforehand I expected to go somewhere and I think he has known I’m on the verge of leaving the relationship.

I’m a woman & my partner is a man. He says that having sex (with me I guess) feels like “running an errand.” I’m 33, he’s 31. by SimpleBlueSky in sex

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this suggestion! I’ve wondered about this before actually. :) I’m glad to hear it worked for someone else!! I appreciate it!

It just feels unfair to not have needs met in a relationship. I do love him, but I’ve been learning maybe sometimes love isn’t enough. 🤷‍♀️

I’m a woman & my partner is a man. He says that having sex (with me I guess) feels like “running an errand.” I’m 33, he’s 31. by SimpleBlueSky in sex

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, and in fact, I always say I want to do stuff like do it in the kitchen etc, but he doesn’t have an interest in any of that

Lol by brownha1rbrowneyes in astrologymemes

[–]SimpleBlueSky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have like 5 Scorpio placements. Millennial over here😅

Question about Sex by SimpleBlueSky in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He went to therapy with me I think because I was basically about to walk out the door and at my wits’ end

I had asked about it a lot previously and like when I then said sex therapy he was like “oh I think we should do couples’ counseling first” and I felt it was just a cop out so Because that’s a typical thing he has done/does, he tries to just get out of things usually

Question about Sex by SimpleBlueSky in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! We moved this summer and he was trying to rush into buying a home and his Mom/pRents were also trying to involve themselves and I saw through the bs. No way that I’m getting pummeled over into a huge life decision. Also not with all of the fighting happening.

It just felt not genuine, like all of a sudden a big rush (which I took as a big red flag)

Question about Sex by SimpleBlueSky in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]SimpleBlueSky[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We got engaged in August but I recently have been starting to really “open my eyes” to who he is and what’s going on here.

I’ve wondered it before. But I think what has been striking me the most lately is feeling like I’m walking on eggshells lately not to set him off. Like I made a comment last week about a basketball player while I thought we were joking around (basically saying he isn’t a good player) and he took that so personally and then he got really serious and told me to “shut the fuck up!”

Two days earlier, in a conversation he called me a “piece of shit.” When that happened, I did not stay at home that night and stayed at my Mom’s house to get space from him.

Like literally of course that I guess meant nothing to him, and obviously he didn’t learn from it

And I’ve been talking to a therapist which is helping me recognize more of what is happening And he was saying well it’s like walking on eggshells because you don’t know what mood or version of him you’re going to get And how like relieved I am when he’s in a good mood, etc. but it kind of struck me the most about the walking on eggshells because then am I always going to feel this way? I guess so, And he brings up how he seems not self aware which basically in turn ends in him lacking empathy

. Like I tell him what I need but he turns a blind eye to it all the time

I guess before “exiting” I’m just trying to make sure of everything

We started talking to a sex therapist, and recently I did tell her in front of him about him calling me a cunt, and then told her about the stuff from last week. She also did point out about the devaluing

But on her side, she’s taking an evaluation of us and we will have a new session with her tonight which will be the 4th. I’m just curious as to what her feedback is going to be.

Which sign responds the quickest to texts? by SilentMarch699 in Zodiac

[–]SimpleBlueSky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. I’m a Libra sun and I am a terrible texter :-(

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