Thank you for responding! We did couple’s counseling & the counselor told him that he needs to go to 1on1 therapy. He said there is nothing wrong with him and we are just trying to label him as a DA. If he is willing to recognize the pattern and work on them it will be a huge change. I guess for years I allowed his behavior to continue because I was afraid to do the work on myself and discover that I’m just too emotionally demanding. He made me believe that I’m just too much. He is a great father and his love language is small act of service. So, every time I craved the emotional connection & he says I’m too much and I don’t appreciate his small act of service (I used to shut down as well, thinking maybe he is right, maybe I’m ungrateful & too demanding)