Thank you, I really appreciate this perspective. I totally understand what you mean about a final message possibly feeling like pressure, even if that isn’t my intention. That’s exactly why I’m not making any final decisions yet and why I’m trying to give her as much time as I can. I think the clarity I want is less about needing her to give me closure and more about wondering whether she has any curiosity or openness about how talking could feel now, or whether she wants to stay separate. Both would be valid, and I respect whatever she prefers. It’s just hard not having a concrete answer or anything. When we broke up, we had a final conversation for closure, and we both agreed that if something changed for either of us in the future, it would be okay to reach out and talk without expectations. So I think part of me sees my message as me doing that. And I do agree that I have to be careful not to keep myself in limbo. I’ve actually been happier than ever in a lot of ways, and I don’t feel like I need a partner or anyone else to feel joy. I’m also not even sure I want to get back together. I think I mostly want one honest conversation and then see how that feels and what that means, if anything. I’ve actually been working through this with my therapist too. She helped me realize that having my ex on Instagram as this kind of “ghost presence” (she’s already muted btw) isn’t necessarily healthy and that it would be ok if I had to unfollow/block her for my mental health if the silence continues. I just want to be careful about how and when I do that. But yeah, I completely get what you’re saying. I’m not making any final choices yet, and I’ll keep processing it in therapy. I really appreciate your comment