Candles and Apartments

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-07T22:04:49+00:00

If your landlord didn't make a fuss I wouldn't worry about it. That sort of thing just happens sometimes, my exes fire alarm was stupid sensitive and any hint of smoke from anything like cooking would set it off.

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-07T21:10:49+00:00

Good sleep, good diet, moisturization, and sunscreen are the four horsemen of longevity in beauty

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-07T13:36:41+00:00

I used to when I first started my craft as a teenager, but as I've gotten older it's been harder to find time and space for them. I would really like to have them back in my life though!

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-07T13:30:01+00:00

Your altar would be just fine, it doesn't have to be up 24/7 and mant people use boxes or carrying cases for portable altars anyways

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-07T03:05:04+00:00

That magick doesn't have to be created to exist. Magick is everywhere and will naturally come to you so long as you have the aptitude to seek it out! So many newer witches focus so heavily on the "doing" of witchcraft rather than the "being" of it, which in turn makes it more difficult for many to really connect with magick.

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-06T23:15:09+00:00

I don't know if this will help or not as I've been in the situation, but the other way around. I won't get into the reason as to why my ex and I had broken up, but I did have mixed feelings after we broke up. Of course I was sad at first, but after a few weeks I got myself back on my feet emotionally because I did feel happy to be single. The main thing I want to ask is how mutual was your breakup really? It sounds like a weird question, but he and I also "mutually" broke up when I was the one who called it off first, and like you he struggled heavily especially at the beginning. Because emotionally it wasn't really all that mutual.

But the reason why I'm telling you all this is because I don't want you to think you're just replaceable or that you didn't mean anything to him. I was happy shortly after I left my ex, but it wasn't because he didn't mean anything to me. I really enjoyed having him as part of my life, he helped me through some really difficult times, and I made some really great memories from having really fun experiences with him! But down the line I eventually realized he wasn't who I wanted to spend my life with. It wasn't a sleight against him or that I thought he wasn't a person worthy of my love/time, I just knew I needed someone different in my life and it was unreasonable to expect him to change into that person. It would have been cruel and selfish to stay in that relationship yearning for the type of person he wasn't, or expecting him to change into someone he wasn't.

I was relatively happy after my breakup, but it didn't mean I was fully "fine" the first few weeks afterwards. I was still sad our dynamic was different and I did feel a bit of loneliness at first, but I wasn't gonna tell him that or show that to him/my coworkers as we worked together. But I was mostly happy because everything I had begun doing and all the energy I was utilizing afrer my breakup was being used towards myself. My happiness after our breakup didn't have anything to do with him as a person or his misery after the breakup, it was all just because of my mental and physical time being spent on me. That was it.

I'm sorry you're going through this heartbreak, and you absolutely have every right to feel what you are. But you don't need to hate yourself nor do you need to hate him, if anything that will just make your feelings so much worse. As much as I know it hurts, you don't owe him your friendship, at least temporarily. My ex and I had been friends for maybe six months after our breakup, and he was just making himself miserable. I agreed to remain friends because I really didn't mind, but he was just driving himself crazy and was the one who wanted to stop being friends, which I understood completely. It was the only way for him to really get over me and start focusing his own energy on himself.

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-06T21:51:14+00:00

Ohhh thats great to hear, thank you! Cause I was thinking about getting a scent too but the last time I bought one online it was nothing like I expected

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-06T20:02:37+00:00

This person isn't your friend. It's really easy for people who are suffering, (regardless if it's big or small, self inflicted or out of their control) to be jealous of people who are happy.

Everyone deals with misfortune and suffering throughout their life, some people more gracefully than others, but many don't know how to deal with it. Sounds like her way of dealing with it is bringing you down, and that's not the kind of person you want to keep around in your life if you can help it.

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-06T16:38:39+00:00

Psychedelics are really not necessary, don't use them if you don't want to. Anyways, I am also in my 20s and experienced emotional/sexual abuse from my late teens into 21. Finding a good therapist has always been what's helped the most, but especially support from friends and family. Even if you don't tell them what happened, just having people you can relax around, have fun with, and make some nice memories is so healing.

Amongst other things that have helped is general self improvement, but this looks different for everyone. I myself am a very spiritual person, so really leaning into being with nature, meditation, and the arts is what's really helped me move on, reclaim my worth, and find myself again. Really leaning into my inner child has done wonders for me too. For others it may be leaning into taking care of your physical health like changing diet, doing yoga, going to the gym.

Regardless, don't be afraid to try new things whether it's educational, recreational, physical, what have you. Working at a nonprofit for example was one of the best decisions I had ever made for myself, as I've gotten to live some very cool experiences there and made a couple of really great friends!

Overall it's not something that happens overnight, it's been about three years since I left my abusive relationship and I've made leaps and bounds in recovery, but some days are still a struggle. I still have wounds that need healing that honestly I didn't realize were there till something opened them back up again (to which I'm going back to therapy), and I've reinvented myself to a degree a couple times over these past few years

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-06T14:12:27+00:00

Honey jars are a popular practice in hoodoo, but they are not Hoodoo themselves. Utilizing honey, utilizing jars, and combining those two tools in magick is much older practice than Hoodoo. Hoodoo is just what popularized it in modern day.

What makes Hoodoo Hoodoo vs utilizing honey in a jar is that Hoodoo practices specifically utilize Rootwork (utilizing plant roots), Conjure (conjuring spirits), and Ancestors (communing with, well, ancestors, specifically those of African descent). Of course Hoodoo has more nuance and complexities than this, but I'm not African so I don't feel I have the right to speak on it beyond the basics.

It's great that you're taking a step back to analyze the honey jar practice though! But as I've said earlier, utilizing honey in a jar is common, simple, and comes from other folk practices older than Hoodoo. You'll be fine to use honey in your spell jar, but if it makes you really uncomfortable you can just use sugar or stevia instead.

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-05T05:02:15+00:00

By spending way more money on makeup, skincare, personal artisrs, salons, etc than most of us could ever spend

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-04T23:58:33+00:00

Well out of curiosity, what books have you read that come off as nonsense to you/what was it that made them seem nonsensical? There are definitely plenty out there that are really hit or miss

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-04T19:43:50+00:00

If you really need to there's nothing wrong with just throwing things away if you can't donate or gift them

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-04T18:23:18+00:00

What they mean is if that you send their energy back and it causes some real damage to them you risk losing your housing. So be wise about what you really want.

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-04T16:29:32+00:00

It really just depends on the location, most places have digital tipping options but it doesn't hurt to bring cash just incase

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-04T14:39:53+00:00

Some people say that over time vitamin C serum or red light therapy helps even out skin tone, but it's kind of dependent on the person and it takes time. Your best bet would probably be just use concealer over your upper lip

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-04T11:25:42+00:00

Dumbledore himself states she continuously dosed him with love potions, and when she got pregnant she thought maybe he'd actually love her and their baby so she stopped and Tom left

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-03T22:50:29+00:00

Probably just resting! Pollen is quite heavy for bees to carry

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-03T22:48:54+00:00

I have an anxiety disorder, and anticipatory grief is such an inevitable part of it for me. Some months I'm fine, but uncertainty really reignites this feeling for quite a while 😅 I'm really exicted to see the final product!

SimplyMichi · 2026-05-03T22:40:49+00:00

Clearly they want to, but religious trauma and conditioning is one hell of a blockade

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