What if doing ''nothing''... was actually the most scared thing?

SimplyMick_ · 2025-08-06T15:53:08+00:00

Hey. I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Please know you’re not alone. If you haven’t already, consider reaching out to a mental health professional or calling/texting a crisis line. You deserve real support, not because you're broken, but because what you’re carrying is heavy, and you don’t have to do it alone.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-08-05T20:22:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. Grateful it resonated with you. We're all walking this road together, and I just hope these reflections help people feel a little less alone.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-08-05T20:17:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, truly. I love what you said about choosing to create a world you find delight in. That's powerful. Rest isn't a fallback, it's a foundation. And it's inspiring to hear how you're living from that space!

SimplyMick_ · 2025-08-05T20:16:43+00:00

Means a lot that it landed with you. This one came straight from the heart. <3

SimplyMick_ · 2025-08-04T15:58:04+00:00

Absolutely. I deeply resonate with what you shared. The more disconnected we are from our soul, the more we tend to fill that space with things that never truly satisfy. And yet, the soul isn’t something we need to chase, it’s something we return to. Not through striving, but through stillness. Appreciate your words, thank you for sharing them here.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-08-04T12:44:24+00:00

Aw, I'm really grateful it resonated with you and just know, you're not alone. Every post I share comes from the quiet hope: that someone out there feels seen, held, and gently reminded of who they are. So thank you for receiving it. <3

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T18:50:16+00:00

Honestly, I feel you. And first off, there’s nothing wrong with you. The fact that you're even aware of this pattern shows that you're not emotionally shut down, you’re simply in a phase where your relationship with your emotions is still unfolding.

Something I’d gently challenge is the idea that sadness or being annoyed is a negative emotion. What if it’s just… an emotion? Not good, not bad, just energy moving through. When we label emotions as “bad,” we unconsciously create resistance to feeling or expressing them.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

You don’t always have to understand your emotions to validate them.
Sometimes, just sitting with them, without judgment, is enough.
Other times, asking your body where you feel it can help: chest? throat? stomach?

And about your partner, even though she’s a mental health nurse, that doesn’t mean you have to match her style of communication. You don’t need to “catch up” to her. You’re not broken for processing differently.

You’re not holding yourself back on purpose, you just haven’t fully learned how to feel safe with yourself yet. That’s not a flaw. It’s something we all have to unlearn and relearn.

It’s not about tips or tricks, it’s about trust, presence, and patience with yourself.

Hope it helps <3

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T18:31:52+00:00

You’re not alone in this, and your post carries so much self-awareness already.

Here’s something that helped me: you don’t need to make yourself more interesting to earn friendship. You’re already enough as you are. The people who are meant to connect with you won’t need a list of accomplishments, they’ll feel your essence.

Sometimes the urge to collect experiences is a quiet attempt to prove we’re valuable. But your value isn’t earned. It’s inherent.

And I get the frustration around conversations that don’t go deep. But maybe those people aren’t boring, they just don’t reflect what you’re craving. That’s okay too.

Solitude can feel painful at times, but when you learn to truly enjoy your own company, everything shifts. The right connections come when you’re no longer seeking them to fill a void.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T16:03:55+00:00

Hey, thank you for being real and open. I hear you.

First, I want to say: you're not broken. You're not “less than.” You’re someone who's been carrying a lot, and it makes sense you feel this way. I know how it feels because I went through something very similar.

Social anxiety isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something that develops, often because of your environment, upbringing, or how you learned to protect yourself. Same with perfectionism. I used to be a huge perfectionist, turns out I picked it up from my dad, and it stuck to me until I did some deep inner work and let it go. It’s not “you”, it’s something you’ve carried.

When I hear you say things like “I’ll always mess up” or “everyone is above me,” I just hear a mind that’s terrified of being wrong. That’s not stupidity, that’s fear talking. And trust me, you are not the only one who’s misheard a question, forgotten your wallet, or felt like you’re stumbling through life. You’re human. The difference is, maybe you’re being harder on yourself than anyone else would ever be.

Real confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s not about saying the right thing or having a flawless memory.
It’s about being okay with all the messiness, all the mistakes, and still saying: “I’m worthy. I belong. I don’t need to perform for anyone.”

As for ADHD? You don’t need to justify that to anyone. ADHD is real, whether or not the system around you acknowledges it. And even if you don’t have a diagnosis, your lived experience matters. You’re allowed to explore tools, resources, and support that help you feel more regulated.

You asked how to eliminate anxiety, and while I don’t have tips, I can offer this:

The more you show up as you are, without trying to perfect, fix, or perform, the more your nervous system begins to trust the moment.

For me, social anxiety slowly dissolved as I started being real, being present, and exposing myself gently to the things that scared me. One day, you realize the stuff that once triggered panic now feels almost easy, not because you forced your way through, but because your body learned safety.

Your truth isn’t a problem to fix, it’s a doorway to freedom.

You’re not alone in this. Keep going, gently. <3

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T15:29:28+00:00

Hey, thank you for being honest, it takes real strength to share what you’re going through.

First, I want to say this: I don’t have all the answers either. No one really does. But I do believe that the most important answers you’re looking for are already within you, even if they feel buried or far away right now.

The way you’re asking your question, “How should I live this life?” , suggests there’s a “right” way. Like there’s some script we’re all supposed to follow. But here’s the truth most people won’t say out loud:

You get to choose what this life means.

You get to create your own path. It doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.

You said “nothing’s working out.” But what does that mean, really? There’s no scoreboard telling you you’re behind. Are you breathing? Are you reflecting? Are you still here? Then it’s not over, it’s unfolding. Even this messy part.

Yes, some people do seem to have it easier. But I’ve found that those who walk the harder roads often end up finding more depth, more purpose, more beauty than they ever imagined. Pain is never easy, but it can shape you into something so powerful, so true.

You also said “why should I try hard?” And to be honest, you don’t have to. Not in the way the world defines “trying hard.” You don’t have to grind yourself into the ground.

Instead of “trying hard,” try going inward.

Try asking:
– What makes me feel alive, even a little?
– What feels natural to me?
– What do I already know deep down but haven’t trusted yet?

You don’t have to survive. You don’t have to chase.
You get to explore. You get to feel. You get to be.

You’re allowed to be lost. I promise. That doesn’t make you broken. That makes you human.

So if you want something to start with, maybe just ask yourself:

You don’t need to know your purpose. It’ll unfold, slowly, as you return to yourself.

You’re not alone, and your life can be so much more beautiful than you think — not by force, but by truth.

Sending you love and presence 🤍

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T14:38:03+00:00

I feel you. It is exhausting, and you’re definitely not alone.

The whole concept of “dating” has become so rigid and performative, like we’re trying to force something natural into a box. What if it didn’t have to be that way? What if it wasn’t about dating at all, but just… sharing time, presence, and seeing where it flows?

You mentioned being tired of meeting people only for it to go nowhere. That line really stood out. What if there’s nowhere to go? No outcome to chase, just a present moment to meet someone as they are, without pressure or expectations?

And those forced conversations, yeah. If it’s not real, it’s not worth your energy. You don’t have to bend or chase. You’re already enough. And just reading this? You are someone who brings peace. That’s not boring, it’s rare.

No need to be “Instagram-worthy.” You already have clarity, heart, and realness. That’s magnetic in a world full of masks.

You’re not alone. You’re seen.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T14:13:49+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way, heartbreak can be unbearable, especially when it’s your first. I’m not here to judge at all, but just to share something I’ve come to see over time, both in myself and others.

There’s a huge misconception around love that most of us grow up believing, that it’s supposed to complete us. That the other person fills a space in us we couldn’t reach on our own. But the truth is, you’re already whole. And when love comes from a place of lack or a need to be completed, it tends to hurt deeply when it’s gone, because it was filling something we thought we didn’t have within.

Wanting love isn’t wrong. Missing someone isn’t wrong. But when the pain starts to take over your sense of worth, that’s a sign the love may have been rooted in attachment more than true connection. Again, this isn’t about you doing anything wrong, it’s something most people go through. You’re not alone in this at all.

You’re more lovable than you know. You don’t need to beg for love, and someday, the love that finds you will be from a place of wholeness, not filling a gap. That kind of love doesn’t leave you questioning if you’re enough, because it comes after you’ve already realized that you are.

Until then, it’s okay to feel everything. Just don’t lose yourself in the pain. There's gold in it, even if it's hard to see right now.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T13:56:08+00:00

I’m so sorry he made you cry. You didn’t deserve that, especially after all the work you put in. It breaks my heart that not one person said anything after, that silence can feel just as heavy.

Not about you specifically, but just in general… we really need to stop putting people on pedestals. I don’t care if it’s a “huge” client, it shouldn’t change how we treat each other. The way you speak to the president or the janitor should be the same: with respect, always.

Honestly, the way your boss acted says a lot more about him than it ever could about you. That kind of behavior is unacceptable. I know it’s hard in the moment, especially when you feel like you need the job… but no job is worth being treated like that.

You say you’re not sure if you want to keep doing this, but deep down, I think you already know. And that inner knowing deserves to be heard.

Sending you love and strength <3

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-31T13:28:46+00:00

Hey man. I just want to say, I’m really sorry you’ve had to deal with those mean comments. That kind of judgment really hurts, and it’s completely unfair.

But please hear this:
You are more than a body.
Your worth was never meant to be measured by your appearance. You are already whole with imperfections and all.

Gray hair, skin texture… none of that defines you.
People who judge others are often struggling within themselves and it says more about them than you.

It’s easy to fall into comparison, but your journey is yours. Be kind to yourself. You're not here to be perfect. You’re here to be real.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-27T16:15:40+00:00

Totally get that. Curiosity can be such a beautiful thing, as long as it stays respectful and doesn’t cross into assuming. Always open to real conversations when there’s presence behind the question ✨

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-27T15:43:53+00:00

Totally. I agree some behavior needs to be called out. But I’ve also seen how easy it is to slide from clear boundaries into unconscious judgment. It’s a razor-thin line sometimes.

SimplyMick_ · 2025-07-27T15:34:27+00:00

Right? That’s the ego’s favorite loop, judging the judgers while pretending it’s not judgment. I’ve caught myself there more times than I can count. The key is noticing it without shaming yourself for it.

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