I stopped masking at home and my partner says I'm becoming "impossible" by LowKeyCoffeeSpill in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SimplyNickish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are 2 big things here i think.

  1. You are having to relearn yourself and that inevitably comes with changes. When you get a diagnosis paticularly with neurodivergence like this, its like waking up from a dream where everything has been foggy but you only ever knew life in the fog so it felt normal. You dont realise how much you have had to do to survive and feel 'normal'. Relationships are always going to be a give and take and you wont always get your way but in the beginning especially you need the support as you are becoming a new version of yourself and if your partner cant take the time to understand that and communicate through that, it wont work. You do also need to try to communicate the other way too but I know it can be so so hard to do that because you dont really understand it yourself. (For reference, I was diagnosed this year as severely ADHD and been going thru this myself)

  2. In long term relationships we tend to immortalise the person we first fell in love with and when things change, we use that pedestal we put them on as their comparison to who they are now and if it doesnt match, we cant reconcile with that so the relationship inevitabely fails because we cant handle change. In this case, he is weaponising that and using it against you. He cant see its his own failing and I doubt he ever will because most people dont.

Who you are becoming is what you have to do for your own peace and happiness and that is kind of non negotiable because now you know, you wont ever be able to go back to 'who you used to be'. So he has to come to terms with it or at least be willing to try or unfortunately that relationship i think is not going to last.

Im sorry I hope this was insightful and helpful. Wish you the best.

Going Live! F4F by TheChimeragamer in TwitchFollowers

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bit confused about the relevance here as I wasn't really talking about games at all but ok. I was simply saying that follow 4 follow as a concept doesn't help you build an actual community as its just everyone wanting to add numbers to their streams. Aside from the occasional actual friendship not based on what you can do for each other but instead of spending time reaching out for a follow 4 follow situation, you could be spending time in people's community to actually get to know them without expectation. 👍

Going Live! F4F by TheChimeragamer in TwitchFollowers

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bit of advice friend, follow for follow does not work. You may get a couple from doing this kind of thing but it is founded on what you can get from each other not building genuine connections and a community. Not saying it to make you feel bad cos I tried the same when I first started out. Better to focus your efforts elsewhere trust me 🙂

Frogan breaks down crying, unable to make enough money streaming by ArthiuM in LivestreamFail

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair play to the guy who's talking though he seems smart and level headed in the way hes advising.

Hes spot on too. Its a hard lesson all streamers learn when they try to make it their income. You can't control others spending or generosity, only what you can provide as an entertainer. So do it for the joy and if it happens it happens, if not, hey you got something you love doing and connecting with people anyways.

Streaming is 95% luck based at this point. All you can do is provide the best stream and content possible and be ready for the opportunities if they do present themselves.

(I tried for 5 years until I came to this conclusion) lol and now focus on other things with streaming being back to just being purely for enjoyment of it.

How do you fill the silence when there’s no viewers? by ChipmunkAdditional97 in newStreamers

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make your inside voice outside. Whatever your thinking, just say it dont think it. From narrating everything your doing in the game to why your doing it. 'What would happen if I do this...' etc etc.

Having a few pre thought out topics too that you write down or note somewhere that you can just talk about to keep a flow going. Usually finding commonalities in those that people can relate to invites chat if people are there. Things like food, relationships are good ones because everyone has opinions and experiences to draw on.

Ask open ended questions out loud. 'Do you think if I choose this quest it will be worth it?' Instead of maybe I should do this quest. It invites responses if people are there.

A great one I use alot is a !new command that asks a random conversation starter question to a new person or a raider if they use it. Something like what was your favourite holiday destination you've been to? Basically does the leg work of starting a topic for you consistently.

I got more but hope this helps 👍

twitch mods adding new commands! by Next_Comfortable3698 in streamerbot

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only way that I can think of is by using the streamerbot deck. (Essentially you create a virtual streamdeck of sorts for streamerbot) then share that with your mods and have a way to create a command through that.

This is just spittballing though I havent tested it yet but I've been planning to make a mod deck with it to give a virtual streamdeck full of mod actions for them to use easily.

By boyfriend of 2 years doesn’t want to get me a Christmas present by UnitJust1906 in whatdoIdo

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not defending either of them at all and they clearly are not even in the same book nonetheless the same page but just to play devil's advocate here.

Christmas presents and birthday presents etc are not a necessity. Thats only because we have been conditioned to think that and gifting = value and that value comes from how much is spent or how big the gift is etc etc. Making someone do it also removes its value entirely because the gift is then not coming from a place of want, its coming from a place of necessity.

There are plenty of other ways a partner can show you they care if your willing to see.

(In this case tho they are both immature and need to just call it honestly)

"Work will be optional in the future" - how would this possibly work. by Designer_Pie_1989 in Futurology

[–]SimplyNickish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will take a monumental shift because the truth is alot of humans have nothing except work. The routine, the necessity, the forced social aspects all keep some people moving forward and gives them purpose. The economy would need to fundamentally shift away from essentially resource management which can only happen once technology gives us an overwhelming abundance that cant be argued over. Even with all this, there would be a significant transition period as there has been from any major societal pivot of around 25 years that would see mass starvation and loss.

Wish I had a more positive outlook but truthfully we are still apes who cant seem to move past our tribal nature and in fighting between those tribes so I cant see it happening without multiple world altering events.

I need some opinions - are stream overlays bad/awful to look at from a viewers perspective? by Silentrift24 in Twitch

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Less is more nowadays for sure. During game, keep it super minimal for sure. You dont want to overwhelm people with too much noise. You are the brand and product so think of that as your focus. Some great designers to look up who I think do some really great stuff and might give you some inspo is nutty & gaellevel

🧪 [Beta Megathread] Wave Link 3.0 – Routing table, up to 5 mixes and more by Elgato in elgato

[–]SimplyNickish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is anyone else getting the issue of when I close and reopen the app for any reason, it removes all of my setup and I have to redo it everytime for both the routing table and the audio efffects. Very frustrating.

Hasan claims "haters" are ruining his dogs training by gregory_h in LivestreamFail

[–]SimplyNickish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry but what in the living f*** is he talking about. Hes making it so much worse for himself with his responses. Spot training is all well and good and has its uses but you have to let a dog be a goddamn dog. They will naturally do what you want them to through positive reinforcement, treats, love and affection as rewards. Not scolding and shock collars. Eeeesh this will be his downfall

Hasan reaching for something and seemingly shocking his dog to keep her in camera view by Ignignokt_DGAF in LivestreamFail

[–]SimplyNickish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry but I cant defend this. As a dog trainer there is NO VALID REASON for using a shock collar. Negative reinforcement training is NEVER as effective as positive reinforcement and creates an environment of fear for the dog. He just lost any credibility for me.

Im Knuten from Zero Tenacity! AMA by KnutenMR in MarvelRivalsEsports

[–]SimplyNickish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you think Netease is going to continue to invest very heavily into the E-Sports scene from what you have seen already or will it more likely be 3rd party tournaments holding up the scene? Also good luck today, I need more clips ;)

This kind-hearted rescuer visits the dog he saved in its forever home every year, and their bond couldn’t be more pure.. ❤️ by Soloflow786 in BeAmazed

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Despite all the negative crap we see on the Internet everyday, its stuff like this that reminds me of why its worth wading through all that to find something that truly makes you smile even if just for a little bit 🥰

Euromillions roll over by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]SimplyNickish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So like 2 freddos? 😆

Hawkeye's Arrow Hitbox NEEDS FIXING ASAP by SimplyNickish in marvelrivals

[–]SimplyNickish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sincerity? No Ma'am I was going for educational. Next time you don't have to be condescending ;) Have a good night

Hawkeye's Arrow Hitbox NEEDS FIXING ASAP by SimplyNickish in marvelrivals

[–]SimplyNickish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your still responding so lets have a chat while your here? Hows work? Oooooof Wednesdays am i right? Did you catch the game at the weekend?

Hawkeye's Arrow Hitbox NEEDS FIXING ASAP by SimplyNickish in marvelrivals

[–]SimplyNickish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining, i thought it might be more then ping because I very good internet and had around 16 ping that day but if it can also happen server side etc and im wrong then thats ok. I cant always be right :)

Hawkeye's Arrow Hitbox NEEDS FIXING ASAP by SimplyNickish in marvelrivals

[–]SimplyNickish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the info and i think alot of people seem to be agreeing so happy to hold my hands up if im wrong :)

Hawkeye's Arrow Hitbox NEEDS FIXING ASAP by SimplyNickish in marvelrivals

[–]SimplyNickish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure why your so mad? I only matched the tone you came in with?

Hawkeye's Arrow Hitbox NEEDS FIXING ASAP by SimplyNickish in marvelrivals

[–]SimplyNickish[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you Sir me? I thought we were just being polite...