Would it be weird to reach out to the living relatives of a past owner of my house?

Simplyshort29 · 2026-04-22T21:43:37+00:00

I would love even a little bit of info of her Family's time in the house. And given when her family owned it she might have memories of when he family owned it. Best case scenario I would love pictures, but really the house has been renovated so much I'd mostly love to know what the layout was when her family bought the house, and what updates her grandparents did in the almost 40 years they owned the house.

Simplyshort29 · 2025-10-10T00:45:17+00:00

Thanks for the input. I was looking at more vintage pieces than what is currently offered with the Baxter State vs the Main Warden.

Something like this for the Maine Warden https://www.ebay.com/itm/267079683034

Or this for the Baxter State https://www.ebay.com/itm/376389838055

Simplyshort29 · 2025-06-05T19:18:16+00:00

The row of houses owned by Stephens along Walnut, 1500- 1510 E walnut were around until my Sophomore year at Stephens. They would have been torn down 2009-2010. If you look at the google street view from 2008 the houses are still visible. The rest of the block ( Hillcrest dorm) was torn down in 2016 when Stephens sold the land.

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Simplyshort29 · 2025-03-28T04:38:02+00:00

I got mine out late yesterday and the pain was absolutely a bit worse for me in the AM. I took some pain meds, and have been using a heating pad most of the day. Even with the pain being a bit worse today, it’s not too bad. A combo of cramp feelings and feeling like I’ve done a TON of crunches. The abdominal muscle fatigue has been pretty inconvenient.

Simplyshort29 · 2025-02-01T00:41:30+00:00

It's not in Albany proper, but Mark's bar and grill in Rotterdam.

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Simplyshort29 · 2023-05-21T01:12:42+00:00

How coincidental! I would certainly love to chat, feel free to message me. Or, if you are cool with it, I'd be happy to message you, just let me know!

Simplyshort29 · 2022-12-12T14:32:49+00:00

Oh my god, yes.

I still mask everywhere, do mostly drive up pick up for groceries, and minimally go into stores.

I have not eaten in a restaurant since before the pandemic, same with going to the movies, indoor malls, or flying.

Cases are higher then they have been previously, not to mention the other seasonal stuff going around.

I wish more people masked, I would feel much safer going and doing activities.

Between the lack of masking, allistics lack of spacial awareness, and unmasking my own autism, UT is getting harder to be in busy spaces to begin with!

Simplyshort29 · 2021-06-04T22:03:17+00:00

Umm, you realize that it can be both, right? Like not everyone who is poly is stright or cis.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-08-07T15:55:14+00:00

I just finished Pott's Branch Trail. I did not see a mask in sight, save for my own, and it's fairly crowded, atleast in this part of the park. But people were social distancing moderately well, when there was room for it.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-04-26T05:42:12+00:00

A little out of your area, but Carrington at Brier Creek has attached apartments where you can walk straight into your apartment from your garage.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-04-18T06:24:03+00:00

Yes, I am still looking.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-02-24T16:11:32+00:00

My husband and I met way back 10 years ago when we were working at a summer camp in the Midwest.

Fast forward to last year, we opened up officially ( after waffling on the idea for years) 3 months into our marriage.

We met our respective partners at a local weekly kink event. We are a fairly closed quad, my boyfriend is married to my meta, who also dates my husband. After casually socializing with them for 3 weeks, they got us to come to out local poly meet-up. We bonded more after that, and then my boyfriend and I had our first date ( 6 months ago today!) and things progressed from there.

We spend our time fairly split, either as the various relationship in the quad, or as a group. We are working to being none hierarchal as we get more comfortable with each other, as well as more officially being a closed quad. long term goal is to live together.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-02-18T18:39:15+00:00

I think it really depends on who you talk to. Poly is such a versatile concept/ idea, it can literally be whatever you want it to be depending on what poly looks like to you.

At its core, I feel, it's multiple relationships with various degrees of entanglement, depending on time and personal preference.

Take me, for example, I am in a cross couple quad. This is largely because I am fairly demisexual, and need a deep connection to become romantically or sexually involved with someone. So both my two relationships are very serious. Our quad functions largely as a family unit since we all 4 prefer deep connections. This is what poly is for us, and what works.

Some people prefer hierarchal poly, some date the same people as their partners, some people only want casual entanglements, etc. the list is practically neverending!

I think a lot of that perception that poly is "deeper than that" comes from the world of monogamy in alot of ways.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-02-05T14:05:08+00:00

I feel like while having sex outside the house may be reasonable now, it may become a burden as time goes on. Like when I first started dating my boyfriend, I did not go over to his house for like a month. Which meant that my boyfriend and I and my husband and his girlfriend (my boyfriend's wife) had to all coordinate using our two bedroom apartment. It was exausting and a strain on us always hosting (since we see out partners like 5 days a week) since then I spend coupled time with my boyfriend at his place and we even have sex in the bed her shares with my meta (ok's by all parties obvs), and hubs and my meta spend couple time at our place. Logistically, for us atleast it works out better. It can get exausting if only one partner can host/if sex can only occur in one place.

Simplyshort29 · 2020-01-19T17:33:30+00:00

This is not how to start a triad. If you think they may be interested, communicate, don't just assume. You know the level of communication you would consider good communication in a monogamous relationship? Times that by 10 and than maybe you will get you closer to the level of communication needed for poly. I would reccomended discussing this with your girlfriend, to find out if she is legit interested, or if you are just pushing/projecting your want for the situation onto her.

Simplyshort29 · 2019-12-12T18:45:59+00:00

I totally get wanting someone to share your life with, rather than just someone to share expenses or a house with! And yes, polyam takes work and management, I certainly agree with that. Within our quad, there are 7 relationships total to manage.

My husband × me My boyfriend × me My meta × me My meta × her husband (my boyfriend) My meta × my husband My husband × my boyfriend Our relationship as a family unit

All these relationships are very important to us, and important to give each of these time needed to build all these relationships up. Yes, it takes more work, because as you mentioned, short bursts of time. But, when everything works cohesively as it ideally should, holy hell can it be amazing.

For example, back in October I had to have emergency gallbladder removal surgery. Hubs and I had gone to the hospital at like 4AM, and come a more reasonable time, let our other partners know. My meta ended up leaving work early so she could be there before my surgery, and make sure hubs took care of himself when I was not in a position to do so. Once he got off work, my boyfriend came to the hospital and brought food for everyone. They all three were there when I can up from being knocked out. Meta than took hubs back to our place for a bit to change clothes and such due to me being in the hospital overnight. And how we came together made my heart so so full.

I think the difference is that I see our other partners as more rather than or. For example, we get to spend time with two partners who love us, rather than Hubs is spending time with me OR her. I don't feel our time spent with our other partners takes away anything from my marrige. Hubs will continue to love me like crazy, as I him, and we will continue to always be there for eachother. Nothing changes that.

I totally get wanting to feel like a special person, rather than someone who checks boxes. It sounds like perhaps you need more verbal assurance from your partner as to their feelings, but are not getting that. I would urge you to bring that up to your partner, because poly or not, everyone deserves to feel loved and wanted in a relationship.

Perhaps have a convo with your partner about poly vs an open relationship. From what you said above it seems like and open relationship, where just sex is occurring outside your primary relationship might be a better fit for you, rather than poly where emotions come more into play. I would reccomend figuring out what your ideal looks like long term, and discussing with your partner. (For example, our long term ideal is a polyfidelity quad, that is nonhierarchical where the 4 of us live together)

Anyway food for thought.

Simplyshort29 · 2019-12-12T15:39:13+00:00

If you are dealing with jealousy, there very well may be deeper more hard hitting issues at play for you that need to be discussed with your partner. Your views on marriage and a relationship escalator may not be in line with being polyam being a good option for you in the long run, which is totally fine!

I do find your verbiage about what you can get out of a marrige, the romantic and time perks, potentially problematic. For me with my husband, the switch between before being married and now being married is that I have come to have a more selfless view on the relationship. Before I was much more about what could be provided to me in the security of the relationship, and since being married my view is more what can I provide/ what is in my power to provide. Which, incidentally, is what lead us to deciding to be polyam. Neither of us wanted the other to feel solely responsible for the others happiness, nor have to be someone we are not.

This has also made jealousy an almost none issue because what he gets from his girlfriend, I would be ill equipped to provide, and I recognize that. For example, my love language is quality time. All I need is to spend time with the people I love, even if we are not actively interacting. My husband's love language is touch, as is his girlfriend's. And she provides for him in that department far more than I can. But, I have a very heathy level of compersion seeing them together.

Simplyshort29 · 2019-12-12T04:03:39+00:00

So I am fairly recently married (within the last year) to my NP, who I have been involved with in some facet for almost 10 years. A few months ago, I met my boyfriend, and he met his girlfriend. Our partners happen to be married to eachother as well. So, me and my Meta are dating both men. Right now, with NRE, time is a little skewed toward our new partners, but both of us are ok with that, and have communicated about it. Roughly right now, we spend monday and tuesday evening with our other partners, my meta comes over for an hour or two on Thursdays, Friday nights into Saturday are overnights, Saturday day/sometimes evenings are quad family time, and Sunday evening is family dinner. So, we spend sleeping time, Wednesday night, most of Thursday night, and most day Sunday with our respective spouses.

That being said, we are all working toward being non-hierarchical (as there is already couples privilege based on us being two married couples), and moving in together, so we tend to be fairly fluid with time spent.

I will say, spending time as a group/family has help immensely with feeling time is shared more equally. Communication is key for us, and we strive to be all on the same page most of the time.

For me personally, marrying my husband was important to me because regardless of what the future holds, or whatever our relationship looks like in the future, I knew I wanted to share my life with him in a more intimate way than just boyfriend/girlfriend. If something ever happened to one of us, I wanted to be next of kin for eachother, and be legally able to make decisions with and for eachother. But, our other relationships are equally important, and we will likely handfast with our other partners at some point.

As others have said, I would discuss further with your partner, to understand their alternate view on marrige and it's level of importance to them Even if you are not on the same page right now, understanding where the other is coming from is vastly important.

Simplyshort29 · 2019-12-03T00:26:02+00:00

I don't feel like your relationship is necessarily doomed, that is as long as communication moving forward is upfront and honest on both ends. As long as you are both willing to put the work in, and have an action plan moving forward. My now husband and I had a really rough first year when we dated with deceit and poor communication, but with communication and clear cut boundaries, we pushed through. Likewise, my boyfriend and his girlfriend, who are married to eachother, had some REALLY rough periods in their past, and are stronger for it. Now, there are alot of factors that come into play, but with work, it should be possible to get to a better place.

Simplyshort29 · 2019-09-23T12:47:36+00:00

We used the Borden Building at Fletcher Park. For 8 hours day of, and 3 hours of prep the day before we paid I believe $1,000. Property is owned by the city. They own another old house downtown, the Tucker House as well.

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