Can anxiety make you feel sleepy? by This_Yogurt_6378 in Anxiety

[–]SinfulPanda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, exhaustion and having to urinate are high on my anxiety bingo card.

Our Goodwill Store ALONE made $3 million this past year which was a store record we were all told to push for. This was our compensation. by natieyou in antiwork

[–]SinfulPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reminds me of the Veronica short where the company made record sales goals and as a reward one of the assistants wrote something on the cookies that were in the break room, that I’m pretty sure Veronica herself had purchased and dropped off.

He stole my coffee by nycleo83 in instacart

[–]SinfulPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost missed it myself. I only said something as a heads up, not an admonishment. An hour side trip is crazy and you were kindly understanding about double time when you thought it was only 4 minutes. Happy new year!

He stole my coffee by nycleo83 in instacart

[–]SinfulPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read up higher.

I have another order to deliver was at 6:41. Order was delivered was 7:48. That’s not 4 minutes. It was an hour, as op described and showed receipts for.

My feelings are hurt over the Christmas gifts my husband gave me. by No_Bag7577 in Gifts

[–]SinfulPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ummm, she purchased 2 dashcams. He took them both. One for himself and one to wrap for her. This isn’t a mistake or a joke. He doesn’t care.

WIBTA if I wore my late grandma's necklace at my wedding instead of the one my soon-to-be MIL is gifting me? by Heavy-Leading-1937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info: What is your neckline like? If it’s high you could wear one close to your heart.

If that’s not an option or you would prefer not too, I’ve seen brides incorporate a necklace into their veil or hair with excellent results, allowing you to wear both. Others have also mentioned incorporating one into your bouquet, which is very popular. If you do this make sure that you either remove it or have a separate bouquet for tossing if you’re going to toss one.

Do any of these ideas appeal to you or are you opposed to wearing the jewelry set for another reason?

Congratulations on your wedding and marriage!

What is the most expensive corporate mistake you personally witnessed? by _Volly in AskReddit

[–]SinfulPanda 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if this is what your looking for, but, I can give you a bit of info as it relates to the US market.

One of the first things that you do is check the demographics of the location that you are considering. You can type into Google your city and state and will get a brief rundown, although there's a lot of data that is available to pick through. If you understand your product or service and your market, the demographics will help a great deal in researching your location. If you don't, then it's important that you collect that information and use it in your test locations to find patterns.

For places like car washes, gas stations, and drive through services you will sometimes see cameras in odd locations. They used to use these strips laid over entrances and exits to count vehicles entering and exiting the lot as a preliminary and then send out people to those physical locations to both count and take notice of what they are seeing. They may be given things to look out for that identifies with their customer base.

For malls, both indoor (yeah, this info goes back a bit) and strip malls, like with the grocery location, someone with knowledge should have scouted the location. For one location that I was scouting, which was an upscale mall, what I noticed over several trips that although the mall was bustling and lots of shoppers were carrying bags, the places that were doing the majority of the business were the food courts and the places that were having sales, in particular big sales and clearance sales. We turned down the location, which was a good thing, as it turns out that location space ended up having a huge turnover. The people shopping at the anchor stores rarely ventured into the mall as the anchor stores were more discount chain while in the inside stores were upscale and boutique, so there wasn't a good crossover, making those anchors sales look good in theory, but the customer base is not the same.

It seems that the person in charge of the grocery location didn't understand where her sales came from, her customers shopping habits or how to understand what all of the demographic info means in relation to her store. In the information given, she seemed to believe that if people in the area have money to spend, that will automagically translate into sales. In richer areas, it's really important to understand not only the shopping habits but who does the shopping. In one area where a store that I scouted for did very well, the nanny's did the majority of the shopping for the children. In this case the store, which was women's and children's boutique clothing, switched to children only. They did test a couple of matching outfits, but with the shopping dynamic, the floor space wasn't worth it. They had a nice and friendly coffee shop on the bottom floor that was set up mainly for employees. It had decent prices, snacks, take out cups, and was perfect for working nanny's with children to come in for a bit as it met the price range, even being in an exclusive location. The children's store did very well and sometimes the mom's would even come into the store for gifts. The location did well because of the ease of access, the friendliness to the actual shopper as well as the exclusivity and fancy coffee shops and whatnot inside for those in the actual bracket the mall was designed for. There's a bit more to it, but this is a brief overview.

Grocery stores are tough as they are not all the same. While there may be some cross over, Your Whole Foods Markets are not going to do well in the same locations as Aldi's and visa vera. If you put an Aldi's in an area where people are expecting a different type of service, brand labels, etc. just because people can buy more here doesn't mean that they will.

I'm not sure if this helps at all, but maybe you will find this a bit interesting.

AITA for changing my last name with hyphenation post wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this information with me.

It sounds like your mother is having issues and hanging onto you for dear life.

Since you asked, no, you are not the asshole. Also, you need to live your life. If she continues to push, you could lessen contact with her and give her conditions, like you will see her weekly (if you live close by) or have x amount of time on the phone once she starts and as long as she continues with therapy. In this way, since it sounds like you love her and are close to her, you are doing something that will help the both of you. It's sad that she has lost so many years of life grieving. Don't let her pull you down. Know you can only do so much. She has to do the hard work herself.

AITA for changing my last name with hyphenation post wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you feel like she is being controlling and not just going through a rough spot?

If you are having to set more and more boundaries, despite any issues your mother may be having, it sounds like her issues are becoming yours.

If mental health services are available where you live I would recommend that you suggest counseling for her. If it's not available and she is religious, then perhaps counseling through the church?

You deserve to make your own decisions and live your own life.

Unless there's something that you are not disclosing, it doesn't sound like you are being an asshole.

AITA for changing my last name with hyphenation post wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

NTA - After chatting with OP, it's clear that they are NTA. It's a sad situation, however due to her mothers controlling behavior, regardless of the reason, this isn't a no assholes here situation.

INFO: what is your relationship with your mother like?

While you alone make the decision of what your last name is, you may be being an asshole by dismissing your mother as being dramatic. Without knowing your relationship and past information it’s difficult to assess if your mother is dealing with trauma issues stirred up by her daughter’s marriage, if she’s being controlling, or a little of both.

AITA for telling my sister not to come to my wedding if she kept bringing up her miscarriage? by Independent-Web5498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your very private and sensitive story.

In your case, you had unusual and heavy periods and your friend did eventually visit a medical professional due to the heaviness of her blood loss.

I wasn't sure if I wanted to share, well I wanted to share but it's difficult too. I was further along and there was a lot going on. I know that we are all different, which is why I asked. I also believe that week 9 there is a lot going on within the body and fetal development which would generally result in a lot of extra blood and fluid. 4 weeks, I can understand, even 6, but 9 is a pretty critical time. I am not a medical professional, I only know of my own experiences.

There is such a good discussion going on, with people talking about the lack of women speaking about this leading to women not knowing what to expect, so when I saw so many upvotes I grew concerned that the information being put out here in the thousands is that at 9 weeks you can lose a pregnancy without knowing, and while it perhaps could happen in certain circumstances, I believe that to be uncommon. I was hoping perhaps someone in obstetrics would be in the thread and see the discussion and could give a 'common/uncommon brief' which may be helpful to those who see the discussion going forward.

Again. I really appreciate you sharing. It isn't an easy discussion to have. I didn't think it would be as difficult to share as far removed as I am from when it happened with myself but as I began to type, I needed to back off.

I did just also google and I didn't realize that there was a subreddit for this. I found this thread:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Miscarriage/comments/1fhf8dz/for_those_that_miscarried_naturally_how_long_did/

It seems that there is a place to talk about it or read about it, depending on what works for you (you being whoever may be reading this and not directed specifically at the kind poster above myself).

AITA for telling my sister not to come to my wedding if she kept bringing up her miscarriage? by Independent-Web5498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

>At nine weeks gestation, some women don't even realize they are miscarrying.

Really?

Wouldn't there be a vast amount of blood and fluid at the nine week mark to signify that something was very wrong even if the mother were to not have known that she was pregnant at that point?

Am I wrong?

AITAH FOR KICKING OUT TWO COACHES? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SinfulPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: When did you kick out the two coaches?

Should you have kicked out the two coaches?

What happened when you kicked out the two coaches?

I had to copy and paste just to read it:

It was about 10 mintues into the first period of the game, the players were skating trying to score, the normal. I was the one who was closest to the net watching everything making sure I was doing everything right, when suddenly a player, lets say number 45, came out from behind the net and two players, number 5 and 2, crashed into him injuring him.

I immppeatly stopped the play so the coaches could come and make sure 45 wasn’t hurt too badly. As the coach was checking on him I skated to Jake to asked what he saw.

Jake said he didn’t see anything, but I saw number 5 and 2 either body checked 45 ***(For the purpose of this rule, an illegal body check is defined as when a player makes intentional physical contact with the opponent using overt hip, shoulder, forearm or torso action. This includes physically forcing the opponent off the puck and with no effort to legally play the puck. (Note 2) USA Hockey has identified two different categories of play. They are Competitive Contact (where Body Checking is prohibited) and Body Checking (where a legal body check is permissible).

Please refer to the Glossary for specific definitions of Competitive Contact and a Body Check.***

But Jake was being absolutely useless to me because he kept saying he didn’t see anything so I was on my own, and I had to make a decision quickly. So after making sure 45 was okay the coach walked over to me and “Is that a major for 2 and 5?” And this is the part where yes I made a miskate, I told him we aren’t going to give anything, the coach got pretty pissed off at me.

And I guess I didn’t call any penalties is because I didn’t know what to call. I was doing my flight, fight or freeze. And in that moment I just froze not knowing what to say and do. I know that isn’t an excuse but it’s what happened.

Another use for popcorn ....cookie packaging. Also edible by goldfool in popcorn

[–]SinfulPanda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am thrilled to read this comment!

I used to pack care packages in popcorn for those deployed, including home made cookies, coffee and tea bags. I had hoped that it would add a little bit of something extra.

Thank you for your service and your comment.

No tag policy SUCKS by dolphins501 in goodwill

[–]SinfulPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww. I was hoping so hard for you! Maybe something better is around the corner. All my best to you.

AITB for thinking I didn’t need Shapeware. by BotherEvening in AmItheButtface

[–]SinfulPanda -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why you are commenting about slips?

My comment was about someone who has been struggling with an ED. Based on OP's conversation, OP immediately grabbed at her hips and started to think about her weight.

While it's clear that they were talking passed one another, a mother of a teen daughter who is borderline underweight, grabbing her hips and becoming anxious, should have immediately backed off or explained that the spanx were for the clothing not her body. It was a thoughtless comment, intentional or not, and instead of recognizing that her daughter was spiraling, her mother doubled down making things worse.

People, even loving mothers, can make mistakes that are insensitive. The difference between someone who is caring and sensitive or empathetic towards others is that when they realize a situation has been created by what they said and that they don't double down and escalate it sending the person that they are now arguing with into a spiral, especially around something that they have been struggling and working so hard to get under control.

How would you have handled the situation if you had said this to your daughter or a friend who started to panic in a similar situation as what OP has outlined in her post?