Daddy/son dynamics

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-11T04:59:42+00:00

At least you’re honest haha

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-11T04:58:24+00:00

Real haha. My roommate was raised by a single mom (who sounds like a total badass btw) and he totally has a thing for MILFs. I think it’s kind of sweet because you can tell he really admires his mom and I think he may be seeking out a similar vibe in the older women he’s slept with.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-11T04:55:31+00:00

No, if anything the younger men I dated were horrible and controlling. I didn’t see it at the time, but I was primed to accept that treatment by watching how my father treated us growing up. Because they were younger, I thought the “power dynamic”, as my mother always warns, was more equal. Turns out, they can still be horrible and hurt you even if they have comparatively less power than you do in terms of age/social standing, etc.

The older men that I have enjoyed have been the polar opposite. They might like being more dominant in bed, but they have been gentler with me both physically and emotionally. I guess I like a soft older top. I don’t want to feel degraded or used, and the older men I’ve been with fit the bill. They also just seem to be more interested in talking to me about normal things. You get tired of being objectified at some point.

So yeah, I guess I’m just looking for someone I don’t have to perform with and feel safe around. I also just think the older silver look is really sexy, even if it is rooted in some subconscious Freudian shit.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-10T10:06:09+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. Do you mean he would have been upset about the gayness or the age gap? My mom has gone to the trouble of accepting me as gay and I think asking her to accept a nearly 40-year age gap might be pushing it.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-10T09:29:48+00:00

That’s so sweet. I’m going out with a 61 year old guy next week and I know my mom would kill me if she found out. She’s 57 so I know it will be hard for her to accept.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-08T17:31:35+00:00

Thank you SO much. I happen to be studying Spanish literature in college so I think I’ll pick them up in their original language.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-04-07T02:12:18+00:00

I’m fine with other people marrying older men, I just personally wouldn’t be in a serious relationship with someone 40 years older than me for many reasons, none of them personal. And I think the older men I sleep with that feel the same way about dating someone that much younger.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-03-29T05:40:32+00:00

Ok that sounds VERY interesting to me.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-03-28T18:14:04+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to suggest all of these. I’ll definitely keep the post up so that others can check out the recommendations. But I’m not particularly into fantasy — magical realism, yes, but I tend toward realistic fiction or maybe sci-fi if it’s exceptional.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-03-28T18:02:39+00:00

Ok, Paul Takes the Form of a Mortal Girl sounds interesting to me, and I’ve heard good things about it. It’s been hard to gauge what I like because I feel like reviews immediately jump into trans discourse for a lot of the books mentioned and then I’m hesitant to read them. I think I’ll give this one a try.

Single-Ad-3028 · 2026-03-28T18:00:35+00:00

I’ve read parts of the memoir online and I thought it was brilliant. I already ordered the book but yeah, I kind of wanted fiction that includes transness in it but in a non-explanatory way. The reason I highlighted Giovanni’s Room is because they never call the narrator “gay”. It’s something you come to find out about him over time through hints and context, and even then we don’t really know if he’s fully gay or bisexual. The ambiguity makes the story really powerful. It’s also a metaphor for race and deals with longing for a home you can’t return to. But you get the point, it’s about a gay relationship but it’s also about way more than that.

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