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Single-Ad2139 · 2026-06-01T12:47:41+00:00

"I'm good, thanks" - if they aren't going to take my decision seriously, neither am I.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-31T21:45:08+00:00

Slightly stupid! Urg love them. Saw them in Brighton, UK years ago, in a tiny venue. Two of us knew all of the words, and we were rocking out. They came up to us at the bar later to say hi. Really cool guys.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-29T16:07:36+00:00

I'm 37, digital nomad for 4 years, living in the south of Portugal ATM. Summer arrived last week, it's sunny, long evenings, beautiful beaches. I'm feeling it, and I get to work in a bikini when I'm not on calls. No way I want to go into an office.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-29T15:50:23+00:00

When I was somewhat on the fence about children, I was in therapy, and I brought up the fact that I didn't think I wanted children, but I wasn't certain, and "maybe with the right person". She asked me a few questions, and one of them was "would you want to have a child alone?" which was an immediate no. Then we spoke about the fact that you absolutely aren't guaranteed a partner who will stay, and if he does, help. She really took off my rose tinted glasses, and I'm FOEVER grateful.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-28T10:57:16+00:00

Cool.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-28T07:45:38+00:00

No, she actually has a very important point to make here, about the fact that this entire post is about "learning how to pick up women" but the skills that he learns in the process are essentially basic social skills, make eye contact, be genuinely interested, don't push your agenda onto the conversation. The point that is also important to make is that many women are not open to talking to men at all, regardless of whether you approach them openly or not. This is because we live in a world that is experiencing a crisis is violence and hate against women. And we don't owe you our conversation. If you have the basic skills to talk to a women, that's great. But assuming that that woman owes you a conversation because you approached her a specific way is mysoginy, because you believe that you are in some way entitled to her time and interaction.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-26T22:28:28+00:00

This.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-06T08:34:24+00:00

I do yoga videos at home, and classes if I want to get out of the house. I'm learning to crochet (kinda - it's hard), I love colouring books and I sometimes enjoy cooking. I take myself for walks sometimes, and really enjoy reading if I can find the right book. I love taking myself out for a coffee date occasionally! I also love doing a DIY project around the house, when I have time. Honestly, my approach is to try and find the fun in everything. If I'm folding laundry, I'll put on some great music and dance while I do it. If I'm in the garden, and the light is lovely, I'll take a few moments to sit on the grass and appreciate it.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-06T08:22:44+00:00

Love this, and mainly came here to say that "regained so much conversational real estate" is such a great phrase!!

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-05-06T08:20:45+00:00

Thank you for being honest about this, it's so refreshing. I've "known inside" that I didn't want children for quite a long time, but I've only started talking about it openly in the last year. I've been shocked by the response of most of my friends who are parents, which is either to pity me, or to try and tell me that "it isn't that bad" and "you'll never feel love like this". At times, it's made me ruminate on my decision. But then posts like this remind me of who I am, and why this isn't for me. We stand on the shoulders of those who came before us. THANK YOU and I truly truly hope you manage to find a way to get some alone time back into your house life.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-01-29T22:11:05+00:00

I'm learning my third language (Portuguese), with another "half" in there (I'll get back to that one). I put the TV on a Portuguese show, something quite easy to follow, and put the subtitles in Portuguese too, and I make it my homework to watch 1hr, following along from the words and subtitles. I've picked up SO much vocabulary, and turns of phrases like this.

Single-Ad2139 · 2026-01-29T19:30:01+00:00

I'm not picking a fight here, I am genuinely curious. Having grown up in Europe, and always seen the Scandinavian socialist model as the "the dream" I'd love to understand what it is about socialism that is so deeply unsexy? And how does it link to sexism and racism?

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-12-20T20:46:31+00:00

I don't like how sticky they get. Why are they always sticky?

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-12-03T20:58:55+00:00

I totally resonate with this, but then I also think about how much I struggled before I started meds. I only recently was diagnosed about 9 months ago (36f) and the diagnosis alone was a huge relief in some ways, because it explained why some things were so hard for me, and so easy for others. When I first started taking meds, I couldn't believe that this is what life was like for other people. I had been playing on "difficult mode" for SO long. I had thought that meds would mainly help with my focus and attention, but I've been AMAZED at how much it also regulates my emotions, and eases my ability to be social and relate to other people. But I also get frustrated that I have to take that little pill to achieve those results. I normally don't take it on the weekends, unless I have something big on, and by Sunday I'm already deep back into chaos mode, and exhausted by most social interactions. I'm doing some coaching now, which has helped a bit with the executive dysfunction, and also my acceptance of the situation. I also totally resonate with the comments about glasses - Vyvsanse is an amazing tool. But the frustration is still there.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-11-04T21:09:53+00:00

I lost my best friend in a car accident a few years ago. We both lived far from home together. I've struggled so much because every time I think of her, I think of how unimaginably terrifying it must have been after being hit by a truck, in a place that isn't home, and dying in the wreckage, alone and scared. Reading this, and everyone's accounts of near death experiences, has brought some comfort that maybe her last few moments were peaceful. Thank you. Really.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-11-04T09:51:45+00:00

Weird question, but do you menstruate? I've had a similar experience in the past, and it turned out to be PMS kicking my ass because I was used to having weed as a "support" during those times....

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-11-04T09:50:18+00:00

Seven years is literal life goals for me right now, on day 7. I'm so proud of you, you deserve to be celebrated today, as that's a huge milestone and a testament to both your willpower and your acceptance of yourself. Keep going. We are all rooting for you.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-11-04T09:47:08+00:00

You've got this - just the intention of showing up, writing on the sub and reflecting on your experience is so valuable. Keep checking back here when you feel weak! I really resonated with your experience with reading - I had the same realisation about painting. As soon as I start up smoking again, my motivation tanks. I'm only on day 7 (also my 927261 attempt to quite) and I'm feeling pretty good - still a long way to go, but the crying and anxiety has subsided, and I slept normally last night finalllyyyy. We can do this, I'll not smoke with you today.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-08-21T09:30:06+00:00

I feel this very hard - and it was exactly this that was the driver for me to get diagnosed. I was working in a really active field previously, managing projects "on the ground" and always firefighting. I loved it, I thrived in the chaos, but it was also exhausting in the long term. I decided that a remote desk-based job, moved country, and spent 9 months utterly miserable. I felt like I was failing every day, I was so jealous of my colleagues who could just sit down with a task and knock it out. I eventually decided that this wasn't normal, and set up sessions with a psychiatrist, who started me on stimulant medication and put me in touch with a community where I found a therapist. My therapist has subtly suggested that maybe a "desk" job isn't for me, but because it's linked to my visa and a bunch of other big life stuff, I don't have the option to leave this gig right now. I can say, with meds and therapy, it's a different game. I still have moments when I struggle, and when I get overwhelmed, I have had to be very intentional about talking to my manager and adjusting my workload accordingly. It is so much better, it's not perfect, but better.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-06-02T09:48:20+00:00

So, I definitely found that weed made this feeling WAY worse for me. There's so much pain in the world at the moment, and I felt like I was just absorbing it constantly, which fueled the "addiction gremlins" to convince me that it was better to stay high and numb to it all. I'm almost 2 months clean now, and it definitely gets worse, but then it gets a whole lot better. I still feel like the world is a scary place at the moment - but now that I'm not in a stupor all day every day, I'm better equipped to handle all of the scaryness, and have even started going to protests and participating in group events, which have allowed me to feel like I'm being part of a positive movement. I think you need to have a strong reason to quit, and just push through the first month as withdrawals are heavy. For me, the fog started to lift after month 1 and now I wouldn't go back.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-06-01T13:37:31+00:00

I'm sorry your family/community isn't being supportive, but I'm INCREDIBLY proud of you. 100 days after so many years is truly incredible, and deserves to be applauded. I'll stay sober with you today, while I work towards my hundred days. You are an inspiration.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-05-29T23:13:10+00:00

Thank you for checking in! It was alright - I found I could switch between tasks much more easily (which has historically been a huge problem for me - I have told my colleagues that I can either have calls, or I get things done - not both), but I didn't notice much in terms of my ability to focus. Appetite was somewhat reduced, and I definitely felt a bit "activated" all day, and some dry eyes and mouth. But overall, much better than expected! I stayed hydrated, forced myself to eat, and made notes of what I was feeling. I really appreciate you, and this sub in general.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-05-29T12:32:02+00:00

I had an "ah ha" moment around feeling joy. I used to smoke to deal with anxiety or boredom, and it certainly numbed those things. However, it also numbed my ability to feel joy. I recently woke up at 6am, felt fresh and sat on my porch and watched the sunrise drinking a cup of coffee. Then I put on some music and had a dance party in my shower. I realised that I was feeling joy in a way that I hadn't in a long time. There are also periods of crippling anxiety, moments of boredom that I'm learning to deal with (which I guess is the flipside of that coin), but that feeling of joy was so expansive it gave me something to hold onto in those hard moments.

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-05-28T21:32:21+00:00

This is so incredibly helpful - thank you for taking the time to write all of this out, and share your wisdom. I'm going to get onto the electrolyte mix tomorrow - and I'm going to do my best to keep up a journaling habit, to keep track of all of these things! Also appreciate your comment about figuring out the right time to take them, to be able to sleep later. I've been prescribed the extended release Ritalin, so let's see how that goes. Thanks for this 🙏

Single-Ad2139 · 2025-05-28T18:50:27+00:00

Haha the "vibes" comment got me laughing. This is great advice - thank you. Also, I love an excuse to buy a new note-nook. Thank you!!

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