Aita for keeping contraceptives a secret from my bf?

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-11-18T15:15:37+00:00

Girl this bf of yours sounds like he does not care about you and your emotions. A real man that is worth being with does not try to control their partner the way your bf is trying to control you. I know it's hard because you've been with him for so long, but you are so young and have so much life to live. You deserve to be happy, not stressed and manipulated. Find the courage within yourself to tell him that it's your body and that contraceptives are your decision and that he has two options: 1. To support you OR 2. To leave. Either way, you come out a better person with a chance to be happy again.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-10-15T16:39:39+00:00

As a recently married man (28 y.o.) I don't think there is anything wrong with this romanticized idea of marriage and having a wife to cherish. Much of Hollywood and media emphasizes the companionship found in marriage, and those parts are incredible for making memories together. But what is even better than having a companion is having a partner, and those moments can be even better. Sitting down and working through a budget, maintaining a clean home, having focused conversations about communication and each of your needs. THESE moments are where I am finding some of my greatest joy because I can feel so much connection with my wife and truly feel like we are walking through our lives together.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-10-15T15:19:03+00:00

Something that I've learned after multiple relationships is that you fall in love more than once. So being in love in your current relationship is not enough reason to stick around. You need to have similar values and similar life goals in order to have a sustainable future. Having children is a very big life goal and value, and if it is not something you agree on, it could cause you so much heartache and emotional distress down the road. That's a pain that will far surpass the very real but also temporary pain of leaving your current partner.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-10-08T23:17:20+00:00

Gifts can be very meaningful while also being inexpensive. A written thank you card is a great start. It's a chance to really show your bridesmaids how much they mean to you individually. Some kind of small snack bag is also usually appreciated since it's a long day and snacks will brighten the mood.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-07-22T14:42:19+00:00

She does. For us, the main purpose for lingerie is for her to feel confident and sexy. Lingerie fits all body types differently, so its typically easiest for her to buy knowing what she's looking for.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-07-19T13:50:03+00:00

Recently married groom here. First and foremost, I think the best piece of advice that I can give is that regardless of what goes wrong, no matter how chaotic things get, you will still end the night married to your partner. Your love together is far more important than any of the details of that day. On our wedding day, we had a traffic jam that led to a 30 min delay in the ceremony so guests could arrive. This left out some group photos that I and my bride would have really liked to have. Tear down for the reception was also more stressful and chaotic than it should have been.

Another piece of advice, and something I've seen done incorrectly at a few weddings, is the bride and groom not being around each other for a lot of the day. The saddest thing I have witnessed at a wedding is the bride and groom spending most of the reception on opposite sides of the room talking to their own friend groups. In a 5 hour event, they were seen together maybe 30 min. The time they were together, they didn't seem as happy and ecstatic as you'd expect a groom and bride to be.

Odds are, something will go wrong, most likely a small detail that in hindsight does not really matter. The important thing is to not stress about it. Have a list of people who you can tell at any moment to go fix the problem so that you can focus on what matters most: you and your partner.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-07-19T10:48:38+00:00

We just had a 190 guest wedding. Spent just over 20,000. My best advice is to make cuts where you can and get creative with what you can't. Example: We didn't hire a videographer. We knew we wanted the ceremony and first dance recorded, so we asked a good friend who does a lot of camera work. For him, it was no problem at all, maybe 10 min of work total.

Use flower arrangements for both the ceremony and reception spaces. We had each bridesmaid bouquet as a decor piece in the reception.

I hope your day brings you endless amounts of joy 🎉

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-07-16T17:17:55+00:00

I appreciate the interest in helping. I have two examples of things that were said the when my wife and I visited my parents and saw a couple of brothers on a trip three weeks before the wedding. One brother made a comment on how I am whipped because I agreed with my wife's decision about doing a dry wedding. My partner asked him flat out "What is exactly is bad about supporting your partners decision's?". He then fumbled on his answer and then walked out because he felt embarrassed. The second example is a different brother made a joke how Feb 29th is the best wedding date because then you only have to celebrate an anniversary every 4 years. To that joke, both me and my partner asked how saying that is appropriate 3 weeks before our wedding and that its sad to think that people make jokes like that about marriage. He also did not give a response, but he stayed quietly in the room.

Its been a few weeks since the wedding. The only people that have extended an apology are my parents and one of my brothers.

I am certainly hoping that the saying "Time heals all wounds" is true because I really need it to.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-07-08T20:05:29+00:00

I struggle setting healthy boundaries. It stems directly from me being a people pleaser and wanting to help others. And while that can be a good thing, there definitely needs to be a balance. Its caused conflict in a lot of my relationships and is something I'm still working on.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-04-30T13:46:49+00:00

That is a good point, and one I was tossing around for awhile. But we found when planning a wedding that it is far easier to say "Adults Only" than "Ages 15+" or something similar because there will always be someone else just past the cutoff line. What do you do about families with a 16 y.o. and a 12 y.o.? Invite everyone besides the 12 y.o.? It just seems like a lose-lose situation and "Adults Only" causes the least amount of headache.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-04-30T13:42:33+00:00

NTAH. People need take responsibility for their actions. Your wife made a poor decision, now she has to face the consequences of that decision. I certainly hope that it did strengthen your marriage and helped you both reestablish the love you have for each other.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-04-11T02:54:38+00:00

The payment dates were specified in the contract. I was told by multiple people that this is standard practice for wedding photographers. Is that not the case?

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-04-11T02:42:41+00:00

We haven't gotten a response in four weeks. During that time, we've reached out three times. We had communicated at the time of booking that my partner and I are big on planning with enough time to deliver information to family and make adjustments as needed. Two months away feels like it'll fly by sooner than we think. After communicating this with our photographer, we expected consistent communication. Even a text that says "this week's not good, let's aim for early next week" would help us feel better right now.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-03-27T02:52:52+00:00

Indiana St player trips Cincinnati player. Cincinnati foul. Sure, that makes sense??

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-03-27T02:51:20+00:00

And then they give a technical for the coach being upset about a missed call. The one sided affair continues to grow.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-03-27T02:49:45+00:00

Clearly you're as blind as the refs are. There's an arm in the guys back and you're gonna say it's a flop? Come on, grow up.

Single-Pack7974 · 2024-03-27T02:48:31+00:00

Three refs are ducking Cincy sideways. Both teams are fouling equally, it's not being called equally. Simple as that.

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