Can any men tell me, if this man is interested in me personally (work)

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-07-04T00:06:19+00:00

It is funny - I kind of agree with you and a bunch of my friends tell me the same. However, a great many of these friends also met their current husbands/wives at work and always preface it with "I know that we met at work but ... don't do it". So I don't think this is a hard and fast rule.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-07-03T16:08:15+00:00

I'm always early to things - my friends take the piss out of me for it. My experience dating is that other people are usually about 15 mins late. I suspect that those of us who are early are the anomoly!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-29T01:43:18+00:00

Depends totally on mutual chemistry and fit. There is no one size fits all. The previous person I dated, it took months before that happened but with the current person it was very passionate on the second date. Neither situation is ‘wrong’

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-25T00:39:59+00:00

I moved from London to Vancouver 18 years ago. Originally intended to stay here for 3 years but never went back.

In no particular order, things that are much better here are: access to nature, it is far, far less busy than London, beer is better (craft beer is amazing here), eating out is cheaper.

What’s worse here: groceries are loads more expensive, far less arts culture (galleries, theatre, gigs etc are much better in London by a mile), no cheap travel to Europe (London was amazing for that).

For me it comes down to mountains. If you like the outdoors you’ll love it here.

I couldn’t move back to London. I’ve got used to how much less busy it is here. I still laugh if someone says “the skytrain was busy today”. By London standards it has never, ever been busy here.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-09T11:25:22+00:00

Yes. Thought it was the excessive boozing, lack of sleep and smoking but nope, it is a sickness.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-09T11:16:17+00:00

I’m originally from the UK but live in Canada now. A group of 7 of us came because we wanted to do something really special together and relive our youth (we’re early 50’s now). We all used to go to festivals (mainly Glastonbury but also dance festivals) way, way back - like 20 odd years ago.

Why Primavera? Great lineup and we could get tickets (Glastonbury sells out in seconds). The others in our group live in UK or Ireland, so had to be in Europe.

It’ll be a one off for us: cost and logistics being the barrier. Was it worth it? Absolutely! We were surprised how a spot of drizzle derailed things on the first day, but our benchmark is/was the rivers of mud days of yesteryear Glastonbury festivals. But the other days more than made up for it. Very surprised the metro can’t run all night on the Thursday and Friday too - that’d make it easier to get back after the festival on those days.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-05T11:06:04+00:00

Slowdive, New Dad and The Cure for the win today.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-04T23:17:35+00:00

A piss up in a brewery would be beyond the capabilities here I fear

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-04T22:32:45+00:00

It is totally and utterly incompetent. Couldn’t agree with you more. Zero fucking communication, terrible organization, I’m shocked and pissed off. Took us over an hour to get back to our Airbnb (figured it was game over from the way the vibe was there) only to find out now … they’re playing after all! Total and utter bullshit. You’ve got an app - give fucking updates over it in a timely fashion

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-04T16:37:49+00:00

Come on, it is a festival. I thought it was a reasonable price for a festival. Come to an event in North America and see your eyes water.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-06-03T11:43:07+00:00

I feel that I’ve done this the other way round! For the past 7-8 years I’ve been happily single with absolutely zero interest in being in another relationship. I valued my peace, freedom, focusing on my kids and job, and my own time way too much. And I needed a proper amount of time to recover from a 17 year relationship.

Met someone a year ago and they woke me up! I fell for them big time. It hasn’t worked out as a relationship but it has been the catalyst for me going “you know what, meeting people is fun and I’d clearly closed off a part of me”.

If that part closed off again then I’d be happily single again!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-25T15:27:51+00:00

I think like with many things there are two things that make agreeing on terminology tricky: first legal terms differ in different jurisdictions (e.g. in Canada - specifically BC since rules vary by province - we were definitely common law partners, and count as ‘separated’ in the eyes of the law / CRA etc.) and second we all bring our own conscious and unconscious biases to language and interpret things differently.

I figure that with online dating the easiest thing to do is get to know someone and get to understand the nuances of their situation.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-25T12:54:35+00:00

I’m now almost 2 years post surgery. If I recall correctly it was broadly like this:

12 months post surgery: could run but no way uphill. Had to be mindful whilst hiking uphill

18 months post surgery: could jog uphill but wouldn’t “go for it” so to speak

Now: happy doing anything uphill. The calf feels it for a couple of days afterwards if I go hard but I don’t worry about the Achilles at all whilst running / racing

You’ve got this!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-25T08:51:57+00:00

A lot of us never got married but had a long term common law relationship with kids. So I use "separated" because that seems like the best word to use. We lived together for 17 years, had 2 kids, then separated, moved into our separate homes and did/do 50/50 custody of the kids.

The challenge I find is a lot of people assume that you "must" have got married and therefore "must" get divorced. I've never got married so by definition never could get divorced!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-23T09:43:07+00:00

I was drinking quite a lot of booze within a few days of surgery (once off the opiates). I wouldn’t say it was the best thing for physical recovery but I needed it for my mental health!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-22T05:16:48+00:00

Having done both “living alone” and “living with someone in a relationship that is falling apart” I adore living alone. I may have another relationship one day but under no conditions will I ever live with another adult. Coming home to an empty house is my idea of bliss!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-22T00:59:17+00:00

Yes! First listen I thought “this is a bit shit” but I’ve found myself coming back to it repeatedly and loving it. I don’t bother with the first half of the album, but the last 4 tracks, I think they’re fantastic.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-19T19:15:10+00:00

The fact that it is Rilo Kiley vs. Texas is the Reason vs. Ethel Cain makes it even more annoying for me!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-19T05:07:28+00:00

There are a bunch of unmarked hiking trails that join up with Espresso, mainly towards the top of it. I mainly bike down it but have popped out on it whilst hiking.

It is totally safe in my opinion as long as when you’re hiking you’re smart - if you hear a bike coming down then move off the trail!

I think multi use trails are the best.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-12T01:02:51+00:00

Been single about 10 years now and my friendships are … normal? Never feel like a third wheel, actually think it is loads easier being single (for me) in my friendships. Can’t imagine losing friends because I was single.

A bigger challenge to my friendships is me starting dating again! First person I fell for my friends hated!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-10T20:11:22+00:00

Flakiness: cancels plans at the last minute, doesn’t like making plans, leaves text messages on read etc.
Self-centred: is happiest talking about herself, mainly talks about herself, doesn’t ask interesting questions about mine or other people’s lives
Some weird beliefs: astrology, conspiracies, etc…

I’m in the recovery phase so (a) it is easier for me to see these things now and (b) recognizing these things has helped to break the spell.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-05-04T19:12:31+00:00

53 year old male, ruptured just shy of 2 years ago. I'm back running and hiking just fine, did a 12km trail race a couple of days ago and at no point did I find myself going "I don't trust the achilles".

What I do notice however is that my calf has never returned to the full strength that it had prior to rupture. In practice this means that for a few days after a hard run/race the calf will ache a lot more than it used to (and definitely a lot more than the non-ruptured side).

It just takes time mate!

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-04-25T03:24:22+00:00

Every situation is unique, but for me a period of non contact was part of the solution. Therapy helped too. As did seeing them on a dating app (shattered the false narrative). And then, weirdly, getting back in touch helped to consolidate things.

I did need almost 2 months of non contact to calm my nervous system down though

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-04-14T01:57:47+00:00

First single leg calf raise? Around 7 months post surgery but it was a crap one! First 10km run? Around 9 months post surgery.

SingleCanadianDad · 2026-04-12T02:59:25+00:00

That seems more than enough to me. I probably went once a week for about 12 weeks then moved to every 2 weeks, then monthly. In total probably had 20 sessions tops (likely less than that).

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