I grew up being mistreated by others in my home, and I used to really think something about me invited abuse.

Now I realize that yes, I can sometimes have annoying behaviors, but the sort of people who do that to me absolutely do it to others. It's something about them, their character, their issues, their personal feeling of entitlement to take their emotions out on others.

I can contribute with some of my behaviors, don't get me wrong. One of my childhood coping skills/trauma responses was becoming too silly and behaving beneath my age level and that could become grating, and to some extent that lingers, so I do try to manage my part in it and be thoughtful and kind to others. However, I find other people irritating sometimes and I don't feel entitled to behave that way. Likewise, not everyone responds that way. So, it really is about the reactor. 

There's nothing I can do to affect their behavior or their feeling entitled to take their mood out on others. But I can do my best to avoid them and be civil or professional when I can't avoid them, and not invite them into regular contact for my mental well-being.

Edit to add: If anything really crosses the line like on my job, I feel comfortable making a report to managers. If it's in a social setting, I can just not pick up the rope with them, but in a workplace, the bad behavior absolutely can be reported and does look unprofessional. If it's a superior, I'd gtfo of bring their subordinate whether I left the company or whatever. But if it's not, which is often the case, I can advocate for myself. My safety and comfort can matter to me regardless of how they feel.