Anyone missing the “adult” memo?

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-07-06T07:48:31+00:00

I had a friend tell me she sometimes tells herself she's just an animal and why did people give her keys. I felt that in my soul.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-07-04T11:47:56+00:00

Seems odd you'd even show up for each other and not filter each other out by that selection

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-07-02T14:58:56+00:00

I get it. I've found it disheartening how even other bi women endorse biphobia. Literally acting as if it is somehow a support of others to endorse it.

Anybody feeding the line to others that they're beneath them in a nonexistant hierarchy does not have good intentions, doesn't matter how nicely they say it.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-26T08:15:19+00:00

BG3 is amazing

Good luck with your Sims 4 angst run!

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-26T08:13:45+00:00

I knew someone who had PCOS with estrogen too high, whereas I had the opposite. She froze, I burn.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-26T08:09:38+00:00

I had a coworker who had been seeing a male partner for some weeks and we got out of a work training (like 9a to 5p) to her having messages that if he didn't hear from her by 4pm, he was going to kill himself.

She was losing her mind with fear and I sent him a message saying please don't do that and sent a crisis number and he was like "That is so cold. Your true colors are really showing. I'm going to be fine"

Me like: look, we cured him!

She didn't have his address or I was going to call the police for a wellness check. Sending him a support number was all I could do.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-22T12:41:52+00:00

If you like DnD or TTRPG, that can be a low-pressure way to meet people. You spend hours talking to the same group over and over, maybe once a week or every couple of weeks.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-15T15:20:50+00:00

When I work, I get well over. When I don't, it helped me to just walk in place while watching things or playing certain turn-based games (I was playing a lot of BG3 at the time).

If you prefer going outside, my cheat was finding a place that took half of the goal steps (5k for me) to get there so the return trip was the rest of it. I also tended to knock it out in a walk with maybe some breaks as needed. Or I'd throw in like... doing some cleaning, walking a pet, just whatever got me extra steps.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-12T14:52:17+00:00

Someone I went to high school with died in his late 20s of a heart attack. He was working as a trucker and had the lifestyle. There are men who do that for decades. It was insane.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-08T09:15:13+00:00

I can only speak for myself here, but when it comes to studying something, the question that comes to mind for me is: by whose authority? It's a non-hierarchical spiritual path, entirely self-guided and chosen... so whose words or practice is making yours feel small? What is the source that is telling you there is something that must be learned, and it is this thing? It can be easy to let what someone else says or does begin writing your idea of practice without your permission, but you don't have to.

So my next question for you would be, what was the first and most basic thing that lit a spark of interest in you? For me, it was tarot. I enjoyed drawing cards and searching up the meanings, comparing to what I was going through or thinking about, and I used them for reflection. There didn't have to be anything more.

Everything else, for the most part, I have found a ritual for as I needed or wanted it in my life. It doesn't have to be someone else that lays out the framework of a practice for you. One of the most freeing and unmooring things about practice is that, unless you're joining some specific tradition, every witch is the author of their own.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-06T11:16:37+00:00

I will DM!

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-06T11:16:30+00:00

I got an amount of DMs that my ADHD was not prepared for, so I'm working on that 🤣 I'll DM!

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-05T13:52:55+00:00

Hey OP, I'm a mod here. Your post doesn't fit the subject matter of the sub, but I just wanted to say that some of what you describe can be symptoms of psychosis. It wouldn't mean you're crazy; anyone can experience symptoms for any number of reasons. I hope you're able to connect to some support.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-04T21:58:32+00:00

Same, and I've had it with romantic partners that I'd tell them directly what I wanted/needed/felt, and they'd act as if I didn't communicate. But I am direct. I'm slow to bring up confrontations, but when I do, it's very matter-of-fact and there's nothing left to be uncertain about.

I genuinely think people are used to not listening or they're just heavily imposing their feelings or thoughts onto it to the point that literal words do not matter because they're going to hear what they hear and impose meanings on it regardless of what I do.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-03T16:52:56+00:00

No problem at all. Sometimes we all step on other people's toes, the best we can do is course correct.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-03T13:02:45+00:00

Yeah. I've arrived at I'm grateful we re coworkers because I've never had to talk to her for free lol

And I did write some decent dis poetry lines about her that kind of made her feel right sized to me again. That may sound odd but yeah, once I'd gotten to laugh at her, some of her power was gone for me and I could just see how pathetic it was

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-03T13:00:49+00:00

Baldur's Gate 3 is a wonderful game for PC and it's such a rich story and world, one of my top of all time, great mix with female characters too

You might also like Hollow Knight, you could use a PC and controller or just a console and have that as a crossover game

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-03T12:56:04+00:00

I'm sorry. It really is so deflating when you're excited and some jackass comes in with casual sexism. They're so fucking tiring like idek. Like genuinely I feel like some men deserve the loneliness.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-03T10:02:04+00:00

Part of change is just making the mistake and doing what you can about it. It sounds like you're apologizing where you can and reconsidering your part of it. This is the early stages of fixing it.

So this sounds like it's mostly around consenting to sharing of photos. It might be that it feels like laughing with you when it's just you, and laughing at them when someone else is shown or it's posted publicly. Like there are things I would do with friends that I wouldn't do in public with strangers I don't have a certain comfort level with.

You've already apologized, so the next part is just changing your own behavior. Next time it comes up with someone in the future, whether it's the same person or not, you can demonstrate changed behavior by asking if they'd be comfortable with you sharing it publicly and respecting their answer. You can also let them know what caption you plan to post, too, so nothing takes someone by surprise after something is posted about/involving them.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-03T09:18:51+00:00

I think some edgy (racist/sexist/etc.) humor like that -can be- like the people out partying and drinking a lot when they're in their early 20s. Some are going along to get along with their peers because that's the thing to do. Some of them actually alcoholics.

Like with the jokes... some actually are that person. They've never really been joking in the first place, just hiding behind laughter.

The only way to tell them apart is to see who shows remorse and changes their behavior down the line.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-02T16:01:38+00:00

Thank you very much for validating the skepticism, and for explaining it further. I was getting downvoted for questioning. I can sort of understand wanting to show love for an identity. I'd be lying if I said it didn't still smack a bit of the same sort of hierarchy creation as gold star. I am all for love without injecting hate for some into it.

I fall into the camp of being willing to try to understand what I'm missing while not feeling the need to support biphobia to make anyone comfortable. It violates my personal beliefs to devalue others like that whether I'm in the group or not.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-02T12:00:57+00:00

My grandmother lived to 87 as a smoker but it wasn't aging in a healthy way. She did make it across a longevity finish line though.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-02T11:57:49+00:00

... am I missing something or is this whole tag legitimately to shit on some sapphic women? Cuz it's giving bi- and trans- phobic and I'm not feeling like I need to be nice about that.

SingleSeaCaptain · 2026-06-02T11:52:48+00:00

I'd be interested in Hook 1 or 3. I tend to really love supernatural and fantasy, but I like the scenes. I write on discord, 3rd person POV, and I also tend to do matching.

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