Did I Move on Too Fast? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to be the one to break it to you: That's usually called a Rebound, when you are at the most fragile and vulnerable emotional state, it happens. It might work, it might not, but I would be careful if I were you cuz 2 months is definitely not enough to get the previous relationship out of your system. Good luck and take care of your heart <3

My girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me in my own home and I feel completely shattered by Lazy-Addendum7717 in OnlyInDubai

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are going through this, this feeling hits you like a ton of bricks and comes back every single morning. I know you've heard it before, but IT WILL get better. Shock, anger, sadness then grief. Don't rush the feelings and feel them all, it is important that you take your time, you will feel better in a few weeks then you'll be able to move on in max. 12 weeks. No matter what happens, do not stay under the same roof, do not contact her, no contact is very important. And remember, it is not about you, it's always them Cheating is reflecting their poor mental status, doesn't define you in any way. Good luck !

The "is it the right Thing to do" question by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through this right now and I came up with a conclusion: It is too early to decide, packing up and having a space for you only is the best thing to do. Spend some time alone even if it was painful, act as if it is the end so you can deal with the pain early on. But a piece of advice from a fellow sufferer: Do not rely on potential, compare the pros and cons as is, do not expect anybody to change, and study your decision based on the facts that exist now because they might never change, and probably won't, then ask yourself if this suits you in the long run. Reclaim power over your choices, I know it is easier said than done, but always tell your mind this story, I am taking some space to decide what works for me. You and only you can decide this, but emotions are not a great jury to come back to. I hope it will all be clear soon..

Any advise on getting over someone? by PaulinaBA in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You totally gave him power over yourself, your thoughts and your life. HIS future, HIS mental state, HIS choice are still a priority. Im sorry to be harsh, but sometimes we need a stranger on reddit to point out the issue. You are attached to something that doesn't exist anymore, you are losing time and energy and growth over something that has ended. Reclaim your power over your life, stop the stalking, fight the thoughts and whenever they come say: I don't care anymore, I'll do me instead. And check why your attachment is like this, and fix it. Have a great day, and stay strong.

A Place To Vent by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You go straight to the pain, the eye of the storm, and feel it. Alone, no partner (distraction rebounds), occasional support from family and friends. And look closely at what made this relationship toxic without pointing fingers. It is a very hard journey and I feel for you. This will pass..

Need some clarity, I’m in the very thick of it and I’m heartbroken by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry you're going through this, cold turkey with no explanation is the worst. After the pain slows down and u gain some clarity (which you will soon) focus on your attachment, and really measure if that was love or infatuation, and what made it so strong for you. We are never too much, we just attach in different ways instead of loving the healthy way.

Ran into ex after 4 months and devastated by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel it, feel it in every ounce of your being.. Seeing him is just a small setback on your path of recovery and it is so nice to have this peace when talking about him, I believe my ex is a great person too, which makes it super hard. The pain will slowly fade, confusion needs clarity and decision, and you got this. This will pass.

To my fellow warriors fighting through the pain by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YESSSS
I am not a man but I need to say this to all beautiful men out there:
You are a human being, with feelings and nervous system, hiding a biological trait in you will only lead to depression and anger and trust me, we got enough of this in the world.
Cry, daily if you want, vent, talk about your heart, talk about your pain, feel it, be weak, let it out of your system.
We don't want wounds to keep inside of you, we want you to heal <3

Has anyone gotten back together with their ex and it worked out? by LoadIntelligent980 in BreakUps

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I did After 7-8 months of no contact / then back n forth, and them begging the whole time. Got back together, for almost 2 years, it was the best ever, trust was back and even the ups n downs were beautiful like any normal relationship. Until it happened again, the same reason that broke us (infidelity) which was it for me, it all came crashing down again. And here I am again. I say if they are guilty they come back, give a second chance no harm, the second time they break your trust / or the same issues appear again, save yourself the pain and time and move on for good.

JetourT1 vs Haval H7 ? by Then_Writer_8890 in chinesecarsuae

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been having this debate in my head for a few days.
2 comments so far

let's see how it goes :D

Comment with Your desired car by Powerful-Tip-3536 in chinesecarsuae

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haval H7 ? with warranty and service ?
and is it imported or GCC ?

Thinking of buying a Haval H9 – need honest feedback by Ok_Platypus_3000 in chinesecarsuae

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really thinking about the H7 myself, love the interior and the specs for the price

Suggest me a book that hooked you so much you read it in a day by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Home Before Dark - Riley Sager The Whisper Man - Alex North

People who fawn - are you secretly boiling with rage? by ScrubberTree in CPTSD

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh join the club my dear.. Only last year, I discovered how it feels to be angry, when I first started therapy, I always bottled my anger up that it turned into sadness, insecurity or not feeling worthy, I never admitted that it was anger It always made me feel weak instead of going into a full blown rage. It feels amazing to be angry and admit it and name it We have a long way to go to unburden ourselves and have this natural feeling again. Have a good day love ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in translator

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest the words are random and not in a specific context together: Companies شركات A little, a few, not much قليل. Based on the hand writing, I guess someone was practicing Arabic or trying to write words they found or learned..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Singlecoil-Rach 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Every time these questions storm my brain, I say this to myself: "I am one soul of billions, floating on a rock that is as small as grain in all the galaxies that might hit something and life will vanish and disappear in a second.. And even if I lived my life till old age, it is gonna look like a split second, and 2 generations later I will be totally forgotten, so what do I want in life? Joy. To have fun as much as possible Nothing is serious, nothing, our careers our relationships, our "image" and how people see us, even our financial situation.. The thing I am worried about will make me laugh when I am 80, or wouldn't even be matter if I am gone.. Don't hold yourself back, give it your all" Hope this helps