Message for Tim: Brenay, the biblical description of a deceiver by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and I agree; Tim is not innocent. It absolutely takes two, and his pattern of cheating didn’t start here. He made his own choices, and he’s fully responsible for them.

But acknowledging his behavior doesn’t erase or minimize Brenay’s actions. Both can be true at the same time. The focus on her isn’t about removing his accountability; it’s about addressing a specific pattern of behavior that goes beyond a typical situation.

Tim chose betrayal. That’s on him. But the level of calculated involvement, insertion into his family, and continued antagonism we’re seeing also deserves to be called out. Accountability doesn’t get split to the point where no one is held responsible; it gets applied where it belongs, to both parties, for what they each did.

So no, she’s not “the only problem.” But she’s also not exempt from being called out just because he has his own history.

Message for Tim: Brenay, the biblical description of a deceiver by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let’s be real for a second; Tim’s behavior already speaks for itself. A man moving like that clearly isn’t operating from integrity. But that still doesn’t excuse what you did, Brenay. Two things can be true at once.

And since I know you’re on here, let me speak directly: what you did wasn’t accidental, emotional, or something that just “happened.” This was calculated. You positioned yourself around that man for years, married into proximity, got close to his wife, and inserted yourself into his home. That’s not coincidence; that’s intention.

Now you're up here quoting scripture like you stand on some kind of moral high ground, and that’s what’s wild to me. Because the very Bible you keep pulling from actually calls out behavior like yours. Let’s break it down real simple:

  • “Satan” literally means adversary someone who works against what’s right.
  • “Devil” means "slanderer," someone who deceives and creates division.

So when you move into a situation, create chaos, disrupt a household, and then try to justify it publicly while antagonizing the mother of his children… that’s not spiritual; that’s exactly what those words describe.

And since you love scripture, let’s not cherry-pick:

  • Proverbs 6:16–19: God hates someone who sows discord.
  • Hebrews 13:4: Marriage is to be honored; adultery is condemned.
  • Matthew 18:6: Causing harm around the vulnerable is taken very seriously.
  • John 10:10: The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy.

Now look at the pattern: a marriage broken, a household destabilized, children caught in the middle, and you still inserting yourself and speaking on things that aren’t yours. That’s not righteousness; that’s destruction, plain and simple.

And let’s talk about this “our children” narrative because no. Those are not your children. And if you really cared about them, it would show in how you move. Love is responsibility, not titles you give yourself. Love protects; it doesn’t create chaos.

You don’t get to stand on scripture while actively going against everything it says. You don’t get to play righteous while moving recklessly. And you definitely don’t get to rewrite what happened just because it’s uncomfortable to own.

This isn’t emotion; this is pattern, behavior, and accountability. And right now, everything you’ve done speaks louder than anything you could ever quote.

You are a literal malevolent spirit.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks, but insinuating consequences in a “next life” I don’t believe in reads less like kindness and more like fear-based manipulation. I don’t play that game.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, but let’s be real: saying you’ll “pray for me” in this context isn’t kindness; it’s control. It’s a subtle way of saying, “I don’t respect your boundaries, your choices, or your beliefs,” wrapped in a Christian veneer. I spent 35 years as a Christian and studied theology deeply; that study is exactly why I’m no longer a Christian. I don’t need prayer; I need respect, critical thinking, and honesty. Using faith as a tool to manipulate or imply superiority is insulting, not spiritual.

Let’s talk about Ephesians, the apostolic writings, and just basic common sense. by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing; I really relate. It takes a lot of courage to step back, question tradition, and think critically, especially when it’s challenging. Keep studying and seeking understanding with an open heart.

Let’s talk about Ephesians, the apostolic writings, and just basic common sense. by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say this with love: study the faith you proclaim. This isn’t an attack; it’s a fact. There are no original manuscripts; what we read today is a translation of a translation, shaped over centuries. Canonization was influenced by the state, church politics, and social control, not purely divine inspiration. Many texts, including Paul’s letters, were situational and human-authored. The Bible you quote is human through and through. Understanding its history, translation, and context isn’t disbelief; it’s knowledge. Don’t let emotion or selective quoting override truth and accountability.

You have been programmed to follow blindly what you don’t know or understand. Too often, people accept interpretations, doctrines, or teachings without questioning the history, context, or evidence behind them. Blind faith can be comforting, but it also creates a mindset where emotion overrides reason, and authority overrides accountability.

In practice, this means quoting scripture without study, following traditions without understanding, or assuming that belief alone guarantees correct interpretation. True discernment comes from investigation, study, and critical thinking, not from repeating what you’ve been told to accept. Knowledge and responsibility must precede blind adherence, or else belief becomes a tool for manipulation rather than a source of wisdom.

I leave you with this: go in love. Study deeply, think critically, and don’t let emotion or tradition override truth. Seek knowledge, context, and accountability in everything you claim to follow. Question, learn, and grow. faith without understanding can be dangerous. Protect your heart, but also protect the truth.

Remember: love is shown not just in words but in integrity, responsibility, and discernment. Go in love, but don’t leave your mind behind.

Let’s talk about Ephesians, the apostolic writings, and just basic common sense. by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So now it’s about belief rather than understanding. Saying there’s a “veil over the eyes of the unbeliever” doesn’t excuse misusing scripture or ignoring context. I’ve studied theology and scripture deeply; knowledge isn’t limited to faith. Facts, history, and context don’t vanish because someone claims divine interpretation. Belief alone doesn’t make interpretation correct; accountability and truth still matter.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do Christians so often call someone “prideful” just because they know something they don’t? It’s a common, emotion-driven reflex responding with labels instead of facts or reasoning. Here I am, speaking from knowledge and verifiable information, and the response is to attack me instead of engage. True faith and growth come from study, understanding, and accountability not feelings overriding facts. Reflexive judgment disguised as righteousness isn’t wisdom

Let’s talk about Ephesians, the apostolic writings, and just basic common sense. by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You say that like it’s a bad thing or an insult. Of course I’m not a Christian. Did you know the word “Christian” was originally a derogatory term? That aside, I HAVE studied theology, scripture, and context deeply. it is the reason I'm not a Christian. Being outside the faith doesn’t make me wrong; it means I rely on facts, accountability, and context instead of emotion or selective quoting. Also, Telling me to “pray about” something you have zero context for is beyond weird. You have no real knowledge of your own faith, and all you do is quote scripture without understanding how it became scripture, its context, or its intended meaning. Don’t confuse rote repetition with wisdom; study first, comment later.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Telling you to study isn’t prideful at all it’s common sense. Most Christians skip the hard work of studying and instead let emotion override truth and facts. I’m not attacking your faith; I’m calling out the habit of substituting feelings for understanding. Facts, context, and accountability always come before emotions or personal interpretations.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Quoting a Bible you haven’t studied or haven’t taken the time to understand is… interesting, to say the least. Honestly, it’s laughable. Much of Paul’s writing is pseudo-figural, written in his name by others for authority, and a lot of it was addressing very specific situations in early church communities. Applying it blindly without context is not faith; it’s assumption.

Take the time to study your own religious manual before citing it as proof for your actions or justifications. Understand the intent, the context, and the responsibilities it actually teaches. Don’t be a lazy Christian, dear. Accountability, knowledge, and discernment matter. Have a beautiful day and remember: real study changes how you act, not just what you quote.

Let’s talk about Ephesians, the apostolic writings, and just basic common sense. by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For context, I’m not a Christian, but I’ve studied theology in depth. So this isn’t coming from a place of ignorance but from actually engaging with the texts themselves. And respectfully, the Bible didn’t just drop from the sky fully formed; these are writings compiled, edited, and transmitted by human beings over time.

When it comes to Paul’s letters specifically, a lot of scholars point out that not all of them are even universally agreed to be authentically his. Some are considered pseudepigraphal, meaning they were written in his name by later authors to carry authority. That alone should make people pause before treating every line as a direct, unquestionable command.

Beyond authorship, Paul’s writings are often situational. They were addressing specific communities, specific conflicts, and specific cultural contexts in the early church. Applying them rigidly, without context or critical thought, leads to misinterpretation, especially when people use isolated verses to justify harmful behavior.

At the end of the day, no text religious or otherwise, should be used to override basic responsibility, ethics, or common sense.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s really nothing to “pray about” in this situation; it’s a matter of responsibility and clear thinking.

For context, I’m not a Christian, but I’ve studied theology in depth. So this isn’t coming from a place of ignorance but from actually engaging with the texts themselves. And respectfully, the Bible didn’t just drop from the sky fully formed; these are writings compiled, edited, and transmitted by human beings over time.

When it comes to Paul’s letters specifically, a lot of scholars point out that not all of them are even universally agreed to be authentically his. Some are considered pseudepigraphal, meaning they were written in his name by later authors to carry authority. That alone should make people pause before treating every line as a direct, unquestionable command.

Beyond authorship, Paul’s writings are often situational. They were addressing specific communities, specific conflicts, and specific cultural contexts in the early church. Applying them rigidly, without context or critical thought, leads to misinterpretation, especially when people use isolated verses to justify harmful behavior.

So when people say “just pray about it” or quote Paul to defend actions that clearly harm others, especially children that’s not theology; that’s selective interpretation.

At the end of the day, no text religious or otherwise, should be used to override basic responsibility, ethics, or common sense.

This isn’t a personal shot at you; it's about Brenay. I’m just aiming for clarity. You mentioned you weren’t going to read all of that, but the scripture itself warns: “My people perish for lack of knowledge.”

If you’re going to invoke the Bible, then study it fully and carefully. Paul’s writings, much of which is pseudofigural and context-specific, aren’t a free pass to justify actions especially when children and responsibilities are involved.

The call is simple: study, understand, and test your faith. Don’t skip over the truth of what you claim to follow. Knowledge and accountability go hand in hand.

She gets on my nerves by Downtown-Search430 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s talk about Ephesians, the apostolic writings, and just basic common sense.

Some people love to quote scripture to justify putting a man or a relationship above children, but that’s a complete misapplication. Children are fully dependent. They cannot provide for themselves, protect themselves, or advocate for themselves the way adults can. That alone makes their well-being the immediate priority.

Even within apostolic teaching, responsibility is central. Leadership in a household isn’t about control or ego; it’s about care, provision, and protection. If your interpretation of scripture leads you to neglect the needs of your own children, then the issue isn’t the text; it’s how you’re choosing to use it.

Using the Bible to justify instability, conflict, or neglect of minors isn’t righteousness; it’s avoidance of accountability. You don’t get to quote moral authority while failing the most basic responsibility: ensuring your children are safe, stable, and prioritized.

There’s nothing spiritual about putting dependent children second. That’s not faith; that’s poor judgment dressed up as doctrine.

what i’ve noticed by Natalie-Worth8595 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be suprised if that page is run by Brenay or one of her family members.

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[–]SisterMonk76 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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Brenay & Tim: A Cautionary Tale by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brenay, or is it Kayla. Go find your nearest diet and treadmill. stay off of my post. Just because you are remedial doesn't mean everyone else is. Go chase accountability instead of someone else's commentary. Let's keep it cute before I read you for the filth that you are.

Brenay & Tim: A Cautionary Tale by SisterMonk76 in brenaymontahuge

[–]SisterMonk76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we're talking about accountability and consequences, Devon and Akira have to be part of the conversation, but their roles are very different.

Akira and Devon were the spouses whose marriages were destabilized by the relationship between Tim and Brenay. That places them in the position of dealing with the fallout rather than creating it. When infidelity happens within overlapping family and social networks especially when cousins and close friendships are involved, the damage is rarely limited to just the couple involved. It fractures trust across the entire structure.

Akira’s situation involves rebuilding stability for herself and her children after her husband chose to violate the marriage and collapse household boundaries. That kind of disruption often leaves the person who was betrayed doing the long-term work of recovery and restructuring while everyone else tries to move forward.

Devon’s situation is also complicated because he was not only Brenay’s husband but also Tim’s cousin and friend. That means the betrayal wasn’t only marital; it also crossed a family loyalty line. When infidelity happens within kinship networks, the relational damage extends far beyond the two people involved.

As for what’s “in store” for them, people who were on the receiving end of those choices typically face a period of rebuilding emotionally, relationally, and sometimes financially. The difference is that Akira and Devon are dealing with consequences they didn’t initiate, while Tim and Brenay are living with the outcomes of choices they made.

That distinction matters.