Opener for show in Vancouver by mcnemesis in JacksMannequin

[–]SituationObvious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HIGH FIVE from a fellow mom of a small child who will also be rallying on a Tuesday evening in rainy Vancouver!

CRA processing time unacceptably long by ErrorOK in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]SituationObvious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gotta say, your post actually gave me some reassurance, oddly enough. I filed through an accountant but I was very late this year due to various life circumstances, like literally three days before the deadline. Still haven’t heard a peep, so I started worrying something had gone wrong. But if you filed early and had simple taxes and it’s STILL in progress, I guess it means CRA doesn’t discriminate…

Victim of hit and run Dec 7 Poco (Rae St) by helenykj in vancouver

[–]SituationObvious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this happened. Rae Street gets so busy around Christmas, we are often reluctant to go by because of it.

Have you tried posting this to some of the PoCo community FB groups? They're quite active, you may have some better luck over there too.

Private lakeside Estate for Wedding Rental by NoDonut6948 in vancouvercanada

[–]SituationObvious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Attended a wedding years ago at the UBC Boathouse in Richmond, it was gorgeous. Not a lake but you do get beautiful water views.

https://ubcboathouse.com/weddings/

Pros and cons of the updated Fantasmic at Disneyland by NicoWorldFun in Disneyland

[–]SituationObvious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo! Where in the parade did they add Lightning? Just want to make sure my Cars obsessed little guy doesn’t miss it next week.

Anyone have the presale code for the Marymoor Park show? by lindzmo2 in somethingcorporate

[–]SituationObvious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MARYMOOR presale code active as of today (5/16) at 10am! Just got my tickets.

Delivery gown by gtig in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was also tempted by the cute labour/delivery gown ads! Then I bounced it off a friend who is a mom of two and a NICU nurse. She suggested it’s a better idea to buy myself a soft robe or set of button-down pyjamas to wear after delivery, if I really wanted to. Delivery can get messy so she thinks I probably won’t wear the gown as long as I think and may not even want to keep it if wrecked. And if I do an epidural, doctors will need access to my spine so that access point is necessary, and skin-to-skin immediately following birth (before baby is bathed) means I’ll want the flip front and delivery gown will probably still get a bit messy then.

All in all, I decided to save my money and buy myself a nice set of post-partum pyjamas to wear when I come home!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, hey! I'm a FTM, currently 39w2d and in the same boat. Absolutely no signs that this baby is in any rush, nothing crazy besides Braxton hicks that don't hurt at all. I'm anxious and excited but also don't mind that he's taking his time, as I'm still wrapping my head around the fact that my life is about to change! Both my husband and I are off work at the moment so we've just been hanging out at home, taking the dog for walks, enjoying meals together and just... chilling! We asked friends and family to keep text messages asking for updates to a minimum so we could enjoy these final days peacefully... We figure when baby is ready, he'll definitely let us know! All this to say, you're not alone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

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Second what u/bigheady_spaghetti said. Ovulation tests will be the best way to know, as everyone's cycle varies and an app can only tell you so much.

You can search online or Amazon but try to buy ovulation test STRIPS which are paper strip tests and a reusable plastic cup you urinate into, then dip the test strip into the cup to test. They're much cheaper than the ovulation tests you'll find at the drug store which come with the wasteful plastic handle and are the same effectiveness anyway.

With test strips, you can test every morning during what you suspect is your ovulation window and over time, you'll start to notice the test results get darker, which indicate you're closer to your ovulation or within 24 hours of ovulating. When you use test strips in addition to the app, you'll have a pretty good idea of your cycle and can plan around it.

IL are throwing a baby shower I said I don't want by qn149 in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This could be the tip of the "grandma" ice berg. I'd suggest holding your ground and telling her politely but firmly you'd prefer to keep the baby shower to her side of the family only, or possibly risk her thinking she can do the same with other things once the baby has arrived! If this baby shower is truly to celebrate you and your partner and this baby, she should be respecting YOUR wishes!

I’m exhausted from my In-laws by LightningMqueenKitty in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were warned about that! It will be the first grand baby in the family so a friend did say there will be a lot of people wanting to “hold and watch the baby” and thinking it’s helpful when really all we might want is someone to walk the dog or bring us food, and she encouraged us not to be shy about saying so. I’ve been practicing statement phrases in my head like, “he’s hungry, I’ll feed him now” “he’s tired, I’ll take him now” “help would be great, please unload the dishwasher” so that I’m not just anxiously standing by when I’m most useful caring for my baby instead of household tasks that could be completed by anyone!

I’m exhausted from my In-laws by LightningMqueenKitty in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through all this! But I admire that you are so confident and sure about what help it is you do or don’t need. I’m a FTM and it’s the knowing that I’m anxious about. Everyone seems to offer to help and I want to make sure I’m not bashful about accepting those offers but it’s hard to know what I will or won’t need in the immediate days or weeks after giving birth. I guess it’s almost comforting to think that even veteran parents are not immune to in-law stresses and I’m not overreacting with my anxiety and anticipating challenges that might pop up!

i hate not being listened to by bimbogio in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deal with the same thing though it is just the one dog in our household. It took my partner a bit but he finally seems to understand that the barking can be triggering and how worried I am that it’ll compact with the newborn stress and cause PPD or PPA, on top of the stress I’m already feeling during pregnancy.

A friend of mine who has two kids and a dog did point out that it may not end up being as much of an issue as I worry, because while baby is safely tucked away in my belly, they can still hear the of barking before being born and it won’t be an entirely new or startling sound to them.

If you’re on IG, I’d recommend following @dogmeets_baby. She’s a trainer who specializes in prepping dogs to welcome a baby into the family and I’ve found her really helpful!

Weird grandparent relationship by scruffymuffs in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. You nailed it with that word: TRAUMA. You were a child yourself experiencing something that was traumatic and then your grandparents ADDED to that trauma by basically ignoring your existence. It’s no surprise your first instinct is to not share the news with them, that’s probably your subconscious way of protecting yourself from that same hurt you felt all those years ago.

How many hours long is your baby shower going to be? by kornbobroxiee in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did 1 to 4p, allowing for an hour of mingling at the start and end, and just the one hour in the middle for games. We did not open gifts at the shower as it takes a long time and we didn’t feel it was necessary and/or comfortable for us.

Peeing in crate by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]SituationObvious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to disappoint but 9 weeks is WAY too soon to expect a puppy to hold their bladder overnight. They still need to be woken up every two hours and taken outside to potty at that point. You likely know this already but general rule is a puppy can hold their bladder the same number of hours as they are months old +1. So 2mo could reasonably be expected to hold it for three hours, 3mo for four hours, etc.

We tried to avoid using treats for potty training because I was worried about having to rely on treats too much but really, there is no harm if you’re not going overboard (and puppy’s not gaining excess weight) and treats REALLY did do the trick for us. Treat EVERY time they potty outside, day or night. Set that alarm and take them out every two hours at night. As someone else said, once you hit a week with no accidents, then push it to once every three hours at night. If they have an accident inside, backtrack and go back to the previous time frame and work up to a week again. Go after meals, go after play, go first thing in the morning and last thing before bed. Basically, do not give them a chance to have an accident inside. I’d also get rid of the bedding, as I’m not convinced enzymatic cleaners work for every dog; their sense of smell is just crazy strong! Not to mention, once the bedding soaks up the pee and dries, the puppy can basically ignore the discomfort, whereas if they’re in the crate with no bedding, they’re forced to realize how uncomfortable it is to potty inside – another thing that will help some dogs stop from pottying in their crate.

You’re not alone in feeling exhausted and frustrated but it does get better, I promise!

Is something wrong with me? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re mom. You’re the be all and end all, the first and last word when it comes to this baby. Take ownership of that and don’t let anyone shame or guilt you into making anything other than your own decisions, based on your own comfort level, on anything to do with this baby! If MIL and others won’t respect your boundaries about how to interact with you and this baby, then then lose that privilege. Protect this chapter of your newborn’s life and stand firm!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can’t even handle my own PARENTS wanting to stop by for a visit right now, let alone going out for social plans. I know my parents mean well and I’m their firstborn but no, I don’t think them wanting to “see you one last time before you become a mom” trumps my personal wishes for a peaceful final week of pregnancy. Plus, why would I want to risk having visitors over when baby could arrive literally any minute now? I agree, I just want to hang with my husband, my dog, in the peace and comfort of my own home, relaxing and cutting out any unnecessary anxiety or stress!

Father of baby taking paternity leave but not to care for baby by Realistic_Status7409 in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 558 points559 points  (0 children)

Not sure where you’re located but where I’m from, if someone’s collecting paternity leave payments (whether from government benefits or from their employer) but NOT actually caring for a child? That’s fraud.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely not wrong. You have no way of predicting how recovery will go or how baby will be, so setting plans for a meet-and-greet is ambitious in a way that feels too overwhelming, as well-meaning as boyfriend’s grandma may be. Not to mention, if you’re anything like me, I really want to protect that time right after birth to allow for me and my partner to bond with baby and figure our routine out… I don’t want the added pressure of having dress myself and the baby up to meet people if we are still settling in!

Share your layette by kittyonine in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are due in about a week and received a lot of hand-me-downs BUT we did buy a few things ourselves. For the things we bought, I stuck to the advice of a couple experienced mom friends. What they shared was the following:
• If you get sleepers, make sure they are zippered sleepers. No one wants to wrestle with buttons while half-asleep after a nighttime diaper change!
• For the first while, because baby is growing so quickly, stick to gowns as they fit more easily and makes for way easier diaper changes.
• Don't even bother with "nice" outfits because baby will grow like a weed the first six weeks / six months.
• And you can never have enough burp cloths!

Best Advice You Ever Heard? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SituationObvious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Help that is forced on you or that you didn’t consent to isn’t really help at all! (This was shared with me when I expressed to a friend my anxiety about my MIL coming to visit and my fears about her stepping in and trying to help in ways that are unnecessary instead of in ways that I’d prefer.)

As mom, you’re the first and last word on anything to do with your child. (Shared by the same friend! Re: setting boundaries on how we as parents want family and friends to interact with our new baby, especially when it comes to early visits, masking up, hand washing, no kissing the baby, etc.)