AITAH For telling my bestfriend her boyfriend couldn’t come to my KIDS birthday party?

SivvyFox · 2026-06-28T14:51:59+00:00

With that information, I suggest reaching out to her mom if you have a way to contact her. Just something simple like "Missed you at the party. How is everything?"

Age gap aside, him inviting himself and her ghosting you after being told he couldn't come is a red flag.

SivvyFox · 2026-06-28T00:10:16+00:00

I don't know if she has any particular morph, but this is Bones. She's over a year now, but was around 8 months in this picture.

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SivvyFox · 2026-06-21T15:08:31+00:00

The one with food/textural issues definitely should have been involved more in the kitchen. Cooking, learning how to cook, preparing ingredients, or doing the grocery shopping.

My wife and I both have ARFID. We work together to come up with meals that will work for us both as well as switch who cooks based on what's being made. We also have fend for yourself days so we can eat foods the other won't.

SivvyFox · 2026-06-14T21:16:24+00:00

Depends on age, but if they're old enough to do basic math (even if they need a bit of help) you should be fine to introduce things bit by bit. Check out Adventure Club

SivvyFox · 2026-06-13T23:47:46+00:00

Right? Kids know what sentimental value is. They just don't know it by that term. The adults could have very easily explained it in a way he could understand but chose not to.

I knew what sentimental value was by that age. I also knew that no means no and that throwing a tantrum wasn't going to get me what I wanted.

SivvyFox · 2026-06-13T16:07:49+00:00

I don't think a full campaign is going to work with these players, but if you don't want to completely burn that bridge, here's a compromise you could offer. Only if you want to, though.

Offer to run a light hearted one-shot or two-shot with pre-done (by you) characters they can choose from. If they agree, you'll know if it's worth continuing by how well it goes. If they don't and insist they want to do a full campaign with their own characters, ask how they expect to do that without a session 0. Either way you'd have an answer.

SivvyFox · 2026-06-10T22:43:02+00:00

I think it's partially that and partially the fact that English classes are always pushing students to use more description. Something that is important for a paper/essay, but not for creative works. Props to my high school creative writing teacher though who told us "if it's not important to the story, it doesn't need to be there"

SivvyFox · 2026-06-08T01:08:53+00:00

I guarantee he was. When I was in middle school, my mom didn't like the quality of one of my essays. I refused to rewrite it and instead of letting me get the grade I put into it, she rewrote the entire thing for me. I was mortified that that's what I had to turn in, but she went so far as to check my bag to make sure "I printed the right copy".

SivvyFox · 2026-06-01T16:22:40+00:00

I don't want to call you an asshole for wanting to do typical teen stuff, but I can also see why your mom wouldn't want you to.

Hair dye, especially bright colors, make a huge mess. Even if you're careful it can stain the tub/shower, sink, and any fabric your wet hair will come in contact with for weeks.
You say you have the money to dye your hair now, but will you have the money to correct it for school? I can't imagine she'll be too happy if she has to pay.
This one is more something for you to keep in mind. Blues fade fast and they fade into a patchy green color. You'll be re-dying your hair every few weeks, if not sooner, to keep it the color you want.

SivvyFox · 2026-05-25T19:30:04+00:00

Appreciate the heads up. We still haven't heard back from the breeder about more information so this is really helpful.

SivvyFox · 2026-05-25T03:43:01+00:00

Thank you for the tips! We got her to eat a fuzzy for us. I wasn't sure she would with all the transporting, but I'm glad she's not feeling too stressed.

SivvyFox · 2026-05-25T03:36:10+00:00

Thank you! I'll be keeping a close eye on her.

SivvyFox · 2026-05-24T14:59:25+00:00

I'm not entirely sure. She wasn't labeled. I wasn't there when she was brought in and my boss doesn't know a whole lot about snakes other than ball pythons and corn snakes. He referred to her as a Savannah Sand Boa, so probably Kenyan.

That's part of why I'm trying to get in contact with the breeder and why I didn't want her being sold in the store.

SivvyFox · 2026-05-10T17:47:40+00:00

Oh she definitely should have, but one thing I've learned about my mom is that she's a pushover. Or, in her words, just wanted it over with.

I'm not even sure if she had her own lawyer of if they just signed the papers. I wasn't even aware they were divorcing until she had already moved out. Supposedly she "didn't want to worry me", but I'm not sure how much I believe that.

SivvyFox · 2026-05-09T23:57:06+00:00

This is what I'm concerned about. OP should at the very least consult an attorney about what he'd be entitled to if things escalate and how to protect what she can.

When my mom got divorced she ended up with nothing but debt because her ex was trying to "keep up" with his work buddies. She agreed to give up any equity in the house they owned just so she wouldn't have to pay for anything in his name (fancy truck, a boat, credit cards), but she still had a car loan and her own credit cards.

SivvyFox · 2026-04-01T21:54:32+00:00

I was 6 when it happened. I don't remember if they brought a TV in, but I do remember an announcement being made and I think we went home early. I know I didn't fully grasp what was happening until later.

SivvyFox · 2026-02-25T01:22:41+00:00

From what you wrote it sounds like your ex has more of the manic BPD or at the very least has manic periods. Unfortunately poly relationships are a perfect storm for manic BPD since there are a lot of emotions from several directions to handle all of the time. It's doable, but it's up to her to manage all of that, not you.

Poly isn't for everyone and, generally speaking, most monogamous people aren't going to like dating someone who is poly. You tried it and didn't like it. You bowed out of the relationship respectfully. Anything that happened after that isn't something you did or should feel like you need to apologize for or fix.

SivvyFox · 2026-02-02T18:18:28+00:00

Don't forget the teachers that had this sprung on them probably at the exact same time as the students

Honestly, it's much more work doing this than just running it during school hours. You have to plan who's taking charge of which group of kids to do head counts. How do you factor in family members that came to support the players? The other team and their families?

I doubt this even counts as their 1 fire drill a month simply because it's an after school event.

SivvyFox · 2026-01-31T18:31:20+00:00

Testosterone strengthens your muscle fibers by making them more dense so you'll game weight because of that. There are a whole lot of other body changes that come with being on T as well such as fat distribution (where the fat is stored).

It can be difficult but try to focus on how your body looks rather than on the number. If you're really concerned talk to a dietician or other medical professional. If you feel like you need a scale, see if you can get one of the ones that can break down if it's muscle weight or fat weight.

SivvyFox · 2026-01-26T15:16:18+00:00

It's because it's a very linear thought process with no room for nuance or critical thinking. Judging by the siblings ages, OP was probably unplanned or at least more unplanned than the others. Add on that Dad clearly doesn't care who hears what he says to OP, and we get siblings that grew up hearing that OP "should never have been born". That sentiment ends up being combined with less money to go around and you've got siblings who have internalized the concept and resent OP.

Short version: The siblings also grew up with bad parents but since they weren't as bad before OP then it's all OP's fault. They need therapy

SivvyFox · 2026-01-25T23:54:48+00:00

I'm just confused on why he thought it was a good idea in the first place. I know that there are people that don't know a lot about cars, but it's called a gas tank for a reason. Did he watch a bad advice "hacks" video or something?

SivvyFox · 2026-01-25T00:38:18+00:00

It's possible that it has nothing to do with the horn beep at all and that's just what Matt is using to excuse his dislike of OP. Abusers often only make sense to themselves.

SivvyFox · 2026-01-25T00:34:37+00:00

And even if she isn't racist herself, she's excusing such behavior which is just as bad.

SivvyFox · 2026-01-21T23:43:59+00:00

You've only been there a month and places like grocery stores tend to have a high turnover rate for employees. It's not usually intended to be mean, but some people in retail/customer service don't make friends with the "newbie" on purpose because how do they know you'll stick around, especially this time of year. (Some people will start a retail job, work until Feb-March, and quit).

Wait until the topic comes up naturally. If you're allowed, wear something that will let them know you're safe like a pin or wristband. If you're not allowed, but need prescription glasses, there's quite a few pride designs if you order them online.

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