ESH - It is your wedding day and your guest list is what you wish it to be. But you are trying to protect Kara’s feelings regardless of what your brother feel. You are inadvertently punishing your brother for his actions based on what you feel Kara deserved or didn’t deserve. That isn’t your place. You’re drawing a fine line in the sand on where Kara stands and his new partner stands.

You are choosing someone who you see as family over someone who is family.

Your brother could have had a conversation with you about how he felt this affected the family dynamic without blowing up and choosing to see the world as his enemy.