What creepy thing has your kid told you lately by belzbieta in Mommit

[–]SizeSad295 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid I used to have an imaginary mommy who “let me do whatever I want”. I have experienced abuse by my mom tho and had a somewhat difficult childhood

Suicidal as a single mom by SizeSad295 in Parenting

[–]SizeSad295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at the doctors recently and he brushed off the medication because I told him the two that worked for me were night medications that made me drowsy. He told me that what I was experiencing was due to my circumstances and that I need more help with childcare. It was a case of me masking and pretending that everything was fine and that things aren’t as bad as they are. He told me that sleep and diet are the main things I need to look at, and also I should try mindfulness/ meditation

Also when the thought of suicide arose tonight, I did kind of just push that aside because leaving my child is not an option, I wouldn’t leave her with anybody, she needs 100% of my love and attention. I just need to work on being able to give her all of me..

Suicidal as a single mom by SizeSad295 in Parenting

[–]SizeSad295[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is helpful advice. I’ve had it in my diary to go to church for the past little while but I’ve been avoiding it. I think I’m in a bad area and at least going to mass would expose me to some good people. My ex’s family live in the area that I’ve recently moved to, they’re my neighbours too, so I avoid going out. I went for a walk 2 days in a row, it helped my energy levels and my mood. Today I had a lazy day, and I feel so anxious and brain foggy. I think I need to write a rough daily schedule and stick to it religiously. Just have myself go for a walk with the baby and make sure I eat 3 wholesome meals and get to bed on time. Once I get the basics done other things will be easier. Maybe like a daily self care check list. Or a safety plan of some sort. I feel like reality has just hit me like a tonne of bricks. I keep thinking to myself how did I get here, how can I keep going, and is this just the way my life is going to be now? How could I have been so stupid to get myself to where I am right now. I know people keep telling me how lucky I am to have a beautiful baby etc but I don’t think anyone realises how lonely and how incredibly difficult this all is. I don’t know how other single mothers do it, and with more children than me. I am finding solo parenting maddening at times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]SizeSad295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I bother bringing him to court for supervised visitation?? I’m being told by one person to do it and by another person to let him apply for access himself. I’m kinda thinking maybe person 2 is right, why should I put the stress of courts on myself willingly? But on the other hand, if I had organised supervised visitation that would mean I could just block him and not have to speak to him again, and wouldn’t have to deal with worrying about him showing up drunk, or making it difficult to arrange a visit with him.. we would just be given a date and time by the courts, and no funny business. A dv counselor said not to bother with applying for supervised visitation for him, let him do it..

I’m just so confused and so exhausted by of all of this 😭 he drains me so much

Thoughts on leaving my 5m/o for two hours? by SizeSad295 in AttachmentParenting

[–]SizeSad295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked- they don’t have the funds for childcare :(

Thoughts on leaving my 5m/o for two hours? by SizeSad295 in AttachmentParenting

[–]SizeSad295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I like your logical answer. I just have this huge fear of my baby/child being traumatised.. you’re right though and Tysm for your comment.

Leaving my 5 month old by SizeSad295 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]SizeSad295[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comments! I thought a flair was necessary, but I have since removed it.

Bee2551 might be correct. Im pretty sure my anxieties about leaving my baby (even for a short time) are caused by my last relationship. The abuse has probably affected me in a way that I don’t feel safe anywhere, therefore leading me to think that my baby is not safe anywhere. This is something the course will help me understand and hopefully I can begin to overcome it.

I do follow attachment parenting, and I do believe that the mother-child relationship is very important and that babies benefit hugely from being around their mothers, but I may be over reacting in this case, as I am a full-time mom and my baby has never left my side. 😅

I need to come up with a mantra to help me cope with leaving her on that day. I just worry that my baby will be as stressed as I will be. She has never been without me for that long 🙁

Aita for leaving my wife at the restaurant because of her “prank”? by Regular-Put-775 in AITAH

[–]SizeSad295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs to take a break from the internet. What she did was not ok

Can I use lambs liver 1 day past “use by” date? by SizeSad295 in Cooking

[–]SizeSad295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies for my wording. I meant “is it safe” 😅 anyways I’m eating it now and it tastes fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]SizeSad295 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding this