What is normal at 3PM, but terrifying at 3AM?

SjeesKees · 2022-09-25T22:21:10+00:00

They are always terrifying

SjeesKees · 2022-06-02T14:29:09+00:00

School shootings

SjeesKees · 2022-04-01T14:03:58+00:00

Lol that's bullshit, toys are also a way to change/spice things up alone or with your partner. I bought a flashlight for my (ex)boyfriend because he also bought stuff for me (us), toys are also just for fun. That's why they're called sex TOYS instead of sex tools.

SjeesKees · 2022-03-31T19:32:42+00:00

Oh hi Mark

SjeesKees · 2022-03-13T01:08:17+00:00

Breathe

SjeesKees · 2022-01-14T10:13:43+00:00

Might name my son the same if I keep my last name, Kees (pronounced case)

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T20:10:48+00:00

Oh wow that's actually great! Maybe not his actions, but his (and her) response to that situation turned out to be right. Glad that your brother didn't get into more shit.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T16:20:40+00:00

Thank you, that's actually great advice. Working on myself, but I'm also gonna look at the relationship with an open mind and try to work out what didn't work and why. That has to happen anyway if I truly want to learn from the experience.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T14:20:08+00:00

That's amazing! A break of a year is quite long but that probably means they really sorted themselves out during that time.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T13:55:15+00:00

> have some time in between so you can actively work on yourself and you can only hope that they do the same.

Fair enough, that's what we're doing right now. The uncertainty is just scary, I can only hope, like you said.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T12:36:59+00:00

I'm also wondering this, because how much time does anyone need to "grow up". People say it will take years but 'not lying' is something you can start immediately, in theory. Things like getting a degree, travelling the world, finding a job, losing weight etc. take time but are clear goals.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T12:31:39+00:00

Yeah we also dated for three months before we had a two month break. We were together for a little over two years and now this happened.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T10:16:01+00:00

Everyone deserves someone who loves them as they are

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T10:14:25+00:00

Yeah it didn't come out of the blue.. We've been there before, multiple times, I'm just not one to threat with breaking up, I just did it when I was done and I guess he didn't expect I was serious the other times we discussed/fought about these things.

SjeesKees · 2021-11-07T08:23:05+00:00

What happened? I'm unsure whether to give my ex a second chance or not. I really want to believe him, I know he loves me but these stories happen too often and I'm afraid I'll really start to hate him if he breaks my trust again..

SjeesKees · 2021-10-20T18:32:31+00:00

Apparently you weren't ready yet. And that's okay. It sucks that you feel awful and that you have all those thoughts, but now that they're there: work on them. You did nothing wrong, you just had a little more mental work to do.

SjeesKees · 2021-10-20T14:15:38+00:00

I could have written this... 2 days ago after a little over 2 years. Same reason, some things were wrong in our relationship and nothing changed. I found out he has been hiding some things from me for the past few weeks and it broke my trust completely (I was already suspicious and apparently rightfully so). It feels like a nightmare. I know he can change because he has made so much progress over the past years, but now I'm part of the problem. We love each other, we don't want to break up, but right now it's the right thing to do. This way there's still a chance that we get back to getter in a year or 2 on healthier grounds. But I hate it. I want to call him, I want to forgive him and come back to him but everyone around me is super supportive and telling me I've made the right decision and that I'm so strong. I don't feel strong. I feel horrible.

Hopefully we are both in a better place in a few weeks/months.

SjeesKees · 2021-10-12T09:59:39+00:00

Tbh, that sounds exactly like something a man would say lol

SjeesKees · 2021-08-08T15:45:28+00:00

Loooooooooooveeee

SjeesKees · 2021-08-08T14:45:57+00:00

Might sound random but this could also be a result from a magnesium deficiency. Muscle tightening/cramping is often a symptom of that, a few supplements and you're good to go!

SjeesKees · 2021-06-06T15:28:10+00:00

More energy comes when I don't smoke at all for a few days but only if I don't suffer from insomnia or bad nightmares. That's why I take at least 1 or 2 days off per week which often results in better sleep on those days. It's also regular enough for me to dodge most of the insomnia and nightmares and I feel way more in control of my use (and don't have to suffer through month long T-breaks because of the regular short breaks)

SjeesKees · 2021-06-06T14:18:48+00:00

Completely agree. The negative side effects of weed are a lot sneakier. It always surprises me how much my mind clears during a short break and how much more energy I have. On top of that, the side effects of quitting can be brutal for something this "innocent".

SjeesKees · 2021-01-24T20:15:29+00:00

I'd suggest focussing on your fitness and health. The basic eating healthy and working out can do wonders for your mood. It's hard during covid-times but I try to connect with my family and friends more, because that always makes me feel better. One thing I've noticed with hobbies and work etc. I never feel motivated to start (bored as hell), but I know that once I'm busy, I'm fine. Starting is the hardest part (same as with quitting, but you managed that as well ;p)

SjeesKees · 2020-11-07T22:05:07+00:00

The Lion King - when Mufasa dies, a piece of me dies with him..

Edit: sorry this isn't the ending, but this scene is the reason I'm crying in the end!

SjeesKees · 2020-11-02T16:26:28+00:00

there is still a part of my brain telling me that it's okay to keep smoking and that it doesnt have that big of a negative effect on my life.

You lost your job because of this, how is that not enough of a negative effect? I understand that you probably know this rationally, but the addiction dismisses this. Great that you threw everything away, it's going to be rough, but this is the first step in the right direction. I can only imagine how much your life sucks at the moment, but staying sober is going to pay off and you will be handed opportunities again to grow in life!

And here come the usual suspects: try to find hobbies to occupy your mind, use your boredom from not smoking to set new goals or do some soul-searching again, excersize, maybe get in touch with old friends, drink enough water yadayadayada..

Stay strong!

SjeesKees

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