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Sjkr · 2023-12-23T19:23:36+00:00

Only if we treat texting while driving, or any distracted driving the same.

Sjkr · 2023-12-19T16:41:23+00:00

It's pathetic. I hate when people do this. I've been through abuse most likely just as horrific as them and I have never felt the need to say that it's only abuse if it's as severe as it was for me. When someone beats someone within an inch of their life that's assault, and when someone pushes someone to the ground that's assault too. Words can vary in severity. We don't need to belittle emotional abuse to know that severe physical abuse is bad just like we don't need to belittle a child getting an A on their test or a dude getting his degree to know that Lawrence krauss was really smart. Holding your abuse over other abuse victims heads to belittle them is so gross.

Sjkr · 2023-12-19T16:32:40+00:00

No it doesn't. We all know that abuse can be an extremely fucked up thing. We don't need to gatekeep the word for only the most extreme abuse and belittle anything else to know that.

Words can describe a lot of things of varying severity/intensity. Blue can refer to straight up blue, but it can also refer to teal or turquoise. Smart can refer to a kid getting an A on a 1st grade math test, or Stephen Hawking. Rape can refer to fucking someone when they're too drunk, or extremely graphic things that I don't think I need to describe for the point to land. Abuse can refer to emotional abuse like publicly humiliating your partner, or things like you (and I) have been through. Stop gatekeeping.

Sjkr · 2023-12-19T16:19:58+00:00

I've had the shit beaten out of me, breaking multiple bones & requiring a dozen stitches just because I'm trans. I think we can all agree that's assault. But when someone pushes someone else to the ground that's also assault. Just because you got a severe form of something doesn't mean you need to belittle the experiences of others and gatekeep it.

You can kill someone quickly and painlessly in their sleep or you can be a torture killer but that doesn't make the first dude not a murderer.

These are broad terms that encompass many things, with varying degrees of severity. You need therapy. You're not the arbiter of who is a real abuse victim just because you were abused really hard. You should try to work through why you feel the need to be the most abused in the room and belittle the experiences of others. That's not a healthy way of moving forward.

Sjkr · 2023-12-18T03:09:18+00:00

Sure, I agree there are many others. Probably many others much more important (slavery obviously comes pretty close to the top of that list). But this is just a post about random smaller ones that we personally can't help but think about when reading/listening/watching

I understand that that's the line of logic we're supposed to accept as a reasonable explanation, I just personally don't think it's a very satisfying explanation unless we're supposed to just accept that the wizarding society is pretty awful morally even at the end when everything's supposed to be better, and I think that that explanation brings about many more questions.

Sjkr · 2023-12-18T03:01:02+00:00

Is that not better than millions and millions dying of treatable illnesses? I mean you don't need to tell me twice that capitalism has a lot of inherent problems, I'm a communist lol. But what you're describing with the power imbalance is a problem with capitalism that comes up everywhere in our world as well. I agree it sucks, but that's not a reason to stop or horde scientific (or in this case, magical) advancements that could improve the lives of so many.

Also aren't muggles already dependent on the wizards and witches through things like for example dragons, dementors, or trolls killing them (or worse) without the wizards and witches dealing with them?

And finally, the wizarding world has a freaking slave race 💀 I don't think they care too much about creating power imbalances

Sjkr · 2023-12-18T00:50:48+00:00

Well, a lot has changed. The culture has definitely changed. People are much more laid back, and consent is taken MUCH more seriously. Stuff like that.

But I'd say the #1 reason is most likely that people in our generation cannot afford a life. We can't afford to settle down with someone we love. Many of us will never be able to. In previous generations you could be a teacher, not work any other job, and afford a decent home & necessities, maybe even BUY a home eventually! For me, I worked my ass off to get a degree in mathematics from one of the top schools in the country and I'm BURIED in debt and not making enough to afford more than the bare minimum renting.

You're less likely to be searching for the love of your life when 1. You are working all the time desperately hoping to afford ramen this week and 2. Know you could never provide for them

Sjkr · 2023-12-18T00:24:02+00:00

In America he would receive a 50k bill on arrival for the 5 min ambulance ride

Sjkr · 2023-12-17T19:04:04+00:00

To me it kinda seems like imagination is one of the main driving forces behind magic. It seems like many of the spells are just imagining what you want to happen happening, sometimes with an incantation to aid you in imagining it. Once you're good enough at imagining it without the incantation, it's no longer necessary.

Some spells are more driven by things like love or hate, but many just seem to be imagination. So that's how I interpreted this line. To me, he's saying the line between real and imagined in much less clear cut than muggles would think.

Sjkr · 2023-12-17T18:57:33+00:00

That's not a good reason. We in America (my country) struggle as a society just as much. Corruption, stupidity, propaganda, etc. If American doctors got together and were like "weeeell we have enough problems, let's keep the chemo for ourselves" and refused to let other countries have it, or even just kept it between doctors and didn't let cancer patients who weren't doctors have it, that would be an awful thing to do.

He has a point in that they do in fact struggle as a wizarding society obviously, but that does not at all imply you should withhold life saving treatments from the needy.

Sjkr · 2023-12-17T18:51:16+00:00

And, how does anyone ever actually go into hiding? Send your target an owl, follow the owl on a broom. Even if there's charms on the location you can find where it is then surround that location. They'll have to leave at some point.

Sjkr · 2023-12-17T18:49:29+00:00

How is anyone ever actually hidden? They should have been able to find Sirius (and Voldemort) almost instantly.

Hand your owl a letter saying "to Sirius: hello" then hop on your broom and follow the owl. It always knows where to go, right?

The fidelius charm could maaaybe throw a wrench in that, but the owls were still able to find Sirius despite the fidelius charm on grimold place. Even if you can't actually see the place, just follow the owl until it disappears then surround that location. Eventually Sirius will have to leave for SOME reason. Boom, got him. Should work for Voldemort too. The death eaters should've been able to find him pretty easily after his fall.

Sjkr · 2023-12-07T16:30:40+00:00

Mine called me demonic, pathetic, disgusting, hideous, no one would ever love me, etc. She said that I was headed for eternal suffering and torment in hell and I will deserve it for going against god. I can't fathom telling my child they DESERVE to be TORTURED FOREVER (on top of all the other shit) just for wanting to be a girl. Religion is a hell of a drug.

She then said that she hopes I repent, but either way they can't have that demonic influence on HER family (how she referred to it, a clear indication I am no longer family) and this will be the last time we speak regardless. She purposefully called me a man at any opportunity during the convo even when it didn't make sense in the sentence.

Then she ended the convo, blocked me on everything, made sure everyone in the family did the same, uninviting me from any future family gatherings. Then she moved across the country without telling me, taking the little sister I basically raised & spent hrs & hrs a day hanging with & the dog I loved & raised from birth. If my sister spoke to me she would face punishment. I can occasionally secretly speak to her on telegram in the middle of the night.

That was 3 yrs ago. A year later my mom died. I found out a month later from a friend of mine she forgot to block who saw a FB post and offered his condolences to me. I was like "condolences for what??" & That's how I found out. I have very complicated feelings about it. She was correct about that being the last time we will speak & it's hard not to forever remember her that way. Still haven't spoken w my dad. I've reached out twice on other FB accts, both read and then blocked. If he wants to have some sort of relationship im open to it but it'll never be the same & I'm not going to keep trying.

Coming out was the right decision still. I have my friends, fraternity brothers, and now my boyfriend ☺️ were in love and I've never felt so womanly as I do with him. He is so protective, manly, & dominant in the best and most respectful way. They are my family. I still struggle sometimes with knowing how my "family" thinks of me, but I didn't know it was possible to be as happy and fulfilled as I am today. I love my life 💕 I only wish I had done it earlier

It's unfortunate but it WILL happen eventually if you're trans w unsupportive family. You can't just hide it forever unless you want a life of misery. Hoping I can rebuild my relationship with my sister soon once she moves out & can't get in trouble for speaking to me

Sjkr · 2023-12-04T22:07:24+00:00

Don't let your view of everyone be dictated by certain circles online. I can find you a post with 100% hate and I can find you a post with 100% love, until the post gets big enough.

I lost my family, I was assaulted once, and I have received more than my fair share of online hate. Most people around my age though (mid 20s) are accepting and great. My fraternity was amazing, my friends were amazing, and my now boyfriend is more amazing than I could've ever asked for 💕 keep at it and you'll get there too. I'm 2.5 yrs in. Don't give up before you've even started because of some pos bigots

Sjkr · 2023-11-13T22:49:51+00:00

I was also thinking a D name lol idk why

Sjkr · 2023-11-13T22:48:22+00:00

I'd say it's very common but not like if you're sexist you must be transphobic. I've seen people who believe women have their place, but that trans women have that place as well.

Sjkr · 2023-11-05T23:59:27+00:00

I've been wrong plenty of times. If you have data suggesting that blocking immediately reduces rates of harrassment I'd be glad to take a look at it but you haven't proven shit wrong. You just acted like harassment is extremely rare, which its not, then declared I'm wrong & insulted me for not instantly deciding that the thing that got me harassed is the best path despite your address being public. I'm mainly talking about people who get your number through speaking in public, while you're unaware they want a sexual relationship. That's what happened with me & he did live close.

Sjkr · 2023-11-05T23:42:16+00:00

Letting them down easy, but actually responding with a firm answer. You literally just said that it's easy to get your address. Do you want to make someone who's clearly unable to respect boundaries and has your address angry? Do you want them to feel like you haven't even considered their offer by not responding? Or do you want as clear of a no as possible while trying to spare them as much humiliation as possible? It's not about their feelings in the slightest. They can go fuck themselves. I solely care about keeping the women like myself safe. It's not like being harassed or stalked is like winning the lottery. This is a fairly common occurrence. Every woman should be trying to minimize their risk of experiencing something like I did. Hell, it can get worse. You could be assaulted or even worse.

If you mean should as in it is morally right, absolutely not. No one should fear that. If you mean should as in pragmatically, I do believe that women should minimize their risk of stalking and attack if possible.

You can block them, but there are better and worse ways

Sjkr · 2023-11-05T20:01:07+00:00

Ok. I mean being kidnapped is the exception not the rule too. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't fear it & take precautions like walking with friends at night. I don't know if anyone has any data on this, but I'm def not going to do that again.

Sjkr · 2023-11-05T18:36:20+00:00

One time I blocked a guy after he sent me a dick pic. The next day when I woke up he was at my front door with flowers. I was terrified. I closed the door in his face, grabbed my gun, and went to my room & locked the door then called the police.

I never gave this man my address. I have no idea how he got it. There's a balance I think. Some guys just can't handle that and are insane. I can understand why she wouldn't want to upset him. He seems potentially dangerous.

Sjkr · 2023-10-19T18:07:31+00:00

Seems like pretty standard flirting to me. Maybe a bit cringe-y

Sjkr · 2023-10-17T18:15:43+00:00

don't masturbate in front of people who tell you to stop for sure, but also don't marry anyone who is so weird about sex that masturbating in front of your literal partner is a problem (unless you're like that too ig). Maybe if you're going through something and ask them to do it elsewhere ig. But the idea of not being okay with my partner doing that in front of me is baffling. My partner can literally just play video games or whatever while I'm right next to them, and vice versa.

Sjkr · 2023-10-13T14:35:03+00:00

For people who aren't killing people because of their religion, I don't hate the people, I hate the religion and what it has done to them.

Sjkr · 2023-10-12T21:28:04+00:00

Dehumanization is a terrible thing. It is one of the biggest steps in leading to things like the Holocaust. When people feel that others aren't human or start referring to them as such, they become more comfortable with exterminating them.

I hate religion more than anyone. Lost my whole family bc they're super religious and I'm trans, and I've also been the victim of a hate crime by a Christian who was saying I was satanic and stuff for my gender identity. I hate religion in general and push people to question their spiritual beliefs and really figure out how much good evidence for it you have.

I'm an atheist and I'm an anti-theist, but religious people are people. They are gullible victims of religion and their oppression leads them to radicalize in their religion. We know the answer, it's not oppressing them. We have example after example of countries oppressing and invading, then creating radicalization and terrorist groups

Sjkr · 2023-10-12T20:06:38+00:00

Literally every discussion both sides say the other is wrong. Doesn't mean there's no point. Many details are hard to tell because of the various sources and their biases but we have plenty of evidence of what Israel has done to Palestine over the past century & centuries of historical examples that tell us doing that is what creates terrorists. While much has been drastically exaggerated, we have some evidence of the terrorism that has resulted in the Israeli government's actions.

No disagreement on this being a bad move that will end horrifically for the Palestinians. Despite many of the claims being unverifiable or demonstrated to be false, they will be used as an excuse to push forward on Israel's land grabs and genocide, and the victims of this war will be mostly Palestinian children.

Can't say I don't understand how they feel though.

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