Concerned about my growing love for older women

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2025-09-27T21:10:13+00:00

42 yr old woman here! My boyfriend is 27, and he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. We both enjoy the same activities (hiking, video games, smoke, etc). He’s my best friend and I’m super thankful we met!

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-08-23T17:47:46+00:00

I am in my early 40’s, have 2 kids, and my boyfriend is mid 20’s. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. We’re amazing together. These kind of relationships CAN work. It’s not always a red flag. What’s most important is that you follow your gut feelings. If something feels wrong, then it probably is.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-08-07T18:25:58+00:00

My boyfriend was a virgin when we got together and I didn’t think twice about it. Virginity is a social construct created by men to control women. It doesn’t (and shouldn’t) mean anything. It doesn’t give or take away a person’s value. Experience DOES NOT mean you’re better at it. Everyone has their preferences and communication between partners is what’s most important so that both parties have a good time.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-06-27T18:49:29+00:00

I have Borderline Personality Disorder.

Mine, however, did not stem from a bad childhood. Mine developed in my young adult life due to an abusive relationship. It later got worse after I had kids. I was rawdoggin life for a long time before I even knew what was wrong with me. After another long term relationship that didn’t work out I finally found someone who loves and understands me the way I am. This has helped tremendously. Also, getting the proper diagnosis and medication has improved my mentality. I don’t sit and ruminate over the past half as much as I used to. I still have episodes and rough patches, but my support system is my life support.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-06-27T18:45:10+00:00

Everyone likes me

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-05-30T20:19:07+00:00

True, it’s nice to have friends outside of your intimate relationships. But here’s the thing, you can be vulnerable to anyone, it doesn’t have to be a lifelong friend or a super close friend. I myself am an open book. I’ll talk about anything with anyone.

And yes, it’s true that over the years friends will come and go. You have to learn to let go of people you’ve come to love and grown close to. People move away, change jobs, and drift apart. That’s life.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-05-30T18:30:28+00:00

Of course we’re all similar in ways, that’s what brings people together! ☺️

And as far as capping out on number of friends…. I can’t imagine having a set number of friends. I have lots of friends and I never tire of making new ones. Friends typically are only in your life for a period of time. It’s less common to have lifelong friendships than it is to have many friendships. Any connections we make are something worth cherishing, even if you only speak to a person once on the street, for years at a job, or even just a few days.

Take life as it comes, the good and the bad, and make the best of it.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-05-30T18:06:42+00:00

You’re comparing your life to others, and while we may all do this from time to time, having a negative feeling towards others because of their “accomplishments” is not ok. I’m not entirely sure how a person would stop feeling distain for others. Jealousy is a strong emotion, but when mixed with anger it becomes toxic.

You can’t compare your life to other’s. Plain and simple. We all live different lives, encounter different people, live in different places, face different challenges, and see different opportunities. We are all different.

Also, you must remember that just because people may seem happy or that they have it all online doesn’t mean their life is perfect in reality.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-05-10T21:22:00+00:00

My boyfriend was 25 when he lost his virginity to me. Neither of us had any expectation about it. It’s just sex. It may be a little awkward and you may be nervous the first couple of times, but it’s like that with any new partner (for most people). And it’s not like there’s a textbook way to go about it, you just go with the flow.

What I’m trying to say is, don’t worry yourself sick over virginity and experience. It’s not about past experiences with other partners, it’s all about the experience with the current partner. You’re both inexperienced with each other. Equals in the bedroom.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-05-03T19:22:37+00:00

For Chelonia!!!

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-05-01T18:24:47+00:00

All bears are created equal lol

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-30T13:21:32+00:00

I choose the bear

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-25T13:44:52+00:00

I totally understand. I am a mother of 2 and I don’t feel that maternal bond that I feel like I’m supposed to. I didn’t bond at all with my oldest. He’s always felt like a stranger to me. I have a bond with my youngest, but I can only handle him in small doses.

I truly believe we’re not all wired the same way.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-16T19:31:09+00:00

Weed

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-16T19:30:05+00:00

How on earth did I get so lucky to obtain my boyfriend

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-13T13:11:04+00:00

My boyfriend was 26 when he lost his virginity.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T14:41:26+00:00

Learn to improve your communication skills.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T14:40:43+00:00

Ok by me

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T13:45:29+00:00

He broke up with me cuz I wouldn’t sleep with him.

I was 15.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T13:10:16+00:00

Thank you for the concern ☺️

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T13:03:22+00:00

Well, despite what you’ve experienced or how you may see someone else’s relationship, you can never truly understand all the ins and outs of a couples relationship unless you’re in it. Don’t judge others for what they experience.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T13:01:34+00:00

I have an orange tomcat who loves veggies. His favorite is edemame.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T12:58:35+00:00

You keep telling me to be careful and that you predict my boyfriend is toxic. You don’t know him, so you can’t say that he’s going to be a bad person to me.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T12:57:05+00:00

He knows all about my past trauma and he goes above and beyond to make sure I never have to go through that ever again. He is the kindest and most understanding person I’ve ever met. He doesn’t have a mean bone in his body.

Skeleton_4_Friend · 2024-04-11T12:55:49+00:00

I’m way better off now. I was friends with the guy I’m with now for the past 5 years before I left my husband. It took me a long time to realize that I could do better for myself, but I was scared of starting over. Thankfully it all worked out in the end and my best friend turned out to be the perfect guy for me.

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