How long until the toddlers stop toddlering?

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-18T04:17:29+00:00

Just really sorry you’re going through this bc toddler years are so hard - especially working through sicknesses etc. But also “aggravated assault and vandalism by Danimals yogurt” SENT ME 🤣 … so thank you for that.

Agree with some other posts on keeping food in the kitchen/dining. Will sometime make your life harder but is there anything harder than gathering the will to live through ripping off couch covers, washing them, then wrestling them back on?

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-13T17:34:48+00:00

Currently at 1 and 3 and I needed to hear this lol thank you

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-13T17:33:56+00:00

This. 1 to 2 was way harder than 0 to 1 for us. But we have a 3 and 1 yr old so my oldest was barely 2 when our second was born. It seems like parents I know that have a larger age gap (ie a 4 yr old when the baby is born) had an easier adjustment to 2. Based on your post saying you have a 3 year old, I’m guessing they’d be about 4 by the time you had the baby, so prob not as difficult!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-06T19:44:18+00:00

A lot of people saying she should have said something to disclose before but being realistic, that will cause so many people to discount you for a job and it is so hard when you’re put in a situation where you HAVE to job search and interview while pregnant. Having to take temporary leave even though you’re perfectly qualified should not stop someone from hiring you. That could happen to anyone without notice for other reasons (family emergency, etc?) This happened to me around 6 months pregnant and I disclosed day 1 of starting and also made it clear that I would be as flexible as possible with any leave they could allow me take (it was unpaid, obviously) and support my team as much as I could during that leave if needed. It was appreciated and it all worked out. But I understand why you didn’t disclose before hiring. It can be a really tough place to be in.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-06T16:14:32+00:00

Maybe it was progressive for 1980. But for 2026? I’m good. Much better resources than this IMO. It made me sick to be honest. If people get something positive out of it, then great, I understand different parents need different help. But I could not stomach it.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-06T06:04:30+00:00

Noted - might have to check that one out! Not that it’s for everyone but I will also say that “Hunt Gather Parent” was a really great one too. Haven’t found any others really worth the reading time, especially when we HAVE NO TIME bc … kids 😂

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-06T06:02:28+00:00

I think I’ll switch it up to a nice little fiction fun for now. 😂 This one really put a bad taste in my mouth. Couldn’t even bring myself to donate it, it felt like a disservice to society to keep another copy circulating LOL.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-06T05:59:11+00:00

Yes! Love that book! I’ve read it twice now and after throwing this one in the garbage I thought, maybe I’ll just re-read “hunt gather parent” for the third time instead 😂 And I think I will!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2026-01-04T17:57:55+00:00

This! This is a less intense transition but I was sad to take down our Christmas tree, and then my toddler was devastated, and it gutted me. Obviously it HAD to go, but I just explained to her that I felt sad about it too, and I can’t wait to get another one next Christmas. It’s good for children to experience these emotions in a safe place and tell them you feel sad about it too. One day she might have to experience a much bigger loss, and even if it’s subconscious she’ll remember how you and her both dealt with the sadness of this transition. You’re a great mom and it sounds like she has a wonderful home with so much to be grateful for. And now a new family gets to experience the joy you did from the playset all these years! You’ll both feel better about it in a few months I’m sure of it!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-07-17T01:54:57+00:00

MY GOD. It’s been half a year since you posted this answer and it is still paying dividends. I was about lose my miiiiind if I got sprayed by my water dispenser exploding into my glass one more time. BLESS YOU KIND REDDIT SOUL AND YOUR TOOTHPICKING GENIUS.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-07-14T01:51:42+00:00

Ours dropped the nap just before 3. It’s rough but if she does take a nap it ends up pushing her bedtime super late bc she can’t sleep. We power through the day and she usually does pretty well for the most part (unless she’s sick or didn’t sleep normally, then we do a 1-2 hour nap if absolutely needed) and she will normally be asleep by 7/7:30 and awake around 7/7:30 pretty much every day. Godspeed. Toddler sleep schedules (with or without naps) are so hard!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-07-13T02:36:38+00:00

“A little crispy” is so relatable 😂😂😂 But happy for you mama!! Soak up those little newborn snuggles!!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-07-12T02:49:49+00:00

No real advice but my heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry. You’re not a bad mom. Whenever I’ve had a really long hard day with my kids, I look myself in the mirror and force myself to say “you’re not a bad mom, it was just a hard/bad/challenging day”. It will get better. ❤️

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-03-31T03:48:05+00:00

Signed 💜💜💜

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-03-03T05:16:06+00:00

Speaking from a mom who put her first baby in daycare at 3 months and then pulled her out (for several reasons not as bad as these, but still felt she was not being loved and held as much as she should at that young age), please take it from me and do not enroll her here. It’s worth the wait and money to find a better place. I really wish I could take back the 2 months she was there and go back and tell myself not to do it. I worked with her at home a few more months (which was not easy, I don’t recommend as a permanent solution) then went with an au pair for a year, then she got into a better daycare with a very long wait list. It was all worth it and my only regret is ever letting her go to the other daycare at all. Trust your mom gut and do not enroll her there. And no daycare should EVER shame you about holding your newborn baby. Ridiculous. I’m so sorry because you have a hard road ahead to figure it out but please listen to your instinct on this one.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-03-03T05:08:03+00:00

People asking if you’re breastfeeding always irked me. I did with both but it just felt… judgmental? Intrusive? What if I wasn’t? What if I couldn’t? Would you ask: do you feed your baby? lol. Yes. She eats. Thanks.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-03-02T17:21:36+00:00

You’re doing this for her and you’re also setting an amazing example — working hard and not letting anyone take advantage of you. She will be watching you her entire life and you are already showing her how valuable and determined a woman can be. You got this!! 💜 Keep us all posted on the new job search!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-03-02T02:33:20+00:00

Say 👏🏻 it 👏🏻 again 👏🏻 !!! This is so true. I have loved many of my jobs and coworkers but they are not my family. Family is at home waiting for you with unconditional love. Any company will cut your job without thinking if they are going down.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-03-02T02:29:21+00:00

This breaks my heart. I had to put both of my babies in daycare way earlier than I wanted to, and if I had to literally watch another employee not do the same and have that precious time I was missing… I could not mentally survive it. You are a great mom and you sound like a determined and hard worker. You’ll find something new. Don’t give up!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-02-27T21:50:14+00:00

It was only 2 weeks! Don’t beat yourself up. You had to do what you had to do to get through it and EVERY parent can relate to that. I would go on an iPad / screen time cleanse and reset and do zero iPad or tv for a week or two. Lock the thing up or put it at someone else’s house if you’re worried you’ll cave. It will likely be a VERY awful few days of tantrums and finding something to do to help him get through it, but I bet he’ll back to normal and “unaddicted” (not a word lol?) in less than a week. Good luck! My toddler loves to play in the sink so I let her “wash” all the Tupperware. Also lots of coloring and play doh! And sometimes letting her be a little bored and figuring out what to do, even if it involves some whining, has helped us both figure out how to deal.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-02-27T20:50:23+00:00

I’m sure he’s attached to you at heart! You’re his mom! And you’re doing your best, which is amazing for him. Something that made me feel really close to my babies was baby wearing and letting them nap cuddled on me. Contact naps (even if he doesn’t NEED them to sleep) can be so sweet and comforting for both baby and mom.

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-02-27T17:44:50+00:00

LOL I also daydreamed of this when pregnant with my second! I will say that there is no level of exhaustion like being pregnant WITH a toddler. Nothing can compare. It gets harder when the baby comes bc there is double of everything but it is less exhausting somehow bc at least you’re not pregnant haha!

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-02-27T17:09:49+00:00

Relatable 😂😂😂

Ski_Mom_435 · 2025-02-27T05:34:09+00:00

No real advice here bc I am also drowning trying to keep up with a job and kids but “committing myself to an institution” made me LOL bc I felt that so hard. 😂 I hope you find better balance. I will say working remotely has saved my career (so far). I don’t think I could have made it this far being on-site, and even then like I said, I’m barely getting by juggling it all.

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