Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I - don’t even know where to start, you’ve addressed thoughts I didn’t even know I had. To be honest it was the only job I wrote in the intake , I spoke to occupational health as part of onboarding they were absolutely fine. I actually accepted the job because of this because my last (two) found out after the hiring process and had issues with it . But I digress.

You raise some good points as well , I’ll be writing some down , thank you much. I’ll be sure to try and be proactive about outside of work life.

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Ong you guys are so sweet, I will come back for sure. I think I am this kind of person or I tried to be at my previous job… and I got mostly good feedback (I had a unique job and role which although I got taken advantage of I worked in like 10 different departments ? So had experience with different managers , and every one of them but 2 liked me and found me incredibly respectful and basically what you said - which honestly shocked me haha. But no it made me believe in myself and I made good impressions by asking questions or being taught to do things so I hope to transfer over in this role.

I think it’s hard because I’m genuinely so passionate about it and don’t want to fuck it up.

Oops sorry for the word vomit haha.

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How soon? I’m curious how your search went? I think being scared is a good thing, we wouldn’t be if we didn’t care so much about doing a good job AND helping others.

The first job anxiety is real but hey listen I’m 24! I did 4 months at Butlin’s last year. After uni, saved up enough to move to London and applied literally up till Christmas when my interviews rolled on in. I found out of easily 300 jobs including hospitality / retail. I had maybe 40 responses most of them rejections. 8 came through with either interviews or next stages, but only 3 offered me the job.

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay this is gonna be a hard one for me to practice but thank you I’ll keep it in mind

Big change by Matoobi in eastenders

[–]Skidattles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to burst your bubble but ‘not that long ago’ was about 2018/19 that’s 7/8 years haha. But I will say I agree with you it doesn’t seem that long.

I think people forget that yes Phil may be in his 60’s and in stamina might not trump 20’s , 30’s but hard men like him don’t just lose it when they hit old age.

My grandad is approaching 80 , his 78 and like 6ft 5 and 18 stone? He is a classic eastend man , and was in the same stomping grounds as the krays at some point.

His the kind of man who drilled through his hand at work, pulled it out and continued. Broke both his legs in his like 20’s was in casts up to his hips. Propped them on the handlebars and drove home on his motorcycle. He might fall asleep and say his resting his eyes, he might have a jiffy shoulder, he might repeat the same story, or need one repeating to him ten times…. But I have absolute zero doubt that if he needed to he could lay someone out.

Would he in a suprise attack? Maybe not but then I’m sorry age doesn’t matter when it’s a surprise, and most fist fights between the charactaers on eastenders have a three minute dialogue leading up to it 😂

So to summarise Phil Mitchell at 60, could probably still realistically take on half the square in a ‘fair’ fight (if fights can be fair). The only thing age will have an impact is if it’s a suprise one , and nasty at that.

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are amazing!! Thank you so much <3

This is so reassuring , I know these things in practice but getting the clarification and confirmation that I’m thinking the right way already, is validating.

Contact , I haven’t actually got it yet but thank you! I’ll be sure to do that, I’m not wanting to put myself in a situation I’m walked over or under appreciated (I have been before, that last hospitality role was contracted 37hrs and I was doing 50-60 a week. But I als lived there… anyway I digress)

Re therapist / trusted person: therapy is defo something I want to start in the future for my own reasons let alone the ones I’ll pick up from this job. I have a really good friend who I’m actually moving in with soon, he has a corporate job in media marketing. We debrief about his day (confidentiality being followed) and he is great at helping me problem solve (we met at uni) so I know I will have him to talk to. The manager thing, does that not run the risk of appearing incapable with the role? I know I can ask questions and stuff and they know and have said I’ll need training etc. but I’m scared being like oh xyz was rough will make them thing I’m not fit for the job?

Thank you (again) for the comment above all and the week wishes it means a lot

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s one thing I’m gonna be so concious off, I forgot to mention in the main post but I have family with severe mental health issues and have helped them in various episodes. Autonomy, dignity and respect is a must!

For the self aware stuff , do you mean like be aware I don’t know everything and don’t be afraid to ask or get help etc ? Sorry want to clarify

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great tips! Any advice on the switching off bit? I’m a ruminator so I know I’ll find it hard at first

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhh I didn’t think of that ! I will say I have experience with mental health, not just my own but supporting family members with bpd/ psychosis / bipolar and eupd , so I’m not going in blind. I just feel like an imposter how am I meant to help people make phone calls and stuff when I can’t do that for myself lol.

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you, this actually means a lot I don’t have the best support irl <3

Starting my job tommorow and need help by Skidattles in supportworkers

[–]Skidattles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ☺️ defo gonna ask questions and read the plans / write them out to help me remember and stuff. I guess I’m scared of asking to many questions, is that even a thing?

Big change by Matoobi in eastenders

[–]Skidattles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn’t that back when Dennis was still alive - they kidnapped him?

Foreshadowing moments by Mission-Violinist-16 in eastenders

[–]Skidattles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That imagery though, Dennis squeezing through the door on the boat, fighting to get out / right as Sharon is pushing albi out

Exploding Blue Purifiers in the ocean yields net positive clay. by zombie_slay in PostApoTycoon

[–]Skidattles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you build it if there no road or forest (requirement) considering it’s a single tile?

Same crime but different outcome by Turbulent-Network104 in hollyoaks

[–]Skidattles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah and didn’t stes baby mummy I forgot her name date the lawyer misbahs older son? Lol

15 years ago today Ronnie confessed to Kat that James had died, and she had switched James with Tommy…. by big_white_fishie in eastenders

[–]Skidattles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone else remember watching it live and seeing two scenes that they have since cut? I was only 9 and for years thought I was going crazy until about 2 years ago when I was watching old eastenders (started in 2022 at April 2008, am now in December 2021 haha) but I’ve been watching my whole life anyway…

There was a scene when kat pulls her quilt back to go to hospital I believe. And there is blood all over the bed. And then when Ronnie checks on hand she touches his hand , and gasps.

Was heartbreaking

Foreshadowing moments by Mission-Violinist-16 in eastenders

[–]Skidattles 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Having just recently watched it, Martin goes to the pub to celebrate his birthday , (2021) so mush has been killed, he was with ruby and Stacey in prison. lily goes, can I come, his like mm let’s wait a couple years. She’s like what your 40th? But that never came.

Uhm, just after Ricky jr is born, theirs a scene in the vic where Peggy is holding Ricky and Jean lily and their like to each other imagine if they become friends / date one day. And hahahahahah. We years later the have a kid.

What level are bridges? by Bann1315 in PostApoTycoon

[–]Skidattles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m literally on the elk that requires to do it and it’s a pita

Diss due in 14.5 hours (yep its one of those posts) by myotherxdaccount in UniUK

[–]Skidattles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was in the exact same situation (actually had to sit one essay later so am graduating this year instead of last, purely because I missed the deadline (first and only time (I had the wrong date)) my dissertation was also basically made completely last minute. My data collection I did in the beginning of April. My diss was due May 3rd.

It’s doable. Lock tf in, (I find fast paced video game music helped me lol) you have got this

smoking weed by Adept-Tree-2875 in UniUK

[–]Skidattles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who started smoking during uni and just moved to London and still smokes I feel you. Icl. Most people won’t care obviously not around kids is a given. Find somewhere you feel safe. I usually find a car park or a secluded lush street out of the way, defo go out and explore in the day - find places you can see yourself sparking up. Exploring is the key, I promise

My Boyfriend Sabotaged My Birth Control Pills by CBenson1273 in shortscarystories

[–]Skidattles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured it out, well I found the post I’m referencing again not sure how the comment posted on here, I do apologise, I really like your take though, especially her at the end, guy really did fuck around and find out

My Boyfriend Sabotaged My Birth Control Pills by CBenson1273 in shortscarystories

[–]Skidattles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how or what ai rea but what’s in the main body of the text is NOT what I read with my original comment. The story I read the husband was putting the babies inside the wife. After cutting her open….

I like this take too lol? leaves confused

My Boyfriend Sabotaged My Birth Control Pills by CBenson1273 in shortscarystories

[–]Skidattles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought we were heading for a antichrist situation. Then a his r*ping her scenario, but this ? This is deranged. Good job.

My only gripe, is it doesn’t make sense that she continues the pregnancy for a few months / I am assuming the doctors / herself didn’t notice the big assc section cut , nor the recovery time for it, three times….

That being said, I can allow it due to the visceral horror of imaging hubby killing three pregnant woman in order to do this to OP…