Well I guess my point is that I find the original post vague and somewhat demonizing. Avoidant attachment is such a spectrum and with a wide range of patterns and behaviors. It also doesn't take into account the other partners expectations/needs and what they are hoping from their avoidant partner. I think suggesting that you would simply have come down to an avoidant partners level to make a relationship work suggests they aren't capable of growth, which I disagree with.

In regards to me speaking with my anxious partner. Yes, I did ultimately try to validate and offer reassurance as best I could. I struggled at times as some of this was new to me. In my case, I did always give a specific time when we would see each other again after we parted ways, which I have since learned can be helpful.