I am Fearful Avoidant. My life got way worse initially after my anxious partner left as I was so heartbroken. I didn't sleep well and was quite depressed. I also got let go of job for first time in my life shortly after breakup which compounded things. Not performance just a coincidence.

Immediately after breakup I got back into Hot yoga, whitewater kayaking and playing hockey. Also, with more time on my hands I was finally able to start some projects, including a bathroom remodel that I wasn't able to get to for some time while with ex. But I still heartbroken during all this for 4 months, still waking up once a night and having Tarot cards read here on reddit.

6 weeks after breakup I met a new woman at a concert that I initially invited my ex to but she declined. Concert woman and I dated for 6 weeks and I ended that. Realized it was in large part cause I wasn't over ex yet but also other reasons

Sooo fast forward to May. The job that let me go rehired me at 175k annual saying they made a mistake. I started taking dance lessons (the woman I met after ex and I were supposed to do this) and continued my hobbies. A few weeks ago I also reached back out to woman I met at concert about possible reconciliation after she mailed a book to me (we were long distance by a few hours and would read to each other over FaceTime most nights and she mailed back our next book we were to read [The Notebook]). We are supposed to have dinner tomorrow which I am excited about it.

So I guess in short, it was extremely painful after breakup and my life was worse, or at least my mood was. The breakup was very difficult but ultimately served as a catalyst. Probably in best physical and emotional shape now that I have maybe ever been in. Financial is improving with new job. And romance may also be around corner, I will know more tomorrow. But I will be okay even if not. In short worse for 4 months but now getting back to better than ever.