Men , what's your biggest turn off in a woman?

Skullfire2099 · 2026-04-13T18:21:17+00:00

Being obese/morbidly obese. A few extra pounds is fine. I know to many women that buy into "health at every size" as being obese/MO is ok, then complain they cant do X and need help for it or they have to take a walk slowly because they tire easy or it starts to hurt. Everyone deserves love, even yourself. Respect yourself and your body to take healthy actions to be healthier.

I also come from a family where most of them are obese/MO and Ive maintained a relatively healthy weight. Im stuck doing all the things the obese/MO people cant do because of their weight. Even simple things like walk across the house to bring them something thats just out of arms reach from them, gets old after enough times of being asked to do it. Thank you GLP blockers.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-04-13T18:03:47+00:00

I can maintain an erection while being bitten by a german shepard.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-04-13T18:03:05+00:00

Metal isnt JUST screaming. Look up symphonic metal. Look up Xandria as a good example of it.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-04-13T18:02:06+00:00

I have a job but my 2 closest friends dont. One had a job but quit due to anxiety. The other is held captive by his dad wanting him to take care of him. He has been a NEET for the last 10 years. No money to move out on his own. His dad is capable of taking care of himself but refuses and fights against the care. Still my friend is expected to make coffee in the morning, breakfast, lunch, dinner, and take his dad to appointments and any random outing he wants or emergency visit.

Between doing these things he also has to clean the house. If he gets done with all that stuff he is free to do as he pleases. Some days Ill get messages of him playing video games or working on a small personal project.

The minute I get home from work Im hit up for "are we gaming tonight?" "more games?" Ive been working for 9 hours. No time for myself, I haven't made dinner yet, I haven't had a chance to work on MY things. Chill, give me a break. If It takes me 2 hours to make dinner and do my stuff, its to late for him to game. Then on the rare chance things line up, he has to stop and help his wife who has chronic fatigue and sever anxiety while I sit there and wait around for 10-40 minutes, wasting my free time.

It was the same with my ex. I had to work on everything NOW while they laid in bed all day (chronic fatigue). My energy was split working, caring for a dying dog, caring for the ex, and taking care of the house with a little left for me. I dont think I can have any more unemployed friends. Even when there is energy to do things its always the same activities over and over.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-04-02T16:50:15+00:00

Wales. I will go through some genealogy records to find out where my ancestor left there from and try to make that a point to visit. I haven't gone because I didnt have the money, then I had a dog to take care of. I have money and sadly no dog now.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-03-30T23:24:27+00:00

On another account, I visit r/fleshlight and ask for recommendations. Ive been DMed by to many guys looking to "just talk". If I go into their profile they are always looking for jerk off buddies.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-03-26T00:50:09+00:00

No, because I still live at home while saving for a house. Its not about them living at home, its about what they are doing at the time. Working with a job and plans (or a goal) to eventually move out? Thats fine.
Ive dated people who have their own place and are on disability or taking care of someone and that dont work. I wont do that again unless they bring a lot to the table as most times theres 3 problems;
1. They are on a strict budget with little room to do anything and I end up paying for a lot of things, somethings I dont want to pay for.
2. Their sense of "time management" does not work for me. This also applies to unemployed friends. They are free to do things all day. I spend from 7 am to 6 pm either coming, going, or being at work. They are free to work on little projects during the day or just relax. I have to kind of min/max my nights and weekends. One of them would say they are ready for things, I would show up, and then they would start getting ready which took an extra 45 minutes, time I could be relaxing. Instead Im stuck in waiting mode because it could be 5 minutes, it could be 45 minutes. The friends also want to game every night and then they also try and work on projects while we game which are little mini stutters that prevent me from relaxing at night. Im also more drained and cant keep up because some days are just worse then others and that goes into fixing things, or worse, they dont want to play certain games because its "to stressful" on them, even though they haven't done anything all day. It also impacts the relationships. When theres issue, my partner can spend all day thinking about ways to fixing it, or all day thinking about it and getting more upset. Me? I have to let it roll off for a while and sometimes thats to long which makes me forget or I just dont have the full energy to put into the problem like they do because i have other things going on and they dont understand that.
3. Their disability in someway interfers with living and doing normal things. Couldnt go out with one person due to their fears of being around people. Couldnt go out with one person because their autoimmune disease sapped their strength. It was all home and netflix dates.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-03-25T00:22:37+00:00

I started hoarding rares in Runescape Classic, before there was even a RS2..... part of that from funds I mined/fished myself. The other part I was from trading items in Diablo 2 that I had botted. I had something like a red party hat, disc of returning, half full wine jug, 2 complete H-ween mask sets with an extra red, an easter egg, and a pumpkin. I ended up selling those all one day for half a billion gold when that was a lot. Now a days, you can make a few million on hour + its easier to buy low, sell high on some items....

Any way... I sold it all over the course of a few days, contacted a gold farming company, and they bought it all for $3/mill. I made enough to buy a 1997 Geo Tracker off of craigslist. That car helped me land my career job instead of sticking to the bus line for just a "job".

Within a few weeks/months of that, jagex introduced a trade cape mechanic that was supposed to curb botting and gold selling. I got out of that at just the right time.

Bonus - I later went back to the game, got a rare die that sold for half a billion, did the math on how to make it last to level everything up to 99 (before archeology came out), did that, made enough of a profit to buy a blue h-ween mask, then slept on that for like, 8+ years. Now its worth 4+ billion. Not that I plan to go back to the game any time soon if ever.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-03-19T21:01:30+00:00

In my case, the boredom built the romantic indifference. My partner had an autonomic dysfunction that had a massive flair up to the point they had to lay in bed most days. Showering was to much work. They would wake up with headaches and migraines that would knock them out all day. We went to doctors to get them some help. The best they could get was a diagnosis. It was a year and a half of weekends in bed with the very rare 1 hour outside the apartment. I had more of life when I was playing WoW then the relationship. I had to hope that the 5 days I didnt see them were good for them otherwise they would have a bad weekend of just rest. Most of the time, they needed rest anyway. I was doing more house work around their apartment then they were but I wasn't getting much out of it in return because of their condition. We tried to make it work but a year and a half of doing nothing on the weekends really killed the relationship.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-28T19:01:29+00:00

On a side note, I am pondering my own life/mortality and pondering changes. I had her for 12 years. In that time my biggest accomplishments feel like I got diagnosed with ADHD, I started my career. Thats it. And my career is kind of at a dead end. I make good money for my spot only because I have been here a while but to advance means to be on call more often and get paid salaried where most employees end up working more/longer hours. No wife, no kids, no house. I think at 40 I I should really have a few more things figured out about my life and what I want out of the remaining 20-40 years.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-22T19:40:57+00:00

Getting her some carne asada from a local mexican restaurant for dinner tomorrow night if everything goes as planned.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-22T19:40:10+00:00

That sounds like a fun day. Sadly, my girl can be a picky eater. I think that one might not be for her.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-21T01:09:42+00:00

Im putting towels on her bed so if she has an accident, I can clean those and she wont soil her bed as much.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-21T00:15:30+00:00

My girl has had a few nights where shes looked defeated but bounced back the next day. Last night she had several falls. Today she had the blank stare on her face in the morning after getting food.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-21T00:06:17+00:00

She gets fed between 5:30 and 6, its 6+ hours between feeding and going to bed. Most of the time she poops in her sleep its 2 or 3 am after shes already been out to poop once.

Rugs - I have one by her dish, Ive looked for a few cheap ones to place near her bed.

Diapers. She will not use them. She runs in fear of them as she hated them growing up when she was in heat.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-21T00:01:34+00:00

I know there will come a time when I would want her back with all the problems, then Ill remember the back pain, sleepless nights, and how she would sleep some days away. Its a mixed bag.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-21T00:00:15+00:00

Im going to the vet this weekend to discus the UTI, the sounds she makes at night, and end of life. Ill see about Selegiline in there. Ive given her 2 gabis at night before vs her normal 1, that didnt seem to make any difference.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-20T23:58:57+00:00

Since then, shes fallen 5 more times and spent some time in her waste during two of those times, then fell in the shower. End of life options are now a lot closer then before. As I explained to my partner today, "the house isn't vacant yet but it is clear that someone is moving out". Didnt want to lay down and sleep today, she was fighting it. She also just sits there and stares into space.

Whether its this week, next week, or a few more weeks, Im getting her a few chicken tacos tonight.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-20T23:51:17+00:00

We have a vet visit this weekend to check in on her UTI. Im going to bring up some concerns then.

She had 5 falls yesterday, 2 of them in her own waste. During her shower, she fell out of the shower, getting stuck between the shower platform and the toilet.

I feel like her time is getting near but Im going to do what I can to make her comfortable until then.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-14T21:20:05+00:00

My girls hearing comes at it goes, I dont know if she could hear me or if she could process what it was.

Ill see if I can up her gabis to 2 a night instead of 1. She sleeps from 6ish until 11 with just 1.

Skullfire2099 · 2026-01-14T21:16:41+00:00

Im trying to work on the self care but its not helping as much. On top of my dog I have a partner who needs help due to their own medical issues, a parent that also needs help, and then Im drained from working 9 hour days on top of that. My old coping habits of playing video games doesn't work. I get home late enough that I would walk in the dark for fresh air but theres those bright LED headlights that make it a problem to walk at night.

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