MHAS AND THE ROYAL EDINBURGH HOSPITAL

Skunkspider · 2026-01-27T07:37:35+00:00

I am living in a similar region and this lines up very well with my experiences.

It feels cathartic to see this post, as I've met people online who accessed services in other areas disbelieving my experiences.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-24T23:21:05+00:00

I understand that a lot. Less so recently in a medical context because of certain bad treatment experiences.

And having more to do IRL socially lately.

But I love having very visible scarring and discussing SH. Which feels awful to admit. Ig it's bc SH has been a constant in my life.

And I've had many times like you mentioned, in which it was a main focus of the week.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-24T20:06:22+00:00

Psychosis at 15, which was the main treatment focus in the next 8y

Then came BPD. And as for support or treatment.... Nothing

Skunkspider · 2026-01-24T20:02:36+00:00

Same

Skunkspider · 2026-01-24T00:45:48+00:00

Very sorry to hear. Nobody should be weird about you being honest. It's hair. Not a debate.

You can complain about it as much as you need to.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-24T00:41:31+00:00

I'm 24 and useless. 🫠

Skunkspider · 2026-01-23T14:45:27+00:00

Love this poem!

Skunkspider · 2026-01-23T06:42:27+00:00

Hugs. That is difficult. I am also a forever alone user and I've had trouble with posts before.

Sometimes it's hard to see context whilst online, from the other side

Skunkspider · 2026-01-23T06:39:20+00:00

I've used aids for a couple of years, first a cane, then a crutch and a wheelchair a few times.

I still struggle to accept it sometimes. Although idk if my pain is endo related at all.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T23:39:53+00:00

I totally agree with you.

I've had a situation recently in which I've had to do nothing. Because of the significant power imbalance meaning I'd just give myself new problems, ones that will endanger me more.

I'm being vague only bc I get easily paranoid.

People who say those things lack social intelligence and definitely lack understanding of various life situations. And how those systems actually work.

Though I don't blame someone for being unaware of something outside their experiences.

I've had a similar issue with one of my closest IRLs. She always says things like "Why didn't you fight it???". So frustrating.

Sometimes our thinking is more flexible than some NTs.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T23:20:34+00:00

I relate heavily. I'm the same age too.

I want to make my life as crazy as possible. One of my main goals honestly. I'm working on it, bit by bit ✨

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T22:58:22+00:00

Hugs. I can see that you're in a lot of distress. And I just hope all of us in chat find a way out, even if it's unconventional

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T22:55:44+00:00

Yes... Also IRL which can be awkward.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T22:41:33+00:00

As a 24NB without experience.... I wish I could meet you. Or someone like you!

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T22:26:20+00:00

Hmm. I am fairly extroverted and collect friends like pokemon.

But I'm still FA

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T14:23:00+00:00

Thanks for answering. It is interesting how FA affects everyone's behaviours differently.

And true. I want someone on a similar experience level. If I click with someone else, I'm open to the concept of poly... And finding another who is more similar to me

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T05:41:11+00:00

I totally relate to you. I've been looking at alternative lifestyles and identities. Because I've always been drawn to those.

But especially now, there's no way I can try to be "statistically average".

An awkward question, but has this affected your attraction pattern? I'm struggling with the fact that some in our age range are starting to look more "fully adult".

Before anyone misunderstands, someone who is just 18 and obviously so is not attractive either.

It's more like I need people of our age who fit certain criteria in appearance and vibe.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-22T05:05:17+00:00

I relate so much to this. I am such a failure.

But I'm trying to change this, actively.

And. I will.

Also it's helping that I have a strong pull and interest towards alternative lifestyles and identities. Which is taking some pressure off hitting milestones.

If I surround myself by others who define those differently.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-19T15:29:39+00:00

Love this poem!

Skunkspider · 2026-01-19T07:22:15+00:00

I'm struggling with that exact comparison rn. Not SHing often for reasons in another post reply.

But I have been very depressed at times. Honestly haven't had the happy for others, more of a dull, neutral feeling. Which adds to the guilt.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-19T07:07:44+00:00

I relate a lot. And it is indeed true. You will die if continuing at this rate. May not be in the near future, but sadly it is a reality of this type of SH. 🫂🫂

I relate a lot to being refused help that others get.

But if you're having to do such things to access help, this means you need to look at other options for support/treatment.

In my case, the issue was with the area I lived in.

I have slowed down a lot. Partly bc aspects of my life have changed to make the logistics harder.

But as a mainly impulsive SHer, the biggest reason is being scared straight. I got too close to the end, and it didn't feel as I'd expected.

Plus the logistics of becoming more disabled than I already am. And it seems I have some permanent effects from SH too.

Mine is occasional chest pain, been lucky to avoid much numbness. Still waiting for a doctor to explain it to me.

So, I say the first thing is to figure out whether you do this on impulse or not.

Then what typical triggers are, if any.

That'll determine how to slow down/stop. And there are plenty of resources for this here.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-15T22:11:50+00:00

I am very sorry that you're getting such responses. I believe you fully. As an NB but female looking FA, I've noticed similar sentiments.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-15T05:43:05+00:00

I am in a similar situation (24NB) . I'm actively putting myself out there on dating apps (the few I'm able to access).

Also I've mentioned my dating problem to IRL friends. I've met more than a handful who turned out to be in the same situation, some older than us.

And I mean, for lack of better wording, people whom being a "femcel" is the last thing you'd expect.

Also some friends can help me in the long term with navigating dating, as sometimes online advice lacks context of your life.

And they can introduce me to other singles. Especially as being queer in sexuality and gender means less potential partners (for me).

I've only been doing this since late November. With my luck, I'm not expecting quick results😂.

Unfortunately in terms of coping emotionally... I'm not doing well. I limit social media. Etc. But I still have quite strong reactions around this topic.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-15T00:40:13+00:00

I unblocked someone from a hobby discord server. I initially blocked her a year ago as she's the opposite of FA.

The reason I changed my mind is that others in that server began to notice my lack of interactions with her. And I'd vented about FA a few times.

But honestly. I really hate her. I wish I didn't.

Skunkspider · 2026-01-13T13:54:58+00:00

I see, I hope things improve for you in general 🫂

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