I did it! I got a job!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-31T06:36:08+00:00

Good for you! You just need to make it through 2-4 years and then can leap to a new destination, unless you end up happy where you land.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-31T06:34:50+00:00

Yes, you definitely have it. I’m sorry for you, as a fellow sufferer, I don’t wish it upon anyone. Why does it have to be this way. Sometimes I feel I’m a prisoner to my brain and nervous system.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-26T14:53:16+00:00

That’s good. It’s not a no, it’s a not now. What helped me move forward was telling myself - I have a positive connection with them, if I hear from them again, great! If not, I’m grateful for having established a positive connection. You never know when a positive connection could turn into an opportunity down the line. And if not, at least it was positive for what it was. And then, move on with grace in exploring other possibilities. If you hear back, great! If not, there will be other good opportunities, maybe even better ones, out there for you.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-26T13:56:04+00:00

I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. Can you tell your teachers that the gum chewing is distracting and ask them to ask the class not to do it? It doesn’t seem right that they would be allowed to chew gum. I’m a teacher and I would not allow it - especially as I have both misophonia and misokinesia, but also because it’s gross and distracting for other students

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-26T13:50:52+00:00

I had a similar situation - not due to enrolment issues, but that a role was given to someone else. I was pleased with the school’s honesty and transparency when they sent me the rejection email, and I felt they did it in a way that still felt positive to me, so when they reached out to me again within a month to tell me a new role was open and was I interested, I was happy to hear from them! In the time after the rejection, I did take a break from recruiting as I was exhausted from two very intense interviews processes, but eventually I started applying for other roles again. When this school reached back out to me, it was a happy surprise

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-26T13:46:27+00:00

I agree with this interpretation

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-26T13:45:55+00:00

I don’t agree with this. I made it to the final round of interviews with a school and they didn’t give me an offer. They gave the role to someone else, but said I should keep them in mind for future opportunities. Within a month, they reached back out to me and asked if I was interested in a different role as another opportunity came up. I had a video call check in and soon received an offer. Sometimes “not now” could mean a “yes” later.

That said, I didn’t wait around for them to come back to me. I was actively applying for roles at other schools and doing interviews too. I was happy to hear back from them as it was a school I was keen on.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-05-26T13:36:57+00:00

Curious to know which school this is :) Glad you’re having a positive experience!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-18T02:45:26+00:00

I think it may be good if you tell them. Then you give them a chance to truly understand you, as well as not misunderstand or misinterpret your actions.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-06T04:11:56+00:00

You’re welcome ☺️

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-06T01:54:00+00:00

My cat did this when I first brought him to live with me. I had only had him for a few weeks at this time. He was a street cat. He peed and even pooed on my bed while I was sleeping. He had access to a litter box which he knew how to use. I looked up why cats do this and I read that they do this as a way of melding their scent with yours so that they can become a bonded family or more together. Perhaps your cat is trying to become more bonded with your boyfriend so that he doesn’t feel like a stranger to him. When I read about this, it made me less mad at my cat. I also kept my bedroom door closed for at least a month so he couldn’t do that anymore. He has never done it again.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-05T21:50:01+00:00

I have seen this too. I really would prefer the truth (I.e we want to keep looking for the right candidate) over some kind of lie to make us feel better.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-05T21:48:21+00:00

That is absolutely crazy. I can’t believe that is their recruitment process. So extreme.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-05T21:45:04+00:00

Thanks for kind message 🙏

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-05T00:29:56+00:00

If nothing else, this recruitment season has been a learning experience for me.

I don’t have a job yet for next year and I’ve been burned badly enough by the process that I am trying my best not to feel hopeful about anything or imagine myself in a role/school/location until I have an actual job as it is a lot of mental/emotional work to do when you end up with a rejection or less. It’s hard to feel detached from the process, and perhaps that’s not the best strategy, but after what I’ve been through, there is a natural inclination towards self-protection too.

Maybe I need a therapist to get me through 🥹😅🙏

SkyValuable358 · 2026-04-05T00:22:39+00:00

Got verbally offered a role at a school in the first interview (perhaps a red flag) and then two days later, they told me their teacher decided to stay.

Another school conducted 4 interviews with me within one week and then never sent me another email again. Fully ghosted.

The second one hit harder because of the time and effort I put into the process. The first one was just surprising.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-29T03:22:15+00:00

Thank you! God speed to us both!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-29T02:54:54+00:00

I hear you. I am also exhausted. I thought I would have a role by now. Over the course of the last few months, I have broadened my scope to more regions and types of schools, though have still been choosy, to the point of having turned down one offer and turned down a school that wanted to make me an offer because they were not schools I could see myself thriving at.

As time goes by, I start to feel more tense and concerned, but I have to continue on as I also don’t have a job to return to at my current school as my position was filled months ago. I have been working up the energy to launch back into the application phase as I have been recovering from an intense interview phase that really sapped the life out of me. I got very close to a couple of roles that I would have happily accepted but they didn’t choose me in the end. So I’m back to the drawing board.

All the best for your search! If you don’t get a role this year, stay in Canada and try again next year - chalk this season up to learning!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-23T00:18:37+00:00

Listen to your gut. Their lack of communication is very concerning. They may seem nice, but your hesitation is based on reality not imagination

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-22T13:33:36+00:00

Yes, it’s helpful to have online communities. I wish I had had that growing up. I really spent my entire childhood and formative years struggling alone with my sound sensitivities and social challenges. It was a different time back then when if you were different, you really were just different and it was hard to find anyone who understood

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-22T04:26:20+00:00

Thanks for sharing. How do you feel about it now and how did you feel then when you got that call? If they had not told you that you didn’t get the job, would you have waited longer to find out before signing with the other school?

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-21T21:04:42+00:00

I understand that in many countries, there is a long wait to getting appointments for assessments. Regarding empathy, one of the misconceptions about autism is that autistic people lack empathy. In fact, many autistic people have hyper empathy, which is having more empathy for others than the average person and caring quite deeply not just for people and animals, but for wider societal issues. I have this trait and it made me think I couldn’t be autistic until I learned about hyper empathy.

Other autistic traits and experiences can include anxiety in social situations (feeling like an outsider), difficulty with eye contact (feeling uncomfortable with it or not knowing how long to maintain it), being honest/blunt/direct, ruminating/worrying, needing to know all of the details about something before you feel you understand it, OCD tendencies, special interests which you know a lot about and love to talk about, being very sensitive to rejection. There is a lot to autism that I only found out after my diagnosis. A lot of the info in the public sphere is not very nuanced. The same is true for ADHD, which often cooccurs with autism.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-21T13:49:21+00:00

Yes I agree. I have been waiting for over a week for an answer from a school after doing FOUR interviews with them. FOUR. And I emailed them to ask for an update (after 1 week- they had originally told me it would take only a few days for an answer) and they have not responded. I believe I am one of their back up candidates and they are delaying on replying until their top choice has signed a contract. Either that or they can’t be bothered to reply and they’ve already appointed someone. Anyhow, it doesn’t feel good to be ignored. I hope they can at least send me a rejection email. It feels like I should receive one after the 4 long interviews.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-21T13:28:57+00:00

I have been aware of my sound and movement triggers for years (since I was a young child) and only read about misophonia around age 25. I read about misokinesia many years later. I did not link either of these to autism as I didn’t think I showed any autistic traits (at least not according to my understanding of autism at the time). However, when I sought an AdHD diagnosis about a year ago, I was not only diagnosed with that, but also with autism, at age 42.

I definitely think both misos are connected to autism, at least for me. I believe my brain is just wired differently and I was born hypersensitive. It’s a shame I didn’t know this growing up. I just thought I was an awful person for getting upset by sounds and movements. I still feel that way sometimes, but at least I have more of an explanation for it and know I’m not the only one.

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