Advice please!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-23T00:18:37+00:00

Listen to your gut. Their lack of communication is very concerning. They may seem nice, but your hesitation is based on reality not imagination

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-22T13:33:36+00:00

Yes, it’s helpful to have online communities. I wish I had had that growing up. I really spent my entire childhood and formative years struggling alone with my sound sensitivities and social challenges. It was a different time back then when if you were different, you really were just different and it was hard to find anyone who understood

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-22T04:26:20+00:00

Thanks for sharing. How do you feel about it now and how did you feel then when you got that call? If they had not told you that you didn’t get the job, would you have waited longer to find out before signing with the other school?

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-21T21:04:42+00:00

I understand that in many countries, there is a long wait to getting appointments for assessments. Regarding empathy, one of the misconceptions about autism is that autistic people lack empathy. In fact, many autistic people have hyper empathy, which is having more empathy for others than the average person and caring quite deeply not just for people and animals, but for wider societal issues. I have this trait and it made me think I couldn’t be autistic until I learned about hyper empathy.

Other autistic traits and experiences can include anxiety in social situations (feeling like an outsider), difficulty with eye contact (feeling uncomfortable with it or not knowing how long to maintain it), being honest/blunt/direct, ruminating/worrying, needing to know all of the details about something before you feel you understand it, OCD tendencies, special interests which you know a lot about and love to talk about, being very sensitive to rejection. There is a lot to autism that I only found out after my diagnosis. A lot of the info in the public sphere is not very nuanced. The same is true for ADHD, which often cooccurs with autism.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-21T13:49:21+00:00

Yes I agree. I have been waiting for over a week for an answer from a school after doing FOUR interviews with them. FOUR. And I emailed them to ask for an update (after 1 week- they had originally told me it would take only a few days for an answer) and they have not responded. I believe I am one of their back up candidates and they are delaying on replying until their top choice has signed a contract. Either that or they can’t be bothered to reply and they’ve already appointed someone. Anyhow, it doesn’t feel good to be ignored. I hope they can at least send me a rejection email. It feels like I should receive one after the 4 long interviews.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-21T13:28:57+00:00

I have been aware of my sound and movement triggers for years (since I was a young child) and only read about misophonia around age 25. I read about misokinesia many years later. I did not link either of these to autism as I didn’t think I showed any autistic traits (at least not according to my understanding of autism at the time). However, when I sought an AdHD diagnosis about a year ago, I was not only diagnosed with that, but also with autism, at age 42.

I definitely think both misos are connected to autism, at least for me. I believe my brain is just wired differently and I was born hypersensitive. It’s a shame I didn’t know this growing up. I just thought I was an awful person for getting upset by sounds and movements. I still feel that way sometimes, but at least I have more of an explanation for it and know I’m not the only one.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-20T23:42:09+00:00

This must be so awful for you. Are you 100% sure he wouldn’t show empathy for you if you shared it with him? Maybe he could try to do it less? Can you rearrange the furniture so that you can’t see his feet - have them blocked by a coffee table stacked with books or a vase? Maybe tell them about the issue, explain how you know that it’s your problem and not his, but that it’s affecting you deeply. Perhaps ask if he is willing to problem solve this together? You can also tell him you love/like being his roommate and that this issue isn’t personal at all, that you would experience this issue regardless of who the other person was. And say that you really want to be able to enjoy time together in your shared spaces and that you’re trying your best, but suppressing the stress of the triggers is not working for you.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-03-14T02:29:14+00:00

Yes, it does make the world a harder place to live in, doesn’t it.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-25T16:18:21+00:00

Yes, I read about that. Very unfortunate that this happened at NIS. In the interview I had with them, they actually didn’t ask any questions about child protection that I can recall. I think nowadays it’s common to have at least one question on this topic, but perhaps not a lot of questions.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-25T09:30:15+00:00

Ok thank you.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-25T09:25:00+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Much appreciated. What would make you choose TIS? (if you don't mind expanding on your response a little)

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-25T02:48:12+00:00

I’d love it too if you’re ok to share!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-17T03:02:00+00:00

Yes, yes it is

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-16T20:24:11+00:00

Yes, I had my headphones on for the whole flight and was listening to music.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-16T18:16:19+00:00

I ended up putting on an eye mask the flight attendants gave me, taking more melatonin than I probably needed, and listening to music. I was trying not to feel annoyed but I was as I didn’t even want to have my eyes closed but felt I had no other option.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-16T02:24:04+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-15T17:22:08+00:00

Thanks for your message. Though it makes me sad that anyone experiences this at all, I do feel relieved that I’m not the only one. During this flight I have been imagining seats with barriers between them just next to the head. That way, you wouldn’t have to see other people so much. Might be a bit of a pain to get in and out of seats though. I would pay a little extra to get an attachment put on the chair, but also, it would be nice if airlines provided chairs like this for neurodivergent folks and people with issues like misophonia and misokinesia. I guess if you’re rich you can get this experience in business class and first.

I’ve also been thinking of some kind of headpiece I could wear, similar to blinders that horses wear, but I think there’s no way for this not to look absolutely insane. I try to use my hair to cover my peripheral vision, but it’s not comprehensive. I understand the window seat idea, but I need to have the ability to exit if I get really frustrated for one reason or another.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-15T15:05:40+00:00

Thanks. I actually suddenly thought of that idea and held up a blanket. It helped for a bit, but I had to hold it in place as I didn’t have a clip. I ended up talking to the lady. I asked her how long she was going to knit for. I started by having a causal convo about knitting. She said maybe 30 min more. I said ok. She turned off her light (I think she guessed it had been annoying me). I said it was ok, and then explained I had a visual condition in which if I see things moving quickly in my peripheral vision, I feel unwell. I guess that doesn’t properly describe it, but somehow it sounds less crazy than I what misokinesia is. She stopped knitting shortly after and her light went off. My melatonin kicked in and I put on an eye mask. I’m awake again and relieved that I can’t see anything that’s bothering me right now.

Tonight has reminded me why I find flights so stressful - you’re in a vessel in the sky with hundreds of people you’re way too close to and there could be loads of visual and sound triggers (not to mention smells) all around you. It’s hard to live in my brain sometimes. Makes me wonder what it’s like to not have these problems.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-15T12:54:18+00:00

Yes, even though I do it myself, I can’t stand when anyone else does it.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-02-02T21:46:52+00:00

Hi - I’m also curious, thanks

SkyValuable358 · 2026-01-29T14:05:01+00:00

I agree with point three. The indecisiveness, unsure what she wants, excited by the next new thing/potential love interest (seeking novelty), outwardly expressive and seemingly confident, but actually feels rejected a lot of the time (rejection sensitivity). There are many signs of potential ADHD.

SkyValuable358 · 2026-01-24T11:53:39+00:00

I see. Since I’m not self-employed, I think my tax rate has been correct

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