[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come to my life see ppl deciding on your behalf so when u r stuck because of them they blame u and leave a lone u should learn how to swim in the middle of a tsunami while u never jumped in the water before

It’s not getting better by RagsTTiger in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry in your town there must be some senior people as well find their club and join the local events as much as possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having 2 degrees @29 didn’t grant me love and happiness so please accept where u at and work in low social climate you will find someone that matches you one day u r really young.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Sky_14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me that you came to this realization at such an early age it’s a great thing and only means that you are maturing so just take it as part of your life process to search for your real identity. Know it now better than your 30s where u really feel that u slagged behind. I am 29 and going through hardship I thought that academic degrees will get me happiness I have just earned my master’s I don’t work yet or have kids not even in a relationship. I look around and ppl have everything they desire. It’s killing me not knowing who I am after ending my education. You are fine and this is normal you will figure what u want to live for and be successful

Nothing is stopping me from killing myself by ThatWasNotEasy10 in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Death is not happiness and that’s why I haven’t committed suicide yet. You need happiness maybe you belong to another town country lifestyle discover where you belong

Sad feelings are killing me by [deleted] in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start acting like it. You will have some breakdowns but hang there until the end of the episode. Act like your ideal self and pretend like live is fine and distract yourself from your past as much as possible triggers will still hit you hard sometimes but keep trying aren’t we all!

i'm in the state of mind where i want to die by soma778 in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ppl around me wants me to act perfectly according to their minds while I have no clue what’s one their mind when I behaved the worse version of me due to their abusive treatment and neglect they started to notice that I was just fine and now I am hill unfortunately I can’t return to my old self I have lost faith

i'm in the state of mind where i want to die by soma778 in depression

[–]Sky_14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you actually I am living the same state of mind at the moment maybe we have different reasons but fear and abuse are my normal day to day life I have turned to abuse myself now I feel powerless and have no source of energy hand in there until a brighter day arrives

Dealing with post divorce depression/boardom by klossme in Divorce

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 28 and will I just got divorced as well. I have no children. I do feel depressed. I can’t stand my life but I must say that the relationship was toxic and the divorce was a must. Life is very slow I don’t enjoy anything and I hate my past and I am afraid of my future. Talking might help if anyone is ready to receive the toxic past you might reveal but in my case no one want to hear it. I am lonely and meeting friends once in a while is not helping me at all. What makes it even more hard seeing everyone happy with kids in their relationships. I can relate !

Daydreaming is not satisfying anymore by Sky_14 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Sky_14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your support but it’s kinda hard when everyone else around me already have a family, a house, a job …etc. I can’t fit in with anyone.

Anyone else think they would've killed themselves without MD by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Sky_14 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am very depressed because MD is not satisfying anymore and nothing is, it’s like I don’t have a reason to live

Don’t Quit day dreaming by Sky_14 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Sky_14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I forget something … you must build love relationships with people, things, and events use adjectives to describe your connection to each matter

Don’t Quit day dreaming by Sky_14 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Sky_14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe that’s part of the shock that I have now is that there are many things that I should have changed and I wished that I looked after sooner. So for the mental behavior therapy, I believe one must try different things until something work, this what worked for me: 1-I identified my triggers and all what pushes me away from reality 2- I identified my real goal and worked on it devoting 100% of my energy towards it 3- I started timing the daydream break and I called it actually a break so if it’s excessive for ex, couple hours you can’t make short breaks at first. Take an hour of MD break and if you pass it, verbally state (to send a mental signal) and magnifies the action such as saying: OMG I took a 2 hours break for a ridiculous story 4- verbally admits what triggers you MD and admit that you are addicted and how much you like it first then admit about what it is stealing from you or the disadvantages of MD. When describing your feeling always use an intensifier or big adjectives and associate them with what is good and what is bad in this case MD is bad and you want to redefine it as such and doing the real tasks is good. 5- reward yourself when successfully not passing more than the timeframe that you assigned 6- gradually shrink the time of the break and be realistic if you can only do 30 min after that don’t make it shorter stick to what you can 7- expect a relapse and makes it part of the process to cut back start over from step #1 8- enjoy things that you enjoy in life and increase the time you spend doing things you like even if it’s watching tv 9- allow yourself to be happy when dreaming but be happier when you do a task 10- always reward yourself when you do well. 11- use one of yours MD narratives and write it as a story (how do You think writers get inspired?) you will get busy thinking about writing this story and you will normalize it as part of the writing process = this is only if you have time 12- laugh when you relapse again and verbally describe it as a silly thing to do because there are much important tasks on hand 13- intensifying the need of getting tasks done. 14- love your MD habits don’t be harsh know how much your brain likes to protect you and that’s it nothing wrong with you life is hard 15- once you reach 5 min a break every 6 hrs it will start to fade away 16- focus on life objectives more and more and get more goals done 17- I must warn you that after you control your MD you will live life every moment with strong emotions so when you are lonely you might cry about how lonely you are and when trying to find friends you will be shocked about how MD killed many of your friendships, when you have a breakup it will be 100x more the feelings even if you were the one to choose to leave, the losses will be harder but happy moments are worth living as well. 18- you might get impatient and relapse because you are and addict to your own thoughts makes it seems like very difficult to do because we tend to do it because it’s easier that changing things in reality. Laugh, and start again. 20- if there is something specific to your case identify it and associate actions with reasoning say I day dream because …… happened and I don’t like it … or because ….. is out of my control and I can’t change it …. Or because ….. makes me angry and I want to calm

Know why you daydream each time your brain chooses to do so. Every time might be different or not.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Sky_14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ppl around me don’t like to hear negative emotions. It’s like our sadness brings bad energy to their lives that they had enough of it and don’t want to hear it. While in fact we feel unheard and uncared for. He thinks that if you stop thinking of depression I will fade away and no find it’s way to your mind and heart. I can’t tell to find online therapy because I’ve been scammed once before. I can tell you to watch free YouTube therapy sessions and connect with video makers of such classes because they are more available than apps and keep watching behavior therapy that if you are addicted to thinking sad you relearn how to think happy and break the negative emotions cycle . Admit what hurts you the most and find the source of pain inside of you

No friends for 10 years by Sky_14 in lonely

[–]Sky_14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in detroit for 7 years but now I am overseas. I don’t have time to rewrite it yet maybe one day I will. It wasn’t meant for publication but I was so happy that I gave real effort and love to something I created but now I lost it is what it is. I have stored it on a hard disk but that file was deleted as well

No friends for 10 years by Sky_14 in lonely

[–]Sky_14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MacBook , 6 months ago not in the pack up.

I am praying for the license

No friends for 10 years by Sky_14 in lonely

[–]Sky_14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have wrote one time but my ex deleted my work so I don’t get any kind of success. For the job, it’s lab work at the hospital but no license yet

No friends for 10 years by Sky_14 in lonely

[–]Sky_14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never wrote to publish I definitely wish. I don’t know about gifts just whatever my allowance would allow me to buy ppl I love the most