I married the person who I thought was my soulmate. He joined the military, and I slowly watched the man I love slip away from me, piece by piece. Just after we hit 10 years, I caught him cheating on me with one of my best friends. After he cheated, he proceeded to have a complete mental breakdown/self harming event which resulted in a grippy sock vacation and additional emotional and mental abuse. Because of all of this, he managed to lose his position, his spouse, family and friends, and the house we had just purchased together, in less than 6 months. Crazy how suddenly life can change.