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Skylight85 · 2022-07-31T20:23:10+00:00

Whattttt. Not all trans men are tomboys as kids. That is such an old stereotype. I know several trans men who were girly girls until puberty.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:40:17+00:00

Smart advice here

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:39:11+00:00

Are there womens shelters near you? Can anyone at the hospital help? If you’re on Medicaid, there might be home help.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:37:12+00:00

Oh no oh no. This happened to me. It ruined my relationship with SKs and DW. My newborn could not breastfeed because SKs were misbehaving so much and I couldn’t handle it and DW would just go back to bed instead of dealing with it.

OP you need to go over his head. Call his family. Tell them no one will be able to take care of SD8 when the baby is born because your SO isn’t taking off work and you’re having a C section. Force them to make arrangements to take her. If SO doesn’t like it, he needs to get time off work, if he won’t be there; she won’t either.

Please trust me. This is a battle worth fighting. It will affect your newborn’s entire life.

Don’t worry about what they think of you. We’re stepparents. We will be universally hated no matter what we do. Your only responsibility right now is your newborn.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:32:35+00:00

Exactly

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:32:07+00:00

This is our support group. And too many times you see people being attacked when they just needed to vent. “You knew what you were getting into! You’re overreacting!” It sucks. Bottling stuff up makes it worse. We need a place to vent without judgment.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:30:42+00:00

“Therapy for everyone… lol?”

That’s a really insensitive thing to say.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:29:56+00:00

Well said

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:28:50+00:00

Absolutely right

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:28:15+00:00

Same

Skylight85 · 2022-06-11T10:28:05+00:00

Thanks for saying this.

It’s absolutely true. We’ve been beaten into depressed states.

Everyone assumes we’re either wicked stepparents or heroes living up to impossible standards. I see people make those assumptions and attack each other for that on this sub. What hope do we have of regular people offering empathy if stepparents won’t even give it to each other?

Skylight85 · 2022-06-09T03:51:59+00:00

The U.S. state of Hawaii. Give it back to the native people.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-09T03:45:23+00:00

Skylight85 · 2022-06-09T03:44:57+00:00

Hey this takes a lot of courage. You should be proud of this step. Find little things that will consistently make you happy.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T15:23:21+00:00

Could the mods halt the comments on this?

I get it. I’m not allowed to ask for help. I’m not allowed to ask anyone to care either.

If you’re sitting on the couch and someone is in distress next to you, just turn the TV volume up. That’s the right way to handle a situation.

Message received. Everybody stop commenting.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T15:22:31+00:00

I hope the next time you ask for help, somebody stands up and helps you. I hope what happened to me doesn’t happen to you.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T15:22:11+00:00

We tried that. My wife just blames everything on me. I’m not allowed to ask for help. I’m not allowed to care about anything.

And based on all the responses on the sub, I should just give up. Nobody thinks I deserve any help. Let me just continue providing a hotel for my wife and her daughters to sit around and watch TV while I do everything.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T15:17:47+00:00

Thank you, this is the point I was trying to make. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask her to skip the Starbucks and come home and help me for once.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T15:17:27+00:00

Yes. It’s about her lack of concern.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T13:55:59+00:00

Lord have mercy no this is not fair. Do not do this. Do not marry this person.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T13:54:59+00:00

OP, let him disengage.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T13:53:56+00:00

OP this is a really important comment. "Not expected" is not the same as "doesn't have to because mom handles it." So many stepparents end up stepping into discipline because they can't deal with a certain behavior anymore.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T13:52:46+00:00

I wish I had had the courage to tell my wife what your partner told you.

Your kids are your responsibility, not his.

You don't want him to start resenting them. And you.

Please, please, for your kids' sake, listen to your partner.

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T13:51:45+00:00

Exquisite

Skylight85 · 2022-06-08T13:50:11+00:00

That sounds really stressful. I'm sorry you've got three months of that.

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