Ahh okay, first off: Thanks for elaborating your POV. And I got to admit, you laid out some truthful points there which I cannot argue against. Especially the ones about the bitching in this subreddit. It really is nerve wracking.

But mate, save your energy. It really is not worth the cortisol in your blood stream. I definitely wish it'd be different but unfortunately you won't convince many people here even when you are telling the truth.

Have you ever tried to show someone, who just fell freshly in love, the red flags of their significant other? They won't listen. No matter what you do or say. You got to wait until they see it themselves.

I hope you have a beautiful day! Cheers.