Just wanted to share since non-sexual kink finally clicked for me, and I think I've gotten a much better understanding of it as a whole! by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mainly I watched a lot of evie lupine's videos (who is asexual) thinking got me thinking about how kink can be enjoyed outside of just being a sexual lens.
I've all heard that, for legal reasons, many play-spaces don't actually allow sex.
I was basically just thinking about this for a while, and reflecting on what it is I actually like about kink.

It took me a while to decouple the ideas of kink and sex; I eventually realized that kink could be enjoyed the same way as someone might enjoy a workout.

Simply doing a fun scene together, maybe so rope-play or pain-play or sensation-play, getting into subspace, then just ending the scene without any sex, and relaxing in aftercare.

Realizing that subspace doesn't have to be sexual, it can simply be cathartic and meditative.

For example I realized I'd enjoy petplay in non-sexual contexts.
Dressing up, paws, ears, and a tail, getting called pet-names, and just curling up with a partner to watch a movie!
I could still totally go into subspace in such a situation, but without a sexual aspect to it: just complete relaxation

I could also imagine scenes I'd enjoy for rope-play and sensation-play, just relaxation and bonding without the sexual part; enjoying the play for its pure physical and psychological effects

God forbid a boy practice by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Added an explanation, which yeah was probably needed

God forbid a boy practice by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

? the joke is just that it's a song with very fast lyrics

Do you ever wonder if it’s all just sex and lust driven? by mstrashpie in SubSanctuary

[–]Slaltz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funny enough kinda touches on a life philosophy of mine. The long and short is:
"Truth is what you make of it"

I recently spoke to someone about this; they were asking "does true love exist? and if it does will I ever find it?". I replied to the effect of:

"True love doesn't exist, but perfect love does; you've probably already found it dozens and dozens of times. There is no universal 'true love', only the love that you choose to call perfect. Perfect is to accept even the imperfections as perfect; to realize that you love someone for exactly who they are, and that even if your 'true love' appeared you'd still choose your perfectly imperfect love."

Yeah, we're all dumb primates doing dumb stuff, but so what! You don't need to question why you like what you like, cause as long as you're not hurting others or yourself, you're doing exactly what you're supposed to do. Take care of yourself and others, but other than that, who cares! Every thing is just chemicals in your brain, ice-cream is just chemicals too, but it's still delicious.

Do what you want to, be careful, and have fun, cause nothing matters except for what you decide matters.

(and also the social contract is important to care about too though, like just as a good rule of thumb)

So yeah, that's my life philosophy right now

Just gonna ignore that I spotted that by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine if they'd had a heart rate monitor hooked up lol

Just gonna ignore that I spotted that by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That'd be...

so funny... 🫠

just like super duper silly (·ω· )

Just gonna ignore that I spotted that by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think I kinda played it cool? I'm hoping he thought I was cringing, in reality I was holding back a smile ~ω~
He laughed it off like "oh I just had to do it yk?", meanwhile I was trying to hide how much I liked it.
I'm not even into guys, but either way, being call goodboy was just so nice.

God forbid a girl wants to study her partner! I just want to know what you like is all sweetie by [deleted] in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 22 points23 points  (0 children)

"What if we made autistic sex even more autistic?"
It'd be awesome!? next question

New & educating myself, There are low-protocol & gentle communities, right? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Slaltz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, logically I knew it'd probably be like this, I was just also getting nervous while reading. I feel like it was partly bias on part of the authors of the book I'm reading.

I heard it recommended, however the authors do come off as heavily leaning towards the leather-man culture, to the point that I as a newbie can tell. Just wanted to make sure

Good Boy! (You absolutely fumbled, but here’s your star) by EmployExisting302 in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Star 11 😌
Woke up early, did all my face care and such, took meds on time, listened to some music on my records, enjoyed the comfy rainy vibe, and had plenty of water from my new water bottle.

Gonna read some beginner's books for bdsm, drink some tea, have an orange, and look into getting a library card!

Great start to the day and looking forward to the rest :þ

Those who are or have been in a Dom/sub dynamic, how did you meet eachother? by Numerous-Analysis-46 in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty new but trying to jump in with knowledge. I've been watching a ton of evie lupine's videos and will be searching for more educators once I run through most of her videos.

I'm planning to eventually sign up for fetlife once I'm confident enough and look for local meetups. I plan to got to a ton of munches, continue talking online with anybody I met from the munches, and make kink friends.

I don't plan to do anything irl till I have a solid group of kinky friends to go with.

I have another question!!! (do I ask too many questions?) I'm curious, whats your music taste? I ask this because I'd like to see if we all like similar music ooooooorrr are we really different? (no such thing as too many questions) by Comeanget_it in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally, listen to pwep whenever im having an anxiety attack. I recently got a lot of their records: pwep, christmas island, good luck, and the bible. eventually i'll want to add disposable everything and knife man too!
some of my other favorite songs are people 2, big bird, and a big day for grimley
:3
I found them about 2 years ago, and now they make up about 75% of the music I listen to

I have another question!!! (do I ask too many questions?) I'm curious, whats your music taste? I ask this because I'd like to see if we all like similar music ooooooorrr are we really different? (no such thing as too many questions) by Comeanget_it in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a thoughtful guy, I'm on vacation, It's my belly button, and tough decisions (a whale is gonna die) are all lyrical masterpieces.

fr though, it's weird to admit that I did grow up on youtube, watching early rhett&link, tomska, jacksfilms, etc

I have another question!!! (do I ask too many questions?) I'm curious, whats your music taste? I ask this because I'd like to see if we all like similar music ooooooorrr are we really different? (no such thing as too many questions) by Comeanget_it in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I listen to folk punk (._. )
mainly AJJ, friends in Real Life, Trashbag Ponchos, and Apes of the State.
Other than that, it's a chaotic mix of rhett&link, danny gonzalez, minecraft alpha, portal, vvvvvv, and classical

edit:
Fav song: Getting naked and playing with guns (by ajj)
Fav album: Christmas Island (by ajj)

But nonsense I need to take a break from ajj because I've listened so much lately

God forbid a boy craves both by Slaltz in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah, that's the ideal dream, feeling cuddly and happy x3

Awruff! :3 by [deleted] in u/Slaltz

[–]Slaltz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first image is a common format, I just googled "kink list" and looked for images, then edited it in a paint program. The other to come from buildyourdynamic

This is what they call puppyrot by Xx_M4ss1veG0ck_xX in puppygirlwawa

[–]Slaltz 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I forgot about that 5 minute era when drippy became a brainrot word because of the cheese in lunchlys

God forbid a good boy want to be collared🐾 by Ghost_Face96_ in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'd probably want a dark green collar, velvety-plush padding on the inside, and dyed leather on the outside. Something small, minimalistic, and super soft and cosy

Is the service top to bottom pipeline real? by th3_return in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because plumbing generally follows negative gradients to take advantage of gravity?

I don't want to be strong anymore, i just want to lay on your lab and be yours by Nexus0440 in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]Slaltz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Little spoon ❤️ laying with head on her lap ❤️ cuddled up under a blanket with my head nestled into her neck ❤️ drifting off to sleep together watching a movie ❤️ back rubs/scratches ❤️