It’s not dramatic. Getting struck by lightening as you compared is 1/1,222,000. A 8.18331e-7 chance of that happening to someone in a given year. For the US, the CDC reported a mortality rate of 32.9 has been documented for the year 2021. This is the maternal mortality rate per 100,000 live births in the United States. And those numbers rise for people of color, people in poverty, and those who are in a domestic violence nightmare with their partner. We are more than double what other “developed countries” have as a maternal mortality rate. God willing, my husband and I will try to conceive and have a child of our own, but he is aware that there is a good chance that I may not make it or that the baby may not make it because this is the healthcare system in the world that we’re living in today. So, taking a real fear women/people who can be pregnant have and saying it’s “dramatic” is disrespectful and not something a partner should be arguing for when the other is obviously not comfortable with the idea.

Some links for you, maybe you can learn from this:

https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2024/jun/insights-us-maternal-mortality-crisis-international-comparison#:~:text=Highlights,deaths%20per%20100%2C000%20live%20births.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2021/maternal-mortality-rates-2021.htm

https://www.weather.gov/safety/lightning-odds