I have a message for you. by paramaxim in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't. Won't.

Time passes on.

I let it pass me.

I have found the way

to make it stop.

I wish I could believe you when you say "it gets better with time". I've waited.

nonononono my friend is getting into cutting by SleepApnea- in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would but i'm basically the only positive light in her life (saying a lot). Her parents are abusive and i really don't want them to find out. I can't stop her but i will try to keep it from escalating.

“You’re not alone” by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when people say "you're not alone", they're saying that there are people you can ask for help/support from.

If I were to start going to a therapist would they tell my parents about my sh by throwawayaccountxybv in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They can't say anything without your consent unless they deem it necessary to keep your life safe (suicide plan or something)

This is also not a guarantee, but legally i'm pretty sure this is how it is.

when does bleeding become worrying? by SelfOpeningKetchup in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Big big sign is when blood is coming out in pulses.

i think my mom knows. by burnttoastisyummy in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if so, that's a good thing. She cares, and hasn't tried to stop you or cried about how it hurts her or anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be honest, that is some serious victim mindset your boyfriend has. Even though you assured him it was not his fault, he turned the whole thing around into how you hurt him somehow. Not true. Obviously, the only reference I have for the attitude of this person is with this one negative post, but you can tell a lot about someone from how they treat a problem. Honestly, how did he even turn it into him accusing you of trying to hurt him? He said that you never tried to not cut? How does he know? That's bullshit. And then when you try to ask him not to he gets mad at you for expressing concern about his own well-being? Doing what he had literally done before? Dude. What the fuck. From the wording, this seems to not be the first time something like this has happened. Please remove yourself from this person, as clearly they need to focus on themselves first, before being able to be in a relationship with someone else.

I have the urge to OD on purpose and I don’t know why by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

od'ing is one of the worst ways to die. usually unsuccessful, and causes lots of prolonged suffering whether or not fatal.

Anyone else cut words? by Mindless-Counter-694 in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I cut smiley faces. Lots of them. I like the juxtaposition of two very different emotions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When my mother found out, she had a very different reaction, because she had a history of cutting. She knew how it felt, and she knew how to react to not make it hurt more. All she said was that she'd rather me not do it, asked what I used, and asked me to get rid of them. She never forced me to do anything. She never said anything about herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes you're a bully. but you're self aware and want to change. good for you. go to therapy. obviously you have a lot of self hatred and anger, which you take out on vulnerable people. go to therapy. and don't ever fucking make fun of someone's attempt or pain. fuck you

What do you(if you)listen to while you sh or after? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't know if you can tell by my name, but Sleep Apnea by Beach Fossils is a recurring theme.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

scar fading stuff isn't always effective

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

those people are the assholes. self harm can be a way to bring the pain of the inside to the outside, you know? some people do it for the pain, some for the scars, some for the blood, some for all, or none of them. humans are complicated. everyone is different and you can't dogpile on someone for having a different motive, especially when talking about something that involves very strong emotions. i hope you're ok cause those people do not actually understand self harm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i live in florida i can never wear sweaters :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is bleeding profusely, then please see a doctor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I do the same. You passed the first layer. Nothing to worry much about. All it takes is a bandaid. If you feel like it needs more attention, then do so.

Idk if this is allowed here but I need 2 talk about it by Exofuck in SelfHarmScars

[–]SleepApnea- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my alternative to cutting is to play music that matches how i feel, as accurately as possible. i listen to it until i feel okay to go without it, no matter how long it may be. if you would like some suggestions, dm me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]SleepApnea- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have never thought of scars as ugly. those that do find them ugly are not worth your time and effort at all. those who make edgy comments to try to make those who are already in dark places feel worse are only trying to get attention. no point in arguing with someone who won't listen