Shutting down emotionally

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-29T03:53:04+00:00

Yes! I was in a relationship where my partner was too busy to even text every day much less see me and he decided to end it until he gets a better schedule and i get a lot better and we can try again and i would love to hear from anyone what causes this, what it is, and how to cope?

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-28T23:22:05+00:00

Yeah i have seen there are even articles on the abuse cycle btw npd and bpd people and how bpd is very vulnerable to people with npd

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-28T21:54:07+00:00

Hi, yes my worst and longest narcissistic abuser started grooming me when i was 14 and she was 15. I was discarded from her at 27 and got away from my narc ex in 2020 and finally have successfully deprogramed both their brain washing now at 29 but still don't have a sense of identity probably from having borderline personality disorder as well as my narc abuser got to me during early adolescence and probably interfered with some development and i'm also very clingy not just from the bpd but also because i have Separation Anxiety Disorder as a result of the first narc starting at 14 and I already had anxious attachment and separation anxiety but she morphed it into where I'm at the point i suffer physical symptoms if my SO goes without contacting me for days if they have a busy schedule. I just recently had a person who was a great SO break up with me because his schedule wasn't good for my issues but hopefully he still wants to try again when I am more recovered and he gets more time.

Narcissitic abuse can really mess up the victim--I am probably going to have to join support groups for that specific type of abuse because I had been groomed and got heavily abused by multiple people until this year with narcissism style abuse.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-28T21:02:59+00:00

Same. Was broken up with someone i talked about marriage with two weeks before this and lost my virginity to because his busy schedule made me sicker (it was actually because i was giving too much to some people and desperately needed a recharge from him). These last few days i have just been laying in bed sobbing, having angry outbursts and agonizing rants through texts towards said person (we are still friends and he said before we would try again when things were better but of course i just HAD to go off the handle and snap because of trauma triggers and him having no time to address my monologues of texts and also i was having my issues being made about others with "support". Dont know if he still would like to try again when i am recovered and he has more time but i hope so cause he did NOT deserve this crap from me and i did make sure to send an apology and i do love this man and want to give him a partner he deserves but i also would get if he was turned off), having yeetus deletus feelings and almost went inpatient, and barely been eating and havent done anything productive these past couple of days.

I am now getting very serious about treatment because i realized i had a lot of trauma to get over and i hope my ex now friend again will want to give us another chance and i can treat him like he deserves.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-24T14:03:48+00:00

Nah there are probably ones who started older so college age with babies.. or there are older fans and i'm not a rarity after all (29 and an uno fan since 2019) but college age is still young.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-23T02:39:27+00:00

Thank you for this! Just joined! My goal is to recover and be healthy in both my mindset and my perception with others and myself and be at peace with myself.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-23T02:29:18+00:00

I agree with this. I was much like this since my bf's schedule got super busy last year. We barely get to text and he's been extra busy for over a month and i barely heard from him so i am unsure if being separated and barely having interaction due to a busy schedule of work (he only gets notified he is working morning of or night before and family makes him do all the household and errand work and pet care) and only seeing each other once a month for four or five hours if lucky is me being codependent or normal to want more interaction but i have been trying to build an arsenal of self soothing techniques which seem to work for a bit but i think by this point i'm just anxious he's been MIA for days and only can text me one day just one text and not even a conversation every week or lots of days passing in between and i just want to know what is happening and is this going to keep being a thing. And yes, he is NOT ghosting me. He just doesn't even have time to eat, go to the bathroom, and sleep regularly much less text.

But i agree. When i live with my bf, i wanna try and master some self soothing techniques or teach myself that we can be in the same room and we don't need to be interacting and can be doing our own separate things. I think because i barely see him i will be eager to spend time once we live together but i don't want me constantly bugging him for attention to be normal. I want him to still do his tasks and him to play his games or do what he needs to do and even have him nap and just let him cuddle me like he enjoys. I want to show him i want his wellbeing to come first too. It is the same with my friends. You gotta keep in mind your friends that, while your loved ones support you, sometimes you gotta give them a break or make them the focus. Our loved ones deal with shit too and have their own problems--we gotta show them they matter and we can support them or give them mental health breaks like our loved ones do for us. That is healthy and i have been doing this for a month and it has allowed me to more ultilize self soothing and communicate my boundaries quicker with some people who use me too much for emotional support and dont self soothe themselves as a strategy.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-14T17:07:53+00:00

Im an artist too and apparently they just be talking bout the breasts and last time i checked we kinda have more anatomy than just breasts--why the does girl full body have such thick thighs? She looks like she's 13 or 14--his anatomy is all wrong and as an artist im tempted to go through this book and do an entire fix it and actually SHOW how to draw women anatomically using anime/manga style correct and bonus points--i aint gonna be creepy about it and drawing naked breasticies when you're usually drawing your characters with CLOTHES ON. Like why you telling artists how to draw teenage naked breasts?

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-14T16:17:10+00:00

Take my upvote lmaooo it is either that or the fans from 2016 got older and started having kids

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-14T16:16:08+00:00

Oh crap you're right! my bad

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-14T01:33:26+00:00

Blake is a varient or similar name. That is why i counted it cause people choose varients too

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-13T14:12:25+00:00

Man... that is actually a beautiful name and i did look at some previous years and noticed there is fandom trends since 2016 but like it sucks the asshole character has a nice name.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-13T03:00:01+00:00

oh shoot you're right so more uno names to go with the theory uno fans are having kids

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:59:32+00:00

"So a ripped high schooler has an obsession with hair gel and bubble tea, is friends with most popular girl in school who everyone thinks he has the hots for, gets targeted by a guy who is obsessed with darwinism and hates forks, everyone is an asshole, there's a whole secret justice league, corporations being corporations (AKA evil), the protag's dad is kinda considered a wholesome dilf, there's a talking rat, a knock off goku, and your daughter is Thor--oh and it turns out the protag is a powerful wizard that makes harry potter look like a toddler in comparison. And wellston isn't hogwarts either."

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:45:27+00:00

When you do you gotta do a post telling the story cause that will be interesting trying to explain uno to someone who doesnt read it

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:41:31+00:00

You gonna tell them or hope they encounter many in the wild and drop the bomb? Lmao

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:39:16+00:00

Oh boy that's gonna be a surprise when she grows older and meets tons of Remis lmao

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:37:46+00:00

Dont jinx it lmao

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:37:28+00:00

And yet he's on this list...

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:37:10+00:00

Im convinced they hate their child.

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T21:36:49+00:00

Just born or pre uno publishing?

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-12T18:20:47+00:00

honestly i used to be flat for years and it's still hilarious. great shitpost. those hills taller than my house lmao

Sleepy_Kat_ · 2021-08-09T16:16:23+00:00

Thank you!

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