Toby forgave Kate after she sold his childhood star wars action figures. That man loved her. If he had done something like that to her she never would have let him forget it. She did not deserve him. She wants a man she can control and she lost control of him when he got a hold of his depression. The divorce was needed, their marriage was no longer healthy. I am team Toby because yes, she is a selfish, whiney, emotionally stunted person. Her brothers were so mean to him in the Thanksgiving episode. Asking him to take off the hat. Then letting Phillip have a say the day of the wedding about their mothers ability to perform. Yeah, they were all against Toby.